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How do I NOT Have Sex?

So, you’ve decided to stop having sex outside of marriage but man, seriously, those urges didn’t just up and disappear because you said yes to God, right? If anything, in some instances, they’ve probably gotten worse, right? Yeah, I know. Well, there are some things you must understand first in order to be successful in your walk of purity.

First, you have to understand that this is a spiritual battle. It’s not just against your fleshly desires. Second, there’s no way on this earth that you can walk this walk alone. Third, realizing that something in you has been awakened prematurely and only God can put it back to sleep. And fourth, this will require some work on your part as well.

What in the world am I talking about? Well, I’ll tell you a few things, without typing a dissertation:

Contrary to what we’ve all been told, sex, including oral, was reserved for marriage.  A gift from God to married couples.  We see evidence of this act in the book of Genesis (Genesis 4:1). Sex was also created by God. Which means, He knows why He created it and what happens when it’s done outside of why it was created. God meant for sex to be good and pleasurable and this is what gets us into trouble.  We all agree that it’s good and pleasurable! Guess who also knows this about sex? Satan. Remember I said that this is a spiritual battle (Ephesians 6:10-18). Satan has succeeded in perverting this act and taking it out of the context of why it was created therefore instead of sex being a blessing for marriage and procreation, it has become a curse because it has been abused and the marriage bed defiled.

Now, on to why you still want sex. You still want it because you’ve been awakened in this area and because the power of sex is not easily shaken.  It’s binding, sex joins you to another person, you become one with this person. Sounds familiar? Yes because this is what happens in marriage (Genesis 2: 23-24). In the Bible we are warned in Song of Solomon (2:7) not to awaken love before its time and not just sex but allowing someone to become so intimate with you emotionally as well. For women, this is how we are taken down. Our emotions! Ok…….

  1. If you haven’t done so, soul ties that have been formed with anyone you’ve had sex with must be broken.

From Pastor Chris Simpson, New Wine Christian Fellowship http://www.newwineonline.com:  

STEPS TO BREAKING UNGODLY SOUL TIES:

  • Confess any and all ungodly ties to the Lord. Repent from your heart for violating God’s ordained boundaries in your relationships.
  • Make a solemn commitment to the Lord to break off any relationship that is not pure or righteous in His eyes. Become accountable to others to help you keep that commitment. Until you do that, any prayers for freedom are in vain. I’ve actually had people ask me to break their unhealthy soul ties so that when they got together again (in their illicit relationship), they wouldn’t feel all those bad spirits. However, God is not mocked. Reinforce your requests to the Lord with a commitment to obey.
  • Before praying, do whatever is necessary for the anointing of the Holy Spirit to come. This is so important. Pray, wait, forgive, or worship. Once His presence and anointing is present, then proceed with the soul tie breaking prayer. It’s the anointing that breaks the yoke. The ties won’t break with a simple prayer from the mind. The anointed power of the Holy Spirit must be present to be effective.

SOUL TIE BREAKING PRAYER 

“In the name of Jesus Christ I now renounce, break and loose myself from all demonic subjection and any ungodly soul ties and unhealthy bondings with the following people: (break soul ties with each person that comes to mind)”

“Lord, I ask you to do whatever it takes to break me of my tendencies to: obsessive preoccupations, domination, control, passivity, apathy, unforgiveness, anger, blame, accusations, fear, intimidation and disobedience in relationships.”

“Finally, in the name of Jesus, I declare every demonic hold in my life that has come as a result of unhealthy soul ties null and void. Satan, I renounce you and your demons and command you to depart from my spirit, soul and body!”

  1. Once the ties have been broken, check your circle. Who do you hang with? Are they trying to walk the same walk as you? If not, then you might need to break up with them too!
  2. What are you watching, reading, listening to? All of this plays a part in the success of walking in purity. Purity is more than not having sex, it’s making sure that our heart and mind lines up with the word of God. If you’re watching things like Being Mary Jane, Scandal and Love and Hip Hop, then you’ll likely be influenced by these shows.  Without going too far down the rabbit trail, Satan was once Lucifer, Archangel of worship, had a beautiful voice, etc, so because of his pride he was kicked out of heaven. Satan wants to be God, and he wants us to worship him, not God so certain types of music, turn our hearts to sinful desires and not to worship and glorify God. Music is powerful! Notice how you react when you listen to certain types, same goes for TV shows. The Bible tells us to take certain thoughts and ideas captive (2 Corinthians 5:10) The Bible also tells us that once we are set free through Christ, make sure that we stay free and not get tied up again (Galatians 5:1, 13)
  3. As I said before, you can’t walk this walk alone. Have people who will hold you accountable and that you trust to be transparent with. Transparency is key! Most importantly, have a RELATIONSHIP with God. Holy Spirit was sent to guide us and comfort us. Don’t ignore Him or forget about Him. Our flesh is constantly warring with our spirit and sometimes the battle is just too hard for us to fight. The Bible says “So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves” (Galatians 5:16). Remember that even if you find yourself in a compromising situation, God always provides a way out, you just have to take it! (1 Corinthians 10:12-13)

