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Of Highest Regard

Bracelet pure messgaeHi!! So in the next 4 days of the Scripture Writing Plan, we’re taking a little trip to the Old Testament.  I included these scriptures because I wanted us to take a look at just how seriously sexual sin was taken during this time.  Virginity was held in very high regard and was what defined a woman, and determined her eligibility for marriage. All parties were held accountable, the young woman, her parents, the man and even the elders of the city. Virginity was a big deal and being found not having her “virginity” intact was a disgrace to the woman and her family.

During this period of time, the bedding that was used during the wedding night, was kept by her parents as proof of her fidelity.  The blood showed proof that her husband was her first sexual partner because of her hymen that was broken during their first sexual experience.  Once this was examined and proved by the elders of the city, the husband was fined because he accused her of not being a virgin or not satisfying him anymore, therefore giving her a bad name.

God gave the responsibility of protection to the men, her father and her husband.  Before marriage, it is the duty of the parents to protect the purity of their family, especially the man. How terribly different our world is today!! There’s no regard for purity, virginity at all! None! Our men are taken out by various sins, hurts and ignorance, never truly knowing the great call that has been placed on their lives as priests and protectors.

I won’t go into too much detail because I want Holy Spirit to reveal much to you and I pray that we as daughters of the King come to understand just how strongly God feels about us, about our purity, bodies, how precious virginity is.  For some of us, not knowing this has caused us to learn a lot of things the hard way but praise God it’s never too late to start treasuring our bodies and thank Him for redemption and restoration!! It is now our responsibility walk worthy and accordingly and teach our sisters and daughters the TRUTH of who they are and were created to be! I look forward to hearing what revelation you get on this journey!!

Be blessed & encouraged,


The Power of Jesus

Mark 1:23-24, 34

23 Suddenly, a man in the synagogue who was possessed by an evil[h] spirit began shouting, 24 “Why are you interfering with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are—the Holy One of God!”

25 Jesus cut him short. “Be quiet! Come out of the man,” he ordered. 26 At that, the evil spirit screamed, threw the man into a convulsion, and then came out of him.

34 So Jesus healed many people who were sick with various diseases, and he cast out many demons. But because the demons knew who he was, he did not allow them to speak.

So, I just started studying the book of Mark and just got an awesome but sobering revelation. In the above verses, Jesus has just arrived to Capernaum and on the Sabbath, being Jesus, shaking up all sorts of stuff, began teaching.  But of course, when the Word is about to go forth, the enemy shows up in this man. Now, verse 24 grabs me, the demons inside the man knew who Jesus was AND they knew that Jesus had the power and ability to destroy them!!!!!!!!!!! They knew that Jesus is the Holy One of God! Why this has never stuck out to me like this before me is crazy but the demons knew who he was and knew what Jesus was capable of. The sobering fact is that we, humans created in the image of God, God’s children, co-heirs with Jesus Christ himself, don’t KNOW who Jesus is and we certainly don’t know His power, but the demons do! OMG! So this just further shows why the enemy works so hard at keeping us deceived! The less we know about the power of Jesus, the more Satan can deceive us, keep us in bondage, keep us in sin, addictions, afflictions, sickness, doubting and questioning the power of God and His existence! Just to show how much power Jesus has over the enemy, in verse 34, Jesus casts out the demons and then doesn’t allow them to speak because the demons know who Jesus is!!! JESUS HAS POWER OVER DEMONS! Rejoice in this! Whatever “demon” you have or are battling with, Jesus is greater! There is truly power in the name of Jesus, don’t ever forget that or let the enemy talk you out of believing that! At the name of Jesus, demons flee!! If the demons know who Jesus is, shouldn’t you!!!!!!!!!!!!

Be blessed & encouraged,


It’s Not Nasty!

birds and the bees

It’s back to school time and I know that some of you have children entering middle school/junior high, especially girls.  I bet that some of you haven’t had “the talk” with them either, have you? If you haven’t talked to your daughter and told her God’s truth about sex then I suggest you do it NOW! Before she steps foot in her school.  Do it before her little friends tell her lies and things that could get her into trouble.

I get it, it’s hard to think about telling your baby girl about sex, I have 2 little girls of my own.  My oldest is 9 and yes, we’ve had the talk, on her level, of course. I wasn’t ready and I didn’t want to, but she was reading her Bible one day, Genesis, and she read about Adam having sexual relations with Eve.  She asked what was sexual relations so I had to tell her, which I’m glad I did, because I was able to tell her the truth before anyone could come to her with lies.

I also realize that a lot of us have believed lies about sex all of our lives and it’s taken a while for us to get rid of the lies and embrace truth. The reality is that so many women still walk around believing lies and the lies follow them into their marriages and their marriages suffer and the women suffer. I know that I don’t want my daughters to go into their marriages with skewed views of sex so as they get older, I will reveal more truth and when they get married, they will be able to go into their marriages fully embracing and enjoying sex the way that God intended.

So, for those of you who are dreading “the talk” or don’t know where to start, I’m giving you a condensed list to start with. Maybe this list will help bring you into truth as well.

Truths About Sex:

1. Sex was created by God, as a gift for married couples; male and female. (Genesis 4:1)

2. Sex is beautiful when done in parameters which God set: marriage! (Hebrews 13:4)

3. Sex represents the intimate relationship that God wishes to have with us. (Song of Solomon)

4. Sex is meant to be like super glue for marriage, so if you’re having sex with someone you’re not married to, then guess what you’ve done? Glued yourself to some random guy!

5. Sex outside of marriage can be devastating. It has lasting emotional, psychological, spiritual and sometimes damaging physical consequences.

6. What happens to you now, sexually, can set the tone for your sexual relationship with your husband.

7. Sex creates soul ties.  Each time you have sex, you tie your soul to someone else.  Yes, you can be walking around  with your soul still tied to your ex, ex, ex, ex boyfriend! Soul ties cannot be broken without God!

8. Sexual immorality is a form of devil worship.

9. Sex outside of marriage separates us from God and keeps us from His best for our lives.  Sin separates and sexual immorality is sin and not pleasing to God.

10. SEX IS NOT NASTY! Do not tell your daughter that sex is nasty! She will grow up to be a woman who gets married and won’t be able to enjoy her husband all because she thinks that sex is nasty!

What we tell our young girls now about sex, shapes their future! If you have skewed views of sex, please seek healing. Don’t spread the lies to your daughter.  Don’t be afraid to tell her about your mistakes either.  Wouldn’t you rather she learned from your mistakes instead of her own especially concerning sex?

These are starting points that you can break down based on the age and maturity of your daughter. Pray before your talk and ask God for wisdom and guidance and don’t be afraid to say that you don’t know. Tell her what you do know and then for the answers you don’t have, you can go and find answers, truth, together.  The world, the enemy, isn’t holding back or sugar coating and neither should we.  Our kids are in the middle of war and we have to arm them with the truth.  If we won’t tell them God’s truth, the enemy is ready and willing to fill them with his lies!

sex talk

Be blessed & encouraged,



We all go through changes in our lives, some good, some bad.  Some much needed and some unexpected.  Change can bring us such great joy or it can feel as if our lives are falling apart, as if your heart is being ripped from your chest! Whether we like it or not, change is inevitable.

Over the past 3 years, my life has changed dramatically! I quit my job in 2010 because God said that it was time to go but I thought it was just to leave that particular job and go to another, but not so! Little did I know God had something else in store for me, something huge and beyond me! Something that would require my whole life to be changed, shaken and reformed! I’m still in preparation and right now the it doesn’t feel good at all!!! BUT, I know who’s in control and I know that He has me. If you’re a child of God and you have said “Lord, I surrender my life to you” then hold on for the ride of your life!

Jesus came to die for our sins, when we surrender our lives to Him, we die to our sins.  That death to our sins is not always easy but it’s necessary for our lives. The change can be painful at times but in the end it’s so good for us, it’s life for us.  But because we still have flesh, we die kicking and screaming because we don’t want to change because change doesn’t always feel good. We want what feels good, right?! God is more concerned about the development of our character and changing our hearts than our comfort.  He said He would never leave nor forsake us, but He never said that this journey would be easy.

We all have things about us that we need to change or would like to change, but it’s a great relief to know that we don’t have to go through the process of change alone.  God is patient and gentle with us, gently nudging us in the way we should go, shoot I know sometimes He’s had to drag me! But out of His great love, He changes us, gently and lovingly.  So if you’re in some stuff and you know you shouldn’t be or have somethings about you that you want to change, don’t worry about having to do it all by yourself because you can’t, that’s why Jesus died for us.  We are incapable, without Jesus.  He will help you! All you have to do is ask and obey! He didn’t come to condemn but to save and love us.  Talk to Him about the things you want to change, need to change but just can’t seem to do and trust Him to help you because He will, He’s just waiting on the invitation!

Be blessed & encouraged,


Facing Truth

The truth road signSometimes facing the truth about ourselves can be extremely hard! It’s hard facing the ugliness that’s within us.  The wrong thoughts, feelings, and pride. Our actions that oftentimes come from selfishness and us wanting our own way.  But the Word of God says that the truth shall set us free (John 8:32), so why wouldn’t we want to face truth?  Don’t we all want to be free?  Jesus paid the price for our freedom, all we need to do is face the truth and repent.

What’s the truth you ask?  The truth is that we’re all sinners.  None of us have it all together and we never will as long as we’re on this earth (I don’t know about you but this revelation alone gives me peace!).  But, with Jesus and His truth, we will have peace, unconditional love, joy, mercy, grace, freedom.  But this freedom from our sins and all the things on the inside of us that hurts us and holds us in bondage, we have to face it, confess it, repent and move forward in the freedom of Christ!

Facing the truth of our sins is painful.  You have to stop and think about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.  The why is the most painful I think.  For me, facing my sexual sin was the most painful because of the reasons I was having sex outside of marriage.  I was trying to escape my life.  I was trying to find love and solace in the midst of my chaotic, dysfunctional life.  I needed an escape from my mom’s drug and alcohol addiction, from my sister’s rebelliousness, from the pain of not fitting in.  I needed an escape and sex was it.  It was salve to my broken heart. It was all I knew because I didn’t know that God loved me and was willing and ready to take away my pain. I was never taught that, all I knew was what I saw. It was either drugs or sex and I definitely wasn’t turning to drugs! Anyway, sex provided a false sense of security that I thought would bring me all that I needed to end my pain, but it only added to my pain.  Sin never heals or helps, it makes things worse. The wages of sin is death! (Romans 6:23) Nothing good ever comes from sin.  I know that saving sex for marriage, being a virgin isn’t the most popular thing in the world but look at the consequences of having sex! How many young girls are pregnant and responsible for a child and never really had a chance to be a child themselves? How many are living with sexually transmitted diseases? How many are seeking sex for love but in the end are hurt each and every time?  We have no business having sex outside of marriage! That’s not what God, the creator of sex,  intended.  Sex is for marriage, is a mature act that should only happen between married couples.  There’s a level of deepness that is sex that shouldn’t be handled lightly that’s why once you have sex, everything about you changes!

Anyway, my point is, facing the truth about ourselves, our situations, whatever the case may be, is not always pleasant but it’s always necessary and needed and it brings freedom.  Peace comes from facing truth and letting all the lies go.  Peace comes from Jesus Christ, surrendering our lives to Him.  He came to give us peace! (John 14:27).

Ladies, don’t be afraid to face your past or your present, your future truly depends on it! Jesus is always here waiting to love, not condemn (Romans 8:1-2)

conquer truth

Be blessed & encouraged,



Dirty Girl

No matter how dirty we get, God is always there to clean us up!!

Dirty Girl.


Ephesians 1:4 For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. (NIV)

I don’t by any means consider myself better than anyone else because I am saved and forgiven.  I still mess up, make mistakes, I sin.  But, when I read the above scripture, I’m baffled and am in awe of the love that God has for me, for us.  Let me break this down as I try to wrap my mind around this:

1. God chose us in him. What? Chose? Me, my little sinful behind?! Really?! When you think of all the things you’ve done wrong in your life and all the wrong things you’ve said or thought, the fact that God would even think to choose….whew, remarkable!

2. Before the creation of the world. Before he created the world in all its splendor and glory, he chose us to be in him, with him, of him, before anything else, he chose us!!!!!

3. To be holy and blameless in his sight. We were chosen to be holy and blameless. Key word again, chosen. Meaning there’s no way we can be holy and blameless on our own and God knows that yet He still chose us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yet, he still chose us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How can you NOT love a God like this?! How can you NOT want to surrender your life to a loving, wonderful, forgiving God who relentlessly loves us and pursues us, but yet we would rather run from him becasue we think that we’re beyond ever being holy and blameless! Well guess what, we are not beyond being holy and blameless because we were CHOSEN IN HIM to be!!!!

You can’t live this life without HIM! Life is better with Him!

Be blessed & encouraged,


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