Introducing Purely Loved- You Are Royalty Purity Retreat! A weekend retreat in the north Georgia mountains where we leave all the busyness & craziness behind & focus on just being with God! This purity retreat focuses on our identity in Christ, the differences between abstinence, celibacy & purity, what sex is and isn’t, breaking soul ties, setting healthy boundaries & whatever else Holy Spirit wants to do! Not to mention fun activities and lots of food and snacks mixed in! This year’s retreat (coming up in August) was fully booked via word of mouth from 2017’s retreat so we didn’t have to promote it! Stay tuned for the launch of registration for Purely Loved 2019! Space is very limited to keep the experience intimate! Ages 20 & up, married, single, divorced. For more information or to join our mailing list, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another.
So many of us are in a season of transition. Some of us have been in a season of transition for a very long time. Like, how long does it take to transition to a new phase, a new season? Some days feel as if you’re stuck in this sickening place of ick! Nothing feels familiar, nothing’s comfortable anymore. You find yourself in a place where no matter how hard you try, you can’t get your footing. The people around you that you’ve grown comfortable with are moving out of your circle and there are new people coming in their place. Nothing feels stable! It’s the feeling that if something doesn’t change soon, you’re going to lose it! Can something please change? There are times when I find myself begging God to please let something change! But, when we’re fully surrendered to God, disciples of Jesus Christ, we have given over our will for God’s. With this comes living life on His terms. Which isn’t a bad thing! His terms are terms of love and protection. The issue is that living life on God’s terms, in His will, means living life in the Spirit, which means a constant battle of flesh and spirit, God’s kingdom and the world’s way of doing things. This leaves us in the middle battling our flesh to choose the ways of the Spirit! Of course we have Holy Spirit but if He’s telling us something we don’t want to hear or to do something we don’t want to, there’s another battle lol!
How do you survive seasons of transition? How do you keep going when you want to jump back in the boat, when you’re tired of walking on water? Here’s what I’ve learned so far:
You must understand that this season of transition is a necessary process to get to your next. There’s no going around it. If you truly want to be successful and impactful in your next season, you must trust and embrace the process. (James 1:2-8)
Transition molds you into the person you need to be for the next. Allow God to complete the work He’s doing on you, in you and for you! Your character is much more important to God than your comfort. To Him, the messenger is more important than the message. You’re being refined, molded, shaped and even squeezed. ( Jeremiah 18:1-6)
No one will really understand what you’re going through! God will have you do things, make choices that don’t make sense to anyone else. Do it anyway!
Please remember that this won’t last forever! I know, trust me, I know it feels as if you’ve been circling this mountain for 40 years like the Israelites but you will get to the promised land!
Most importantly, you must keep your eyes on Jesus! If you start to look at and focus on your circumstances you will sink just like Peter did! (Matthew 14:22-33)
When you feel like giving up, remember God’s promises! All of God’s promises are yes and Amen! (2 Corinthians 1:20) Remember that He has plans for you, to prosper you and give you hope and a future! (Jeremiah 29:11)
For the month of May, I will be focusing on the promises of God. That’s the theme for the scripture writing plan this month. If you’d like to join me, feel free to download the free scripture writing plan located on our Downloadables page. Also, feel free to follow along on my social media outlets for prayers and encouragement. If you’d like to join our Facebook community, click here. I pray for great strength as you follow through the process of transition and I know that whatever God has next for all of us will be beyond anything we could ever ask, think or imagine! (Ephesians 3:20)
We are now at the final step in our Getting Aligned with God series! The final step is to prioritize our lives to where God comes first in everything! Giving God His rightful place in our heart and our life. Just as now that He sits on the throne of heaven, He should sit on the throne of our heart as not only our Savior but also as our Lord! When we give our lives to God, when we ‘get saved’ we always remember that Jesus died on the Cross to forgive our sins, be our Savior, and make us right with God. Along the way we often forget that He is also our Lord! Meaning, He should be the governing body of our heart and our life. This is what distinguishes us from the world and moves us from being more than just believers but disciples of Jesus Christ.