There’s temptation everywhere at any given time.  We all know this. We have to learn how to navigate through this mess. We can’t see everything that’s coming at us but God can.  You may still have sexual urges but they don’t have to rule you. The Bible tells us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18). When you don’t have the energy or “want to” to flee, pray, I guarantee you, God will show up. Do you trust God to help you with this? You have to surrender your sex life to Him. Trust Him to bring along the one He chose for you. Also, if you do fall, repent, get up and keep fighting.  Don’t condemn yourself because God doesn’t condemn you. He wants you to have His best. Don’t settle just because you’re horny. Find some emergency verses, an item that will remind you that you can do this, remind you of why you’re doing this, whether it’s a purity ring or bracelet (such as our signature bracelet :-)). Have some emergency phone numbers too. Know what your triggers are. If Valentine’s day is a trigger, make plans with friends or family so that you can head off temptation to fall back into old habits.  God will honor and bless your efforts! Don’t forget to do your part! God will handle what you can’t! Feel free to share anything that’s helped you as well!

Be blessed and encouraged,

Shannon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Women 4 Christ Prayer Call

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Hi!

Join Savin’ it for Hubby Founder, Shannon Taylor (me :-)) and Women 4 Christ this Saturday morning at 7:00 am EST as we go before the Lord in prayer & praise ! Tune In to Be Blessed! You won’t want to miss this message!

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Be blessed & encouraged!

Shannon

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What Does God’s Word Say About Sex?

purity-article-header-mirage-marriageHi! I’m so excited to begin this journey with you through God’s Word! Why am I so excited? I am excited because one of the greatest lies ever told will now be demolished! What’s this lie? The lie is that God has nothing to say about sex! Oh, He has lots to say! For all the questions and doubts you’ve had concerning sex, I challenge you to join in and find out the answers for yourself! This is about you and God, no one else! Take the time to really meditate on God’s Word and let Holy Spirit minister to your heart. Let truth replace all the lies that have been told to you and that you’ve told to yourself.

Over the next thirty-one days, pray for revelation, journal the entire scripture or parts that really hit home for you and meditate on the passages.  Let God’s truth set you free.  I’ll be following along as well and will, as Holy Spirit leads, post what revelation I get or have gotten from the scriptures as well as how they’ve helped me on my journey to purity and healing from my past hurts.  If you need accountability, follow Savin’ it for Hubby on Facebook and post any questions, concerns or any revelation that you’ve received.  You will not be on this journey alone. I look forward to hearing from you!

Below is the link to download the plan!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Wake Up!

Empire picSo, I hear the new season of Empire has started and everyone’s all excited and pumped…even “Christians”. Oh yes, I’m coming for you!

Please, please, please explain to me how this show is in anyway fitting for the eyes of a supposedly God-fearing, Jesus loving, saved person? Am I missing something here? Everything about this show is in total disobedience to the Word of God not to mention it contradicts the Word of God completely!

From what I’ve heard of the latest episode, a lot of “Christians” were disappointed because it was a little over the top. Seriously, what did you expect?! Isn’t that how the enemy uses sin? He dishes out a little to suck you in, to desensitize and then once that’s happened, in comes the flood! You should be happy that you noticed that it was over the top! Could it be your Spirit alerting you that hey, you shouldn’t be filling yourself with this junk! Satan is the god of the air, of this world.  He uses the airwaves, TV, music to do his work.  Think about it! I heard on the radio this morning one guy said that he felt as if he should have had the remote in one hand and a stack of $1 dollar bills in the other! Really???!!! Come on people of God! What are we doing? We are bowing down to everything, compromising at every turn! We have the Creator of the Universe on our side, we don’t have to accept this!! But because we want to gratify our flesh and don’t want to offend, we bend and succumb to the wiles of this world!

