How will I know if I am sexually compatible with someone if I don’t have sex BEFORE marriage?
I hate this:
Really?! You’re going to compare yourself to a car? You’re a human being, not a frickin’ car!! Anyway, it doesn’t stop people from asking the question though, so I’m going to answer it.
In short, you will know by trusting God. In detail? Well, here goes:
God created us in His image: male and female. (Genesis 1:27) He knows all about how the bodies are to fit together. He knows the shape and size of each penis He’s ever created and He knows all about each vagina He’s ever shaped and formed. He knows how we think, what we think and all our ways. (Psalms 139:1-4) He knows us better than we know ourselves. God also knows about sex, after all He created it which means He also knows why He created it!! Sex was created for marriage and the very first sex act was between Adam and Eve, husband and wife. (Genesis 4:1)
Even more so, God created Eve without the help, opinions or input from Adam, he was asleep. (Genesis 2:21) Once God was finished creating Eve, He brought Eve to Adam. (Genesis 2:22) Now, once Eve was presented to Adam by God, Adam fully accepted her as his wife, bone of his bones, flesh of his flesh. (Genesis 2:23) Note, when Eve was presented to Adam, Adam didn’t say to God, “God let me take her for a test drive to make sure she can satisfy me sexually. Let me make sure she is right for me, because if she isn’t then you’re going to have to try again!” No!! Adam trusted God, Adam trusted the fact that God had made a helper suitable for him in EVERY way! (Genesis 2:20b emphasis mine)
If you will place all your trust in God, you won’t have to give yourself over to guy after guy, tying your soul with them, being hurt by them and each time, giving away a piece of yourself! This is NOT GOD’s WAY!! You are not to be test driven as a car! You are the daughter of a King! He wants to give you the desires of your heart but you must put your trust and faith in Him and WAIT! God is still molding and shaping you into an awesome wife for one of His son’s one day and He doesn’t need man’s approval! The man that God presents you to will have His stamp of approval and you can guarantee that God will make sure that His daughter will be be satisfied! You will be satisfied and so will your future Hubby. You can’t go wrong doing things God’s way. He has all the bases covered. He will give you exactly what you need but you have to trust Him.
Be blessed & encouraged,
Did an interview with the awesome Uniqueka of The Praise Rapport about Savin’ it for Hubby. She has dubbed this interview as “Sunday School Meets Sex Ed”. Check it out!!
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Get your Bibles out!!
Amplified Bible (AMP)
16 Moreover, the Lord said, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty and walk with outstretched necks and with undisciplined (flirtatious and alluring) eyes, tripping along with mincing and affected gait, and making a tinkling noise with [the anklets on] their feet,
17 Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the heads of the daughters of Zion [making them bald], and the Lord will cause them to be [taken as captives and to suffer the indignity of being] stripped naked.
18 In that day the Lord will take away the finery of their tinkling anklets, the caps of network, the crescent head ornaments,
19 The pendants, the bracelets or chains, and the spangled face veils and scarfs,
20 The headbands, the short ankle chains [attached from one foot to the other to insure a measured gait], the sashes, the perfume boxes, the amulets or charms [suspended from the ears or neck],
21 The signet rings and nose rings,
22 The festal robes, the cloaks, the stoles and shawls, and the handbags,
23 The hand mirrors, the fine linen [undergarments], the turbans, and the [whole body-enveloping] veils.
24 And it shall come to pass that instead of the sweet odor of spices there shall be the stench of rottenness; and instead of a girdle, a rope; and instead of well-set hair, baldness; and instead of a rich robe, a girding of sackcloth; and searing [of captives by the scorching heat] instead of beauty.
25 Your men shall fall by the sword, and your mighty men in battle.
26 And [Jerusalem’s] gates shall lament and mourn [as those who wail for the dead]; and she, being ruined and desolate, shall sit upon the ground.
4 And in that day [a]seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread and provide our own apparel; only let us be called by your name to take away our reproach [of being unmarried].
I could spend some time on what’s happening before these verses but I feel that the verses themselves says enough! When I first read this, my mouth dropped open! This is so much of what we see in the world today concerning us ladies! We do love our jewelry, clothes, getting our hair and nails done, you know “taking care of ourselves”. But, are we really taking care of ourselves or are we trying to cover something up? Yes, we want to look good but if we take a look around and then really take a look at ourselves, we have to ask what’s really going on with us women? Is the shopping for these things excessive? Are you living beyond your means in trying to keep up with the latest fashions? Why so many “things”?
In this passage, what’ strikes me most is that God has us pegged! Look, right down to the way that we walk when we’re trying to get the attention of a nice looking man. The way we make eye contact with a guy, you know, that “I want you” look or that “look at me” look. What are we doing here? We’re seeking attention, right? Ok, attention from whom? Men! Not God’s attention, but the attention of men. There’s no limit these days to what a woman will do to get a man. All of which has nothing to do with glorifying God. All with the notion of getting a man, getting our needs met, or being affirmed because we didn’t get it from our fathers, the list is endless. But the problem is, we’re going about it the wrong way. We need Jesus! Not a man. Man can only do so much, only Jesus can fill that void that you’re trying to fill doing stuff that you’ll regret later!
Now, moving on to verse 17, God begins the process of stripping away “things”. Starting with the hair, His goal is to reveal and uncover the secret parts, to strip everything down, having nothing to hide behind. No fly hair-dos, no expensive clothing that the world says we have to have. No expensive jewelry, bags and purses, and other accessories; everything taken away. Now, lets look at what’s left. Take a look at your heart for a moment. What’s going on inside there? When all the make-up, jewelry, shoes, clothes, hair and bags are gone, what do you see? Are you happy with what you see? Are you at peace with yourself, with God? Are you trying to seek attention from men or are you trying to please God? Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying having these things are wrong, I’m saying that there’s something wrong if you’re trying to use them to hide something or to compensate for something that’s missing from your life. God loves us too much to let us go on trying to hide our hurts and hangups. Either we can lay our mess out before Him or He will strip it away, baring all our secrets. Laying our lives down before God isn’t punishment, although it may feel like it sometimes, it’s the first step to freedom. In placing our junk on the altar, our spirit is fighting with our flesh so there’s pain, but it’s what frees us.
Another verse that really sticks out to me is chapter 4 verse 1. According to the world, there seems to be timeline for marriage and kids. If you’re not married by say, age 30, forget about it and you can cancel having kids. There’s always a time limit, something to push anxiety. God says be anxious for nothing! (Philippians 4:6) The only timeline you need to worry about is God’s! He knows His plans for you (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust Him and stop trying to take matters into your own hand! Just because things don’t happen when you want in the way you want doesn’t give you the right to go and try to force things to happen especially when it’s outside of the will of God. Impatiences is what gets so many people in so much trouble! You can’t find a good man marry you and have kids with so you marry the first decent man that comes along and all the while you know that he is not the one God has for you but you marry him anyway and end up in the most miserable marriage ever! Or, you decide that you don’t want to wait for a man because your biological clock is ticking and you’re getting old and you want to have babies now so you go out and get pregnant by some random guy that you claim that you don’t need because you’re Ms. Independent and don’t need a man; but what about that child? You lower your standards just for the sake of saying you have a man, or you’re in a marriage that shouldn’t have happened in the first place but you refused to listen to wisdom and you just accept your life of misery. You compromise, yes, you know he’s cheating on you but, at least you can say you have someone or that you can say, you’re married yet you wear the pain of disobedience all over your body. You’re not fooling anyone and you’re definitely not fooling God. He sees all your junk and guess what? He’s not mad at you, He’s hurting for you. Yes, for you. This is why He sent Jesus.
Read the Bible, and stop watching these crappy reality shows! It’s not real! The majority of this mess is scripted! God has so much more for you! Take a moment tonight and strip yourself down and really look at yourself. Get your journal or kneel before God or however or whatever it takes, and lay your junk down. He tells us to cast all our cares on Him because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:6-8). Don’t try to cover it up or fix, embrace who you are and lay it all at His feet and DON’T PICK IT BACK UP!! Leave it there!
So, what is important to God, you ask?
Amplified Bible (AMP)
3 Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] [a]interweaving andknotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;
4 But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God.
What’s inside of you is what’s important to God. He looks at our hearts (1 Samuel 16:7). Spend time learning all you can about the Lover of your soul. Read His word and see what He says about you. Then, get rid of what the world says and the negative things that you say about yourself and embrace all that you were created to be. Then, when the time is right, God will bring you to your Adam (Genesis 2:22).
Be blessed & encouraged,
New King James Version (NKJV)
22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
Great Article!! Remember that God brought Eve to Adam, but only after God was done molding and shaping her…
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Soul ties are real! They are dangerous and will destroy your life! I know because I’ve been there! They are not easy to get rid of and you definitely can break free without the Blood of Jesus Christ!!
I found this awesome article on soul ties and it’s broken down so that you can’t misunderstand anything. I pray that this blesses you and helps you understand what’s going on in your life if you’re experiencing any of the indicators mentioned. God wants what’s best for us but we have to be willing to obey Him! Click link below.
Be blessed & encouraged!
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
We are God’s daughters, princesses, His babies. When God created woman, He took His time. He put Adam to sleep, so God was fully committed and devoted to the process of designing and creating us as the angels watched in awe. He didn’t create us from the opinions, thoughts or inputs from man.
God created and designed us with the miraculous ability to bring forth life, He created us with great abilities and an amazing capacity to love. He gave us beautiful features and precious emotions, fashioned after His own.
Then, once He was done, He presented the woman to the man and the man was pleased with what he saw. Just as God created her naked, beautiful and unashamed. There was no makeup, no weight to be gained or lost, no nipping or tucking. Nothing to change or remove, just total awe and acceptance just the was she was given to him, directly from God. We are a gift created by God, given to man. We should carry and treat ourselves as such. There were no distractions or interruptions, no mistakes when God was creating, molding and designing us beautiful women. So don’t you dare look at yourself as a mistake, a screw up, ugly, pitiful charity case who should be glad that you even got a person to look your way! God knew exactly what He was doing and all these negative thoughts are lies from the pit of hell!
Be blessed & encouraged,