I’m a week late in posting this final step because I was so sick last week that the last thing I wanted to do was write a blog post. Yep that sick. I had to make myself a priority because if I hadn’t I would have continued to be sick or gotten worse. This is how we need to look at our life when we consider getting our priorities in order. If we don’t, our situations, circumstances could get worse and we’ll remain stuck where we don’t want to be. This picture came to mind when I was thinking of priorities, there’s an order. Just as God has a model for marriage, the same goes for our lives whether married or single. Our relationship with God is THE most important and should come first in our lives. It should take precedence in the choices that we make and the people we surround ourselves with. When we make God the priority, when we put Him in His rightful place in our life, He begins to line things up for us. This upcoming weekend my Hubby and I will celebrate 14 years of marriage!! I was lying in bed thinking of our honeymoon weekend, which was not this big getaway to a tropical island, but I remembered that we didn’t even have a car when we got married and we didn’t even have our own place! But God! So if you don’t know my story, I’ll share a bit here, but you can get the full story in my book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned. Before my husband and I got married, we’d had sex outside of marriage not just in our relationship with each other but with others before we met. We were all out-of-order! When we decided to get married and do things God’s way, it’s as if He rolled out the red carpet for us! The way that He provided for our rings, my dress, even the hotel suite we stayed in. I even remember that somehow we’d both gotten a nice income tax check so that we were able to enjoy our honeymoon weekend and were able to eat at our top choice restaurants that we’d always wanted to try but couldn’t because we were broke college students LOL! Even after we got married, he blessed me with a new job because when we got married I was working at Ruby Tuesday as a server! Then, after the job came our own apartment and then He gave us favor with the owner of the building we lived in and got us a brand new washer and dryer for only $300! The blessings kept coming! We’d go to church and there were couples that would just pass us cards with money in them! When we got our act together, when we got aligned with God, He began to bless us and move in our lives. He began to guide us into the plans He had for us but He began to do the work in us to prepare us for the purpose He has for us individually and together as husband and wife.
If you’re stuck in your life right now and nothing’s changing or moving then perhaps your priorities are all out-of-order. Take a look at your life and see where you’ve placed God. What/who have you put in place as lord of your life? There’s an order, a flow that leads to alignment with God. And it should always begin with God.
If you need support, have more questions or just need someone to hold you accountable and pray with you throughout this process, there’s a Facebook group that I’ve created just for this. If you’re interested, click here!
Happy Monday! Today begins our Sexual Healing Series and I’m so excited to begin this journey with you! I’ve been praying for God’s direction for this series and I’ve been praying for you all as well!
A few things before we get started:
Pray for Holy Spirit to be with you and guide you through this process as you won’t be able to do this alone.
Get a prayer partner or accountability partner or join our closed Sexual Healing group on Facebook here.
Be open and honest with yourself and transparent with your prayer partner or accountability person about any struggles or issues you’re having.
Enjoy the journey knowing that God is on your side and is more than willing to heal you!
Philippians 3:12-13 New Living Translation (NLT)
Pressing toward the Goal
12 I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me.13 No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it,[a] but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,
The first time I had sex, I was 14 years old and the guy was 22 years old. I’d just really started taking an interest in guys and was still rather awkward and shy around them but I did notice that I liked the attention that I was getting. My mom had a pretty serious drug and alcohol problem and the attention from the opposite sex proved to be a relief from my current circumstances. He’d told me that no one had to know and that he wouldn’t tell anyone, that everything would be ok. That he would stop if it hurt too badly. I’m thinking, he’s older and he’s cute and out of all the girls, other than his girlfriend that he lived with, across the hall from me, he chose me. So I agreed. When his girlfriend had left, I went over to their apartment and that’s where my I gave away a very precious gift. Only, I didn’t know how precious it was because no one had ever told me, not even my mom, because she didn’t know either. The experience was very painful, not at all like the scripted lies that we see on TV and in the movies. The first person I told was my sister. She knew something was up because of the big smile I had on my face. I was smiling because I’d just done THE thing that everyone talks about. However, I didn’t know that this one event would change my life forever. It lead to lots of heartache, heartbreak, pain, depression, and many pointless relationships.