Not only is this show totally contrary to the Word of God, look at what it’s promoting. Fornication, lewdness, violence, disrespect for women, do I need to go on? No wonder our young men and women act the way they do, not treasuring their bodies and young men, instead of covering us they are looking to expose all that we have as women.  They may not listen to us but they are watching and if we’re ok with feeding this garbage to ourselves then of course they think it’s ok as well! Then we adults have the audacity to get mad when the young ones act in the manners that they’ve picked up from us! Come on people, that do as I say and not as I do approach does not work! The young girls and Lord help us, women, want to emulate Cookie and yes lets bring in Olivia Pope. Please tell me where and how do these women represent at Titus 2 woman?

God’s Word tells us “And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”(Philippians 4:8) Is there anything in Empire that resembles anything close to this?  Then Titus 2:3-5 Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers.[a] Instead, they should teach others what is good. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God. Do either Cookie or Olivia Pope reflect any one of these characters? 

And let’s not leave out the men: Titus 2:2,6 Teach the older men to exercise self-control, to be worthy of respect, and to live wisely. They must have sound faith and be filled with love and patience. In the same way, encourage the young men to live wisely. And 1 Timothy 5:2 Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.

The Word says that For the time has come for judgment, and it must begin with God’s household. And if judgment begins with us, what terrible fate awaits those who have never obeyed God’s Good News?” (1 Peter 4:17) Being a Christian is more than just believing and saying the prayer, that’s only the beginning.  We have to make the decision to make Jesus Lord over our lives, not just our Savior.  He has called us higher, otherwise who would be able to differentiate between someone in the world and someone who has given their lives to Christ? We are to be in this world, being salt and light, not conforming to it’s ways! 

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Happy New Year!!

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Hi! I’ve been on a writing break for the past few weeks and now, I’m ready for 2013!  This year has been awesome and I’m grateful for your support and following.  My prayer is that the words that came from my heart, my life,  have had a positive impact on your life.  I pray that you’ve made the decision to follow Christ, to keep yourself pure and go against the grain and be proud that you’re Savin’ it for Hubby!

In 2013, I want to focus more on marriage preparation and the consequences of having sex outside of marriage.  Say you didn’t get pregnant or contract an STD, sex outside of marriage still has negative effects on your marriage as well as you as a person; your self-esteem, self-confidence.  I will have several series throughout the year so stay tuned!

The New Year is a new beginning.  A chance to start over and do things differently.  Start your year of with a clean slate, sin and guilt free by giving your heart, soul, your life to Christ! His mercies are new everyday (Lamentations 3:22-23) He came to give us life, not to condemn us. He loves us with an everlasting, unconditional, unmeasurable love!  I wish you all that you hope for and more in 2013!

Happy New Year! May God bless and keep you!

Be blessed and encouraged,

Shannon

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Dating: Helpful or Harmful?

When I was single, I couldn’t wait for my next date.  To be wined and dined and doted on and have whomever the lucky guy was undivided attention.  Each date led to something being revealed that I didn’t like about the guy or I found out he was just in it for sex.  Unfortunately, I gave in which led to more problems than I care to admit.  Dating supposedly is set up to see if we’re compatible with someone, and we all want to make sure we’re compatible but really all it does is feed a spirit of discontentment.  I feel that it contributes to the high rate of divorce.  It teaches us that if we get married and the guy does something we don’t like, we just divorce them and move on.  Marriage is a covenant relationship, not a contract.  You become one when you get married.  Why is it so easy for some people to divorce themselves? It’s because they went into the marriage with the wrong idea or no idea about marriage.  Some are just in love with the idea of marriage and totally are not prepared for what happens after “I do”. More on this later, now back to dating.

Follow me for a moment.  When you date, your ultimate goal is to find your spouse, right? Well, I’m married now and I LOVE my husband but let me tell you, marriage can be hard.  It’s a lot of work.  There are days that I don’t like my husband, or he’ll do or say something that I don’t like or hurt my feelings (he’s a man and he’s human, it’s going to happen in marriage, trust me!) or I may say or do something that ticks him off (which does happen in marriage, trust me!). As I said before, satan is watching and waiting for an opportunity to pounce.  On a bad day, if you’re not taking your thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10:5), memories of guys from your past will pop up.  Your mind will begin to wonder and things you’ve done with him, things he’s said to you, how he made you feel, how he touched you or kissed you.  Then, you start to look at your hubby and start comparing and wondering….why doesn’t he make me feel like such and such, or why doesn’t he do this, say this, or act this way.  This happens! Marriage is beautiful but you will be tested! As I’ve said before, the enemy doesn’t fight fair.

Dating to find your “soul mate” is not the way to go.  It sets you up for failure.  You won’t get to your future hubby any faster. Let God do that for you.  If you do, when you get married, you will have less ammo for the enemy to use against you. That’s why God gave us His word, so that we will know what to do.  He gave it to us for our protection. He knows that the enemy is out to steal, kill and destroy.  Don’t give in to what feels good or looks good now. Think about your future and what you really want and act accordingly.

