SAVIN’ IT FOR HUBBY STORE
I pray that you all are well! I’m guest posting on my dear sister LaTanya Quinn’s blog for her ministry, LaTanya Quinn Ministries for a series called The Married and Single Series. You definitely want to check out the wisdom that has been shared thus far as well as the article written by yours truly - Attracting Adam. Praying you’re blessed and will draw closer to the lover of our souls!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Mark 1:23-24, 34
23 Suddenly, a man in the synagogue who was possessed by an evil[h] spirit began shouting, 24 “Why are you interfering with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are—the Holy One of God!”
25 Jesus cut him short. “Be quiet! Come out of the man,” he ordered. 26 At that, the evil spirit screamed, threw the man into a convulsion, and then came out of him.
34 So Jesus healed many people who were sick with various diseases, and he cast out many demons. But because the demons knew who he was, he did not allow them to speak.
So, I just started studying the book of Mark and just got an awesome but sobering revelation. In the above verses, Jesus has just arrived to Capernaum and on the Sabbath, being Jesus, shaking up all sorts of stuff, began teaching. But of course, when the Word is about to go forth, the enemy shows up in this man. Now, verse 24 grabs me, the demons inside the man knew who Jesus was AND they knew that Jesus had the power and ability to destroy them!!!!!!!!!!! They knew that Jesus is the Holy One of God! Why this has never stuck out to me like this before me is crazy but the demons knew who he was and knew what Jesus was capable of. The sobering fact is that we, humans created in the image of God, God’s children, co-heirs with Jesus Christ himself, don’t KNOW who Jesus is and we certainly don’t know His power, but the demons do! OMG! So this just further shows why the enemy works so hard at keeping us deceived! The less we know about the power of Jesus, the more Satan can deceive us, keep us in bondage, keep us in sin, addictions, afflictions, sickness, doubting and questioning the power of God and His existence! Just to show how much power Jesus has over the enemy, in verse 34, Jesus casts out the demons and then doesn’t allow them to speak because the demons know who Jesus is!!! JESUS HAS POWER OVER DEMONS! Rejoice in this! Whatever “demon” you have or are battling with, Jesus is greater! There is truly power in the name of Jesus, don’t ever forget that or let the enemy talk you out of believing that! At the name of Jesus, demons flee!! If the demons know who Jesus is, shouldn’t you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Be blessed & encouraged,
It’s back to school time and I know that some of you have children entering middle school/junior high, especially girls. I bet that some of you haven’t had “the talk” with them either, have you? If you haven’t talked to your daughter and told her God’s truth about sex then I suggest you do it NOW! Before she steps foot in her school. Do it before her little friends tell her lies and things that could get her into trouble.
I get it, it’s hard to think about telling your baby girl about sex, I have 2 little girls of my own. My oldest is 9 and yes, we’ve had the talk, on her level, of course. I wasn’t ready and I didn’t want to, but she was reading her Bible one day, Genesis, and she read about Adam having sexual relations with Eve. She asked what was sexual relations so I had to tell her, which I’m glad I did, because I was able to tell her the truth before anyone could come to her with lies.
I also realize that a lot of us have believed lies about sex all of our lives and it’s taken a while for us to get rid of the lies and embrace truth. The reality is that so many women still walk around believing lies and the lies follow them into their marriages and their marriages suffer and the women suffer. I know that I don’t want my daughters to go into their marriages with skewed views of sex so as they get older, I will reveal more truth and when they get married, they will be able to go into their marriages fully embracing and enjoying sex the way that God intended.
So, for those of you who are dreading “the talk” or don’t know where to start, I’m giving you a condensed list to start with. Maybe this list will help bring you into truth as well.
Truths About Sex:
1. Sex was created by God, as a gift for married couples; male and female. (Genesis 4:1)
2. Sex is beautiful when done in parameters which God set: marriage! (Hebrews 13:4)
3. Sex represents the intimate relationship that God wishes to have with us. (Song of Solomon)
4. Sex is meant to be like super glue for marriage, so if you’re having sex with someone you’re not married to, then guess what you’ve done? Glued yourself to some random guy!
5. Sex outside of marriage can be devastating. It has lasting emotional, psychological, spiritual and sometimes damaging physical consequences.
6. What happens to you now, sexually, can set the tone for your sexual relationship with your husband.
7. Sex creates soul ties. Each time you have sex, you tie your soul to someone else. Yes, you can be walking around with your soul still tied to your ex, ex, ex, ex boyfriend! Soul ties cannot be broken without God!