Path to Healing:
Looking back, all the sexual experiences I had outside of marriage contributed to much pain inside my marriage. Contrary to popular belief, marriage is NOT a magic wand that will make all the pain of your past just disappear! We will definitely cover this in the upcoming sessions of this series! The first important step I had to take was to let go of my past. The enemy, the devil, used my sexual past to try to destroy my marriage. There was so much shame and guilt (which we will also deal with in another session) that I couldn’t enjoy sex with my husband in the beginning of our marriage. In the scripture above, we see that we have to forget those things which are behind and reach toward those things which are ahead. The only way I was able to even approach this was with the help of the Holy Spirit. With each experience that was brought back to the forefront of my mind, He gently told me that I was forgiven and set free, that He didn’t see me as dirty and filthy! When we surrender our lives to Jesus, our sins are remembered no more by God but sometimes we have a hard time of letting go because we haven’t let His words uproot the accusatory and shameful lies that we hold on to. What I had to do was sit and think about what happened to me, all the experiences and give them to God, lay them at the foot of the Cross and leave them there. I had to turn to His word and what He said so that I could embrace Him and who He is and embrace who He says that I am. The enemy told me that I didn’t deserve my husband but God said otherwise. I was also told that God would punish me for my sins and that one day I wouldn’t be able to have children, but God has given me 3 beautiful children! I had to take hold of the new me and let go of the old. Now you have to do the same.
Work it out:
Take some time, sit quietly and go back to your past, this time, knowing that Jesus is with you. Let Him minister to your heart. He never meant for us to experience sex outside of what He created it for. He knew that doing so would cause tremendous hurt and pain. Going back for me, I learned that I couldn’t blame myself for what I didn’t know. I couldn’t blame my mom for what she didn’t know. I don’t care what anyone says, ignorance is not bliss. God let me know that He loved me so much and that His plans for me are so much greater than my pain. Through this process, take time to write out these scriptures and meditate on them throughout the week. Begin to commit them to memory.
1 Corinthians 5: 17
Psalm 139 (I know it’s long but if you don’t want to write the entire thing, pick the verses that speak to you the most)
1 John 1:9
2 Corinthians 3:17
Gracious and loving Father, thank you for your unconditional love, mercy and grace. Thank you Jesus for the forgiveness of sin. I pray for every person who decides to take on this challenge and that you will give them the strength they need to press through. Bring to their remembrance experiences that they need to lay at the foot of the Cross that they may press forward towards all that you have for them! Father, begin to replace the lies that they believe about themselves with your beautiful truths. In Jesus’ name, Amen
I look forward to hearing about your experiences this week and if there are any othre scriptures you’d like to share, questions or you just want to chat with someone who’s walking this same path, join us in the closed Facebook group here!
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Hi! I’m so excited to begin this journey with you through God’s Word! Why am I so excited? I am excited because one of the greatest lies ever told will now be demolished! What’s this lie? The lie is that God has nothing to say about sex! Oh, He has lots to say! For all the questions and doubts you’ve had concerning sex, I challenge you to join in and find out the answers for yourself! This is about you and God, no one else! Take the time to really meditate on God’s Word and let Holy Spirit minister to your heart. Let truth replace all the lies that have been told to you and that you’ve told to yourself.
Over the next thirty-one days, pray for revelation, journal the entire scripture or parts that really hit home for you and meditate on the passages. Let God’s truth set you free. I’ll be following along as well and will, as Holy Spirit leads, post what revelation I get or have gotten from the scriptures as well as how they’ve helped me on my journey to purity and healing from my past hurts. If you need accountability, follow Savin’ it for Hubby on Facebook and post any questions, concerns or any revelation that you’