When I met my hubby, we were in college.  He moved in with me, we “shacked up” and boy did God get our attention.  We both grew up where everyone we knew lived with others married or not.  We started going to church together and learned the truth.  Not long after he moved in, I lost my job, he was in a car accident and totaled his car, my car broke down and I didn’t have the money to get it fixed, and then we were evicted! God provided wise counsel and we were told that we needed to either get married or not live together.  So hubby and I prayed and God led the way.  He provided all that we needed; the rings, my dress, venue.  God totally worked it out.  When you get in line with His vision and do things His way, He will definitely take care of you and make a way but you have to trust Him.

So, what’s the alternative to dating.  Prayer and hanging out or going out in groups.  God will show you and lead you through the rest.  If your future hubby is in that group, God will work it out so that you can get to know each other better.  Just trust Him, trust Him, trust Him!!!

I found a more in-depth article on dating here!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Powerful Love

Love is deep and intense.  It can cause you to do things that you don’t understand and things that you wouldn’t normally do.  Love can feed you, encourage you, keep you moving and help you to be all that you want, need and were created to be.  It’s not something to be taken lightly and it’s not something that can be turned on and off when we please.  We have to be responsible with it.

Another thing you must understand is that sex DOES NOT equal love.  Love should always come first.  Love takes care of you and your heart, your feelings, your spirit.  Sex can make you think you’re in love because of the closeness and feelings that it brings but you need to pay attention to what’s happening outside of sex.  What’s going on in your relationship? Does your heart skip a beat when you see him or know that you’re going to see him?  Does he make you happy? Can he make you smile no matter what is going on in your life?  Does he listen to you and accepts you for who you are?

To me this is love.  Love accepts you, takes care of you and protects you.  Love doesn’t pressure you into something that could potentially damage your life.  Love doesn’t make you do things that you know you’re not supposed to do.  Love is powerful and never ending.  You can love someone so much that it takes your breath away.  Love at first site may or may not be real but intense love is.  No matter how much you may try to run from it or stuff it away, it’s there and it’s deep and all consuming.

If you are led to a guy that has this capability of love, stay and do things God’s way! You will not regret it! You will regret not embracing that love.  “Fine” or “Sexy” doesn’t equate to the ability or level of love or the potential of love.  “Fine & sexy” can hurt you and can be a nice cover up of pain and heartache and the  inability to love.  BE CAREFUL!!

Wait for love! Sex without love is nothing but a major life disaster waiting to happen.  It cheats you of the beautiful life you were meant to have.

Song of Songs 2:7
Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

1 Corinthians 13

New International Version (NIV)

13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues,they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

***Bible verses courtesy of http://www.biblegateway.com***

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The Official Launch of Armed Magazine!

Hi!!!
The Day has Come!!!!!  The OFFICIAL Launch of Armed Magazine, of which I am a contributing writer for!  We have prayed & labored over the vision placed in the heart of our Founder Tanika Jones.  We pray that this magazine, this ministry, is a blessing to you.  We pray that it touches your heart, your soul and stirs something in you that leads you to develop a stronger relationship with Christ.  You will BE EQUIPPED to win any battle with Christ as your first priority.  ARMED will give you an additional source of Biblical knowledge and inspiration to be victorious in this journey we call life.  Please support this mission, spread the word and enjoy!  God bless each and every one of you.  Give GOD all of the glory!
*******Please go to Armed Magazine to check it out!!*******
Be blessed and encouraged!
Shannon
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Truth & Lies

Hi Everyone!

I’ve had a lot going on lately and not to mention trying to read several books at one time so, I’ve had to put the Valorie Burton book, “Why Not You” on hold for a minute.  I’ll still be adding posts from my readings from her book, just not everyday.  Some of the books I’m reading now are, The Bible, The Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer, Made to Crave by Lysa Terkeurst and Lord, is it Warfare? Teach me to Stand by Kay Arthur. Full plate!  What can I say, I love to read! Anyway, so I am starting this Bible study on Kay Arthur’s book, Lord is it Warfare and I was reading in Ephesians as part of the homework assignment and this particular verse stuck out to me:

Ephesians 6:14 Stand therefore, having girded your loins with truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness

It made me think, how many people don’t protect their “loins” with the truth?  How many people really know the truth about sex and how many are listening to the lies of this world?  Do you know the truth?  Or are you listening to the lies? So below, I’ve listed a few (although there are many!) of the lies of this world and below that I’ve listed the truth, from GOD! God, who loves you unconditionally and would never ask you to compromise yourself, or do anything to hurt you, who has great plans for you and wants to protect you! Yes, HIM! 🙂 Ok, so here we go:

Lies

  1. God doesn’t care about my sex life.
  2. This is my body and I can do what I want with it!
  3. Everyone is having sex.  It’s no big deal!
  4. Oral sex isn’t sex.
  5. It’s okay for a man to get as much sex as he wants and be single.
  6. I couldn’t help myself!
  7. One time won’t hurt anything!
  8. Nothing will happen, I won’t get pregnant, he doesn’t have a disease, he’s too cute to have a disease!
  9. Not having sex before marriage is old school, no one waits for marriage anymore!
  10. It’s ok for me to dress like the women I see in music videos, that’s what guys like!

Truth

  1. God does care very much about our sex life!  He created sex! (1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 NLT)
  2. No, your body does NOT belong to you.  Your body is the temple of the Lord! (1 Corinthians 6:17 NLT)
  3. Everyone may be having sex but it doesn’t mean that it’s the right thing to do.  It’s a huge deal in the eyes of God! He says to flee from sexual immorality! (1 Corinthians 6:12-18 NLT)
  4. Oral sex is an act of sex, an extension of the gift that God has given to married couples, male & female. (Song of Songs 2:3, 4:16)
  5. No man or woman, single or not should be having sex with whomever, whenever! God never said to “sow your royal oats”, that’s from Coming to America, not God! LOL! We are to take pleasure in our HUSBANDS! Not boyfriend, not through hookin’ up, and definitely not because you’re bored or it’s the thing to do! (Proverbs 5:15-23) 
  6. You can’t control yourself, but with God’s help you can! (1 Cor 10: 12-13)
  7. One time won’t hurt anything…pulease, all it takes is one time to contract a disease or get pregnant.  Sperm was created to swim, and that’s what they are going to do, swim towards the egg and fertilize it!  Condoms are not 100%! Your virginity is a one time gift that’s to be for your future husband, trust me, it’s worth the wait! There’s so much that happens spiritually when you have sex with someone…I’ll cover more on this on another blog post….
  8. You can’t look at someone and see if they have herpes, HIV/AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc, and just because a condom is used, it doesn’t mean that you’re protected.  If he has something and his penis touches you anywhere in the area that’s supposed to be covered by your panties, there’s a chance he’s sharing more than just sex with you!
  9. There’s a reason that God saves sex for marriage.  He knows what it was created for and anything outside of why it was created can and will lead to disaster! Think of a can of Drano (or Liquid Plumr ;-)), if you don’t follow the directions on the can, or if you use it for something for which it was NOT created, what do you think will happen?  Read the Creator of sex directions and follow them carefully!
  10. The way you dress says a lot about you! How do you want a guy to view you? He will treat you the way that you are dressed.  The eyes & mind work hand in hand and we all know that guys are stimulated greatly by what they see! If you dress like a ho (yeah, I went there!), then, you will be treated like one.  There’s a way to look attractive without looking like a prostitute! Read the Song of Solomon and see how the man pays attention to every detail of the woman and tells her how beautiful she is, shoot he even talks about her teeth! Every woman wants to be loved, treasured and appreciated, so make sure you’re giving him a reason to love, treasure and appreciate you for who you are and not just the way your butt looks or how big your breasts are.  Those are for your husband’s enjoyment only! 🙂

There’s so much more and I feel that God wants me to focus more on truth and lies so there will be more to come on this subject but please, get a Bible, or better yet, go on the internet to an online Bible (I’ve listed some sites below) and find a version that makes sense to you and learn truth for yourself! Don’t listen to your friends, tv, radio, read the Bible for yourself and get truth for yourself!!!!!!!! I will gladly answer any questions and if I don’t know the answer I will find it for you but please find truth for yourself! God has a plan for all of us and it’s a great plan! It’s not for us to be hurt and defeated but to prosper and have an abundant and full life.  You don’t have to settle for the lies of this world! If you don’t want to post your questions on the blog you can email me at savinitforhubby@yahoo.com anytime!

*****Don’t forget, my FREE teleclass, 5 Things to Think About BEFORE You Have Sex is coming up next Saturday, January 21 @ 11am! It’s free but you have to register so that I can send you the dial-in information. Click on the link below to register.****

5 Things to Think About BEFORE You Have Sex!

Online Bibles:

YouVersion Online Bible

Bible Gateway

Be blessed & encouraged!

Shannon