8. Sexual immorality is a form of devil worship.
9. Sex outside of marriage separates us from God and keeps us from His best for our lives. Sin separates and sexual immorality is sin and not pleasing to God.
10. SEX IS NOT NASTY! Do not tell your daughter that sex is nasty! She will grow up to be a woman who gets married and won’t be able to enjoy her husband all because she thinks that sex is nasty!
What we tell our young girls now about sex, shapes their future! If you have skewed views of sex, please seek healing. Don’t spread the lies to your daughter. Don’t be afraid to tell her about your mistakes either. Wouldn’t you rather she learned from your mistakes instead of her own especially concerning sex?
These are starting points that you can break down based on the age and maturity of your daughter. Pray before your talk and ask God for wisdom and guidance and don’t be afraid to say that you don’t know. Tell her what you do know and then for the answers you don’t have, you can go and find answers, truth, together. The world, the enemy, isn’t holding back or sugar coating and neither should we. Our kids are in the middle of war and we have to arm them with the truth. If we won’t tell them God’s truth, the enemy is ready and willing to fill them with his lies!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Hi! I’m in the process of publishing my first book, y’all pray for me! As I’m in the process of publishing the first one, I’ve started on the second one, which is fiction mixed with a little life truth, and thought I’d share a little teaser ;-)
…My God what have I done?! My life is a mess! My heart is a mess! The pain is unbearable. I can barely breathe! It hurts to breathe! I want to cry but the tears won’t come. How did this happen? When did this happen? Why did this happen? To me! Haven’t I gone through enough? The pain of seeing my mom throw her life away and kill herself with drugs and alcohol and now a painful, hurtful marriage! The entire marriage has been painful! God, my soul hurts, it aches. Words can’t describe the hurt and pain and disappointment, anger, frustration and hopelesness.
With you there’s always hope, right? I feel sick to my stomach with grief. Who am I? What do I do now? God I have begged you, pleaded, cried, prayed that you would take these feelings away. But you haven’t. Why have me continue to love someone I can never have and worst yet, he still loves me! He’s honored that I still love him, but my husband could care less about me! All he does is tear me down to nothing! He never misses a chance to remind me of my mistakes! As if he’s perfect and has never done anything wrong! My God will this pain ever stop?! What do I do now God? I don’t want to fail you. I don’t want to go to hell, I want to please you but how when I know you know what’s in my heart. Am I gonna go to hell for feeling this way? If only I’d truly known you sooner, if I ‘d been stronger, if I’d fought, fought for Gavin’s love. I told Evan it was over, it hurts too bad to love him, it’s painful loving him. He doesn’t know how to love me. He’s all about himself. There’s no we, just him. His wants, his needs.
God, I don’t know how much more of this emptiness I can take! How do I get out of this? I trust you Lord, now what do you want me to do? First Peter 3 is too hard and too painful to do. I don’t even know if I still want to be married or not. I just want this to be over. I still can’t breathe, how can I rest and sleep feeling like this? I don’t, I can’t talk to him, I don’t know what to say. Too much pain and he just doesn’t get it. He just can’t seem to understand me. Sometimes I wish I could press the reset button but then I wouldn’t have my children. I want to cry, maybe the pain will stop but I don’t want to wake the kids, the tears won’t come anyway.
This really is my life. This is a bunch of BS! I keep hoping that I’ll wake up from a bad dream. Who knew wanting and getting love and affection from your husband would be so hard! Holy Spirit and Jesus I hope you’re truly interceding for me now because I no longer know what to pray or ask for except for this pain to stop.
Now that I look back, the signs were all there, the warnings, the words of wisdom; I didn’t listen. Even the fights before the engagement, the sense of relief during our temporary break-up. Nope, I listened to Evan. “Have faith in me” he said. I was so stupid! Why in the world did I think that marriage would change things? Maybe because I knew nothing about marriage to begin with. I should have known something was wrong because I thought of Gavin on the day of our wedding. Who thinks of another man on her wedding day? Even our wedding night was awkward. The signs were all there yet I ignored them. And now I’m in the biggest mess of my life! Lord, please save me from myself….
So, what’cha think? Would you keep reading? This is my first time attempting fiction so be gentle :-). I shall continue writing! Until next time…
Be blessed & encouraged,
So, I’m doing the Proverbs challenge this month and this has been blessing me! Only on Day 7 but I’ve been getting so much out of the book of Proverbs and am excited for all that I’m going to learn as the days progress. What’s really stuck out to me is how much emphasis is put on wisdom and understanding. In Proverbs, wisdom and understanding are considered more valuable that gold, silver, rubies or anything you think you may desire! Talk about a change in perspective! The world tells us to go after the riches and wealth, but the Word of God tells us in all of our getting, get wisdom and understanding. Now, what has also jumped out at me is how much a son of God is warned about the immoral woman. I’m only on Day 7 and in Proverbs 5, 6 and all of 7 is dedicated to warning about the immoral woman.
Please see scriptures below:
Proverbs 5 (NLT)
My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
listen carefully to my wise counsel.
2 Then you will show discernment,
and your lips will express what you’ve learned.
3 For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
and her mouth is smoother than oil.
4 But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
as dangerous as a double-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 For she cares nothing about the path to life.
She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.
7 So now, my sons, listen to me.
Never stray from what I am about to say:
8 Stay away from her!
Don’t go near the door of her house!
9 If you do, you will lose your honor
and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
11 In the end you will groan in anguish
when disease consumes your body.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
13 Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?
14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin,
and now I must face public disgrace.”
15 Drink water from your own well—
share your love only with your wife.
16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
17 You should reserve it for yourselves.
Never share it with strangers.
18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?
Proverbs 6 (NLT)
21 For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
examining every path he takes.
22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
they are ropes that catch and hold him.
23 He will die for lack of self-control;
he will be lost because of his great foolishness.
24 It will keep you from the immoral woman,
from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman.
25 Don’t lust for her beauty.
Don’t let her coy glances seduce you.
26 For a prostitute will bring you to poverty,
but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life.
27 Can a man scoop a flame into his lap
and not have his clothes catch on fire?
28 Can he walk on hot coals
and not blister his feet?
29 So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife.
He who embraces her will not go unpunished.
30 Excuses might be found for a thief
who steals because he is starving.
31 But if he is caught, he must pay back seven times what he stole,
even if he has to sell everything in his house.
32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool,
for he destroys himself.
33 He will be wounded and disgraced.
His shame will never be erased.
34 For the woman’s jealous husband will be furious,
and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.
35 He will accept no compensation,
nor be satisfied with a payoff of any size.
Proverbs 7 NLT
Follow my advice, my son;
always treasure my commands.
2 Obey my commands and live!
Guard my instructions as you guard your own eyes.
3 Tie them on your fingers as a reminder.
Write them deep within your heart.
4 Love wisdom like a sister;
make insight a beloved member of your family.
5 Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman,
from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman.
6 While I was at the window of my house,
looking through the curtain,
7 I saw some naive young men,
and one in particular who lacked common sense.
8 He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman,
strolling down the path by her house.
9 It was at twilight, in the evening,
as deep darkness fell.
10 The woman approached him,
seductively dressed and sly of heart.
11 She was the brash, rebellious type,
never content to stay at home.
12 She is often in the streets and markets,
soliciting at every corner.
13 She threw her arms around him and kissed him,
and with a brazen look she said,
14 “I’ve just made my peace offerings
and fulfilled my vows.
15 You’re the one I was looking for!
I came out to find you, and here you are!
16 My bed is spread with beautiful blankets,
with colored sheets of Egyptian linen.
17 I’ve perfumed my bed
with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18 Come, let’s drink our fill of love until morning.
Let’s enjoy each other’s caresses,
19 for my husband is not home.
He’s away on a long trip.
20 He has taken a wallet full of money with him
and won’t return until later this month.”
21 So she seduced him with her pretty speech
and enticed him with her flattery.
22 He followed her at once,
like an ox going to the slaughter.
He was like a stag caught in a trap,
23 awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart.
He was like a bird flying into a snare,
little knowing it would cost him his life.
24 So listen to me, my sons,
and pay attention to my words.
25 Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her.
Don’t wander down her wayward path.
26 For she has been the ruin of many;
many men have been her victims.
27 Her house is the road to the grave.
Her bedroom is the den of death.
Yes, I posted the whole thing! Now, that you’ve gotten your Bible reading time in, I ask this question; Is this you? Are you the immoral woman that a son should be warned about? Are you going after a married man, hoping that you can fill whatever need his wife supposedly isn’t fulfilling and in turn, he will leave her for you? Are you the one who gets dressed in hopes of enticing a man, getting his attention and giving him all of your body, fulfilling his sexual desires, only for you both to be totally empty in the end? Is this your goal, to break your brother down to nothing, all so that you can feel as if you have power, purpose, meaning, significance? Are you the woman that parents are warning their sons about?
I understand wanting to look good. I know there’s tremendous pressure to be sexy by the world’s standards. Look at the TV shows: Pretty Little Liars, The Mistresses, reality TV shows that encourage this behavior. I see it and am very aware of it but we, women of God, are called to be the opposite! Being sexy is no where in the Bible. Being sexy is not a requirement of God! He warns his sons against a woman whose goal is basically to entice, conquer and ruin! If you’re trying to get a man this way, please stop, this is not what you want. A good, godly man is not looking for what he sees on TV. He’s looking for the woman described in 1 Peter 3:3-6 and Proverbs 31:10-31.
Basically, to sum it all up, going about getting a man this way is prostitution. Think about it, it’s the weekend and you put on the tightest, most revealing outfit you have and heels you can barely walk in and you go out seeking attention hoping that someone will buy you a drink, pay for your meal or show some sort of interest, face it, this is what prostitutes do. You might not have sex, but you’re still using your body to get what you want. This was not God’s plan for His precious daughters! We were meant to be protected, guarded, hidden. He loves us! He’s given us abilities that men will never have! He’s entrusted us with the gift of childbirth, which is us using our precious bodies to assist God in bringing new life into this world! Our bodies are remarkable, yet we treat them as if there nothing. We are not our own, if you profess to know Christ and love Him and He lives in you, this should not be you!
You can dress to impress without showing everything that God has given you and you certainly don’t want to repel the one that you’re looking for! There’s so many sites and YouTube channels that promote modesty and how to dress modestly yet fashionably. One of my mentees has an awesome YouTube channel that shares about purity and fashion. To check her out, click here. Learn to be yourself and be comfortable with who you are. Not trying to snag a man by how you look but learn to wait patiently with God, for God to bring you to your man, not someone else’s man, your man. Remember, these guys are your brothers in Christ, do you really want to be the cause of your brother falling? Our men have a huge battle to fight each and every day with the evils of this world, don’t add to his struggles.
It’s not too late to join in on the Proverbs challenge! You will surely be blessed!
Be blessed & encouraged,
I just came back from vacationing on a beautiful resort in Florida. Definitely a God thing! While there, we spent everyday poolside, just wonderful! I hadn’t spent this much time in a bathing suit since I was a kid, and even though I’ve lost some weight, I was just a little eency bit concerned about how I looked in my new bathing suit.
Most interesting was what I saw while there. I saw women of all ages, shapes, sizes and backgrounds in one-piece bathing suits and bikinis and as I observed, not one woman looked worried, concerned or bothered by what anyone else may have thought about them! Everyone seemed to be thoroughly enjoying themselves. I saw stretch marks, saggy bottoms and breasts, and cellulite worn with pride! I saw “normal” bodies! It was like an awakening because what I saw definitely didn’t match what I see everyday on TV. I’m not judging at all because I am a proud wearer of stretch marks myself but being in that surrounding and noticing the quiet confidence of the women around me, put me at greater ease and I was able to enjoy being in the pool with my daughters with no qualms at all. I’m only speaking of what I observed. These women may have had their own insecurities but they didn’t allow them to hinder their time with their families.
Not saying that I’m not confident in my own skin, but just being in a non-judgemental environment was freeing and awesome! Which leads me to think, what if everywhere we went, we felt this freedom from judgement about our looks and just felt accepted? There were some women there who had very fit bodies but it wasn’t the majority. While I know that this acceptance may never happen on this side of Heaven, we should, as women, accept our sisters and encourage one another. We don’t know the stories of our sisters, don’t know what they’ve been through or what they’ve had to endure. We’ve all been through or is going through something. After pregnancy, for most of us, not all body parts return to normal, we are not all a size 4-6, and most likely, we all have something that we dislike about our bodies. We need to stop comparing ourselves to each other and encourage, love and accept each other.
The time spent poolside also further proved to me that the way things are portrayed on TV are so totally messed up! The messages are extremely misleading, discouraging and unrealistic. Yet, we buy into them everyday. We think that we must look a certain way, act a certain way and have all these “things” in order to be accepted, but this isn’t true. God has already accepted us as good because He created us as good. He’s more concerned about our hearts than our outer appearance. You can be “beautiful” on the outside but ugly as heck on the inside!
Anyway, if you’re planning on wearing any type of swimwear this summer, don’t forget about modesty, wear it proudly and show your sister some love and grace!
Be blessed & encouraged,