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Hi!! So in the next 4 days of the Scripture Writing Plan, we’re taking a little trip to the Old Testament. I included these scriptures because I wanted us to take a look at just how seriously sexual sin was taken during this time. Virginity was held in very high regard and was what defined a woman, and determined her eligibility for marriage. All parties were held accountable, the young woman, her parents, the man and even the elders of the city. Virginity was a big deal and being found not having her “virginity” intact was a disgrace to the woman and her family.
During this period of time, the bedding that was used during the wedding night, was kept by her parents as proof of her fidelity. The blood showed proof that her husband was her first sexual partner because of her hymen that was broken during their first sexual experience. Once this was examined and proved by the elders of the city, the husband was fined because he accused her of not being a virgin or not satisfying him anymore, therefore giving her a bad name.
God gave the responsibility of protection to the men, her father and her husband. Before marriage, it is the duty of the parents to protect the purity of their family, especially the man. How terribly different our world is today!! There’s no regard for purity, virginity at all! None! Our men are taken out by various sins, hurts and ignorance, never truly knowing the great call that has been placed on their lives as priests and protectors.
I won’t go into too much detail because I want Holy Spirit to reveal much to you and I pray that we as daughters of the King come to understand just how strongly God feels about us, about our purity, bodies, how precious virginity is. For some of us, not knowing this has caused us to learn a lot of things the hard way but praise God it’s never too late to start treasuring our bodies and thank Him for redemption and restoration!! It is now our responsibility walk worthy and accordingly and teach our sisters and daughters the TRUTH of who they are and were created to be! I look forward to hearing what revelation you get on this journey!!
Be blessed & encouraged,
This past weekend I had the privilege of attending the She Speaks Conference and it was aaaahhhhmazing!! This conference was an on time, God appointed and God ordained oasis sent during this season that I refer to as the “tumble weed” season.
The year 2016 has started out as the weirdest, with a series of rapid fire events for my family and I. I began the year full of hope and awe as I had 3 speaking engagements lined up and I was so very excited about them all! But then in March things changed and instead of scheduling inspiring events, I was scheduling my daughter’s surgery. Nothing serious thank God, but when it comes to your kiddos, it’s always serious! Well, not long after that I go to visit my doctor about this excruciating pain in my right side and low and behold the culprit is a pesky kidney stone that’s apparently wreaking havoc and must be removed, via outpatient surgery! Are you kidding me?! I have 3 kids and a husband, I can’t afford to be down but by the grace of God, I survived as did my family and recovery was quick although quite uncomfortable. Next in line was the most unexpected and challenging event yet. My dear husband was holding our son, Caleb now a year old, as he was walking down the stairs. Well Hubby’s foot slipped, causing him to fall down the stairs, yes with baby in tow and in order to protect Caleb, he shifted his weight and landed all 200 plus pounds on his left leg and ankle. Well praise God, our little Caleb was fine, just terrified, but Hubby, as I looked down at his foot which was turned unnaturally to the left, was not fine. It was so bad that I had to call an ambulance just to get him off the stairs and to the hospital. This fall resulted in broken leg and ankle and yes, surgery was needed! This was a challenging two and a half month recovery as everything and everyone depended upon me. Needless to say, it was definitely God who saw us through this.
During the time of Hubby’s recovery, I started feeling this burning, stinging pain in my right breast that just wouldn’t go away. So, I decided to go have it checked out. I didn’t think it was anything to worry about because my rough and tumble son loves to pounce on his Momma and he always seems to land on my right breast. Go figure! Well, my doctor gives me an unexpected diagnosis, a cyst . Well, I almost lost it but I guess she in all her experience diffused the bomb that she saw was about to go off! She orders an ultrasound and mammogram and sends me on my way. Now, in the midst of this news, may I mention that also in this tumble weed season, our finances are stretched to the max and have been for years. So on top of the surgeries, there’s the strain of dealing with a very tight budget in which every single penny is accounted for. As I was leaving my doctor’s office, the tears came in like a flood and I had to pull my car over for a full on snot session! I called my friend and I couldn’t talk because I just couldn’t stop crying! This was the last straw, I couldn’t take anything else happening.
Well, God, in His infinite wisdom knew all this would happen and that I would need a much needed mommy break, made a way for me to attend She Speaks via an account I set up using Go Fund Me. I’m still blown away by the overwhelming love and support shown to me by friends, loved ones and strangers! This was my first time attending She Speaks, and also my first time since having a family that I’ve driven anywhere over an hour, alone. My first hotel stay alone and my first time attending a conference alone. Needless to say I was so stinkin’ excited and beyond anxious to get away and get a break. Most of all, I was anxious to get away with God. It’s hard to find quiet time in a house full of children and plus I had questions, and my heart was hurting because there were and still are some things going on in my life right now that just doesn’t make sense! So, my goal for attending She Speaks was to have a one on one with God and He was going to have to tell me something! This tumble weed season must end now! Where oh where is the oasis in all of this? Well, my oasis was She Speaks.
God used this time away from my normal hustle and bustle, this conference, to not only give me rest but to serve some reminders. He reminded me that He still sees me and knows all that I’ve endured and am still enduring. He sees my heart and hears my cries and has bottled up every tear. He’s heard my prayers. He’s taking great care of me and my family. He reminded me that the condition of my heart and my family’s heart is most important to Him, and that comfort would come in different forms and at different times. He, in a way that only He could, confirmed my calling and affirmed my ministry through this wonderful woman of God, Cindy Bultema, and He also gave me a wonderful new GodSisterFriend, Michelle of Displaying Grace. He gave me rest among His daughters who were there and understood me. I didn’t have to explain a thing. I rested, I laughed, I rejoiced, I prayed and I cried and ate all the dessert my little heart desired!
So, even though I’m still in my tumble weed season, it doesn’t seem as dry because I have the wonderful and timely encouragement that I received from She Speaks and the gracious friends that I’ve met there and I don’t feel alone anymore. Most of all I know that even in the driest seasons, Jesus is real, no matter how hard the struggle is and He’s always our living water that never runs dry.
Be blessed & encouraged,
Hi! I’m so excited to begin this journey with you through God’s Word! Why am I so excited? I am excited because one of the greatest lies ever told will now be demolished! What’s this lie? The lie is that God has nothing to say about sex! Oh, He has lots to say! For all the questions and doubts you’ve had concerning sex, I challenge you to join in and find out the answers for yourself! This is about you and God, no one else! Take the time to really meditate on God’s Word and let Holy Spirit minister to your heart. Let truth replace all the lies that have been told to you and that you’ve told to yourself.
Over the next thirty-one days, pray for revelation, journal the entire scripture or parts that really hit home for you and meditate on the passages. Let God’s truth set you free. I’ll be following along as well and will, as Holy Spirit leads, post what revelation I get or have gotten from the scriptures as well as how they’ve helped me on my journey to purity and healing from my past hurts. If you need accountability, follow Savin’ it for Hubby on Facebook and post any questions, concerns or any revelation that you’ve received. You will not be on this journey alone. I look forward to hearing from you!
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Hi!! So coming soon to SIFH, Monthly Scripture Writing Plans! There will be a new theme every month. August’s theme is ” What Does God’s Word Say About Sex?” Do you know? From my time of study, He has lots to say! Join us to find out the truth for yourself and spread the word to any and everyone that you know! Remember, we have to study to show our selves approved! Looking forward to journeying with you through scripture!
Be blessed & encouraged,
The morning started out like any other, I wake the girls up for school, leave the room, come and wake them again. They argue, complain and then get dressed. After a few pushes to get them out the door, they’re off to school and then I’m ready for my day with Caleb. Well, this particular morning, Caleb was still upstairs with my husband and I figured I’d sit downstairs for a few minutes of quiet before I have to start my marathon with Caleb who isn’t walking yet but still a baby tornado who can destroy a room in 5 minutes flat! After Hubby changed Caleb’s diaper, he was on his way to bring him downstairs to me and then I heard the most horrifying noise ever; my husband yell and then the scariest rumble, another yell, then screaming from Caleb! My heart jumped in to my throat and I ran to the stairs not knowing what to expect! When I got to the stairs my Hubby was holding a terrified little infant who was screaming his head off, so I took Caleb from him, checked him out and praise God, my little one was ok! Then I looked at my husband and he was not. In his efforts to protect Caleb during the unfortunate slip of his foot on the stairs, my husband had shifted his weight in a way that landed all 6’2″, 200 plus pounds on his left leg and ankle. His left foot was turned unnaturally left and you could see the bone had completely dislocated! There was no way to get him off the stairs and so I had to call an ambulance. This happened in April….
Now in the beginning of the year, February I believe, my youngest daughter had outpatient surgery and then in early April I had outpatient surgery and now we are in the process of selling our townhouse and buying a house. In the whole chaos of preparing our house to be sold, my husband due to his slip on the stairs, which required surgety to reset the bone in his leg and his ankle, cannot put any weight on it at all for 6 weeks, can’t do much of anything other than holding Caleb. We still have about 2.5 weeks to before he can even attempt to walk, so all the heavy lifting, cleaning, cooking, kids stuff has been on me. Needless to say 2016 has been very interesting to say the least thus far!
Last week, I was beyond exhausted and I decided that God and I needed to have a little chat! Seriously Lord, what in the world is going on?! There has been a whirlwind of events in the first few months of this year, what are you trying to get me to see?
He then led me to Romans 8:28: And we know that ALL things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
I’ve always looked at this verse as a “feel good” verse, all things are working for my GOOD, Amen! LOL! I’ve always just focused on “my good”. But He made me go and focus on “all”. He said, Shannon all means all right? Yes Lord, all means all. But, He says, all means the good, the bad, the ugly, the unpretty, the crazy, unpredictable. He said that all things don’t always feel good, look good, smell good, make any sense but for all things to for your good, you have to trust Me. I knew this, I thought I knew this, I felt this was the story of my life but somewhere there had been a disconnect. I guess I needed a reminder! So, I started thinking about he whole stairs fiasco and started praising God even more because that could have been so much worse! My then 10 month old son could have been seriously hurt but he wasn’t hurt at all and my husband could have hurt or broken more than just his ankle and leg! My surgery and daughter’s surgery could have been for something very serious, and instead of selling and buying a home because of our added blessing we could be doing this because of other unpleasant circumstances!
Have things been stressful, oh my goodness yes! I’ve reached a new level of exhaustion but in ALL the events that have happened and currently happening, I’ve found ways to praise God in the midst and I’ve seen and felt Him provide and strengthen me and my family in ways we haven’t experienced before. When God allows things to happen in our lives, theres so much more going on! We always focus on ourselves but when God moves, He’s multi-purposeful, He multitasks. We may think these things are happening to us, for us but it’s not always about us, these events affects those around us as well, even those we don’t know. For instance, the nurse that tended to me when I had my surgery, was of another religion and culture and I was given the opportunity to tell her about Savin’ it for Hubby and a “summary” of God’s purpose for this ministry and how He views sex. She was married, and I don’t know why He had me share with her but He knows. ALL that’s happening in our lives is for our good and though these situations, circumstances, events may not always feel good or look good or shoot, we brought them on ourselves, He can and will turn ALL for our good, but we have to trust Him, His ways, and His timing.
So, I’m still trusting and standing and waiting for a contract on our townhouse and trusting Him for strength to keep this place clean for showings with 3 kids and a dog and a husband on crutches! In ALL of this, I know He’s working things for our good! Y’all pray for me!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Sometimes things happen to us in our lives that are painful, like gut wrenching pain. The first question we ask is why. Why did this have to happen to me? Why now? It never makes sense in the midst of it. It just hurts. No one can offer any solace; although they mean well, their words don’t seem to take the pain away. Somehow in the midst of all this pain you find that you get through the day and wake up the next morning realizing somehow you made it through. What we don’t realize is that in the pain, there’s something bigger and greater going on that’s being orchestrated by Someone who’s bigger and greater than the pain we feel. When my mom died a month after I had my first daughter, my heart was crushed! My mom had only seen her granddaughter once before she died! Just imagine; after giving birth, via C-section, your mom pass and you are left with weird hormonal feelings, soreness, swollen breasts, a new baby and new husband with no guidance what so ever! I was angry, hurt and very disappointed! Many thoughts and questions consumed my mind. Why did she have to die after my baby was born? Why now Lord? I don’t know what I’m doing! I need my mom! My baby girl (either of them, because now I have two daughters) would never know her grandmother! Who would I call when I had questions without my mom here? Who would I talk to about all I was going through on this new journey I’d embarked on? Well, when I asked the Lord why, He heard my cry and gave me an answer as to why. Now, keep in mind He didn’t have to tell me anything. He is God, but He is also love and He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). As painful as it was, I understood why and He gave me comfort in His answer. In spite of the loss of my mom, I became a great mother and wife and God gave me spiritual moms to provide guidance and comfort along the way. As a result of my mom’s death, our family became closer and it deepened my relationship with my sister. I also feel that my mom’s death made me appreciate life more, realizing it is short and precious. So, I have to make the most of every moment I have with my daughters.
It is important to realize that although we go through pain, God sees all and He will help us through it. After all, He did say that He would never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). In this pain, I have found strength that I didn’t know I had and I have come to know God more intimately. He became my mother and my father. He has become all that I need and will ever need on this life journey. Here are some pearls of wisdom I have learned that I want to share with you in hopes it will give you peace in the middle of your storm (pain).
I don’t know what painful situation you’re in right now but God does and will be with you through it all if you ask Him too. If you’re going through a divorce, He still loves you and will take care of you. If you have lost someone dear to you, He will be there to wipe every tear away. (Isaiah 25:8) Nothing is too hard for God to handle! (Jeremiah 32:17). So, release your pain, trust Him and let Him give you rest.
Be blessed & encouraged,
Be blessed & encouraged,
So, Savin’ it for Hubby has been going for a few years now and just recently, I’ve been blessed to come from behind the blog to speak in person. I’ve found that I truly enjoy it!!! Well, there’s this awesome conference coming up, She Speaks Conference, and it’s for Christian speakers, writers and leaders and I want to go so very badly. Ladies travel from all over to attend this conference given by Proverbs 31 Ministries.
The content and classes given by this conference will help me in further developing my skills as well as growing Savin’ it for Hubby! With the state of the world that we’re in now, truth needs to go forth immediately!
This conference, as awesome as it may be, is more than our single family income can handle right now, so I’ve started a Go Fund Me campaign. To cover conference fees and materials, lodging, and travel expenses, in all I will need $2000. So far at my last check $630 has been raised. Won’t you consider helping a “Mom on a Mission”? I’ve posted my Go Fund Me link below. Any amount helps and prayers are greatly appreciated. Also, sharing is caring!! My deadline is February 29th as this conference always fills fast and they usually have an extensive wait list.
God bless you all and thank you in advance!!!!
Be blessed & encouraged,
It’s often said “no pain, no gain” and in some cases this seems to be true. We humans don’t like pain, nor do we enjoy facing painful situations, circumstances or consequences. We don’t want anything taking away our comfort! But, God showed me an interesting way to view pain. You’ve heard that from pain comes purpose, right? Well God showed me that pain can be a weapon as well. The hurts, mistakes, hang-ups, painful situations and consequences are tools of our enemy satan. He set them up to steal from us, kill us and destroy us. That’s his mission, his job (John 10:10). But God! Our Father knew in advance that these situations would happen so He turns these ill fated tools of the enemy into purpose (Romans 8:28)! Our purpose is God’s Kingdom purpose, and God uses this “painful” purpose to defeat satan! The pain in our lives becomes a weapon in the hands of God! God uses this weapon, created by the enemy, to beat him at his own game! Not only that, the pain that’s inflicted, the purpose that is given, only strengthens God’s Kingdom. God’s turning our pain into purpose is a weapon used against the kingdom of darkness. Talking about a revelation! Looking back, I’ve found this to be true in my own life. Savin’ it for Hubby was birthed from painful situations, circumstances and consequences from my own life and God is definitely using Savin’ it for Hubby to defeat the kingdom of darkness by revealing His truth about sex! This is my purpose and I love that I am being used by God to defeat the enemy! To get to this point, I had to face the things that I’d done and that had been done to me that were against God, against His Word and His will for my life. I had to face the pain, allowing God to walk me through and receive His healing. This step must take place or else the enemy still has the power to use these things against you.
Letting God heal and strengthen you turns you into a great threat to the enemy. He knows that God can turn you into someone powerful which is why he tries his best to bring condemnation so that you will run from God instead of running to Him.
No matter what you’ve done or what’s been done to you, nothing can keep you from God but you! He’s always waiting for us with open arms to heal and love on us. We have to remember what God’s purpose is for us and also what the enemy’s purpose is for us too. You have to know your enemy and his tactics in order to defeat him!
Don’t be afraid to face pain, because with God, you’re never facing it alone. Facing it and dealing with it brings you healing and victory and makes you a mighty weapon for God!
Be blessed & encouraged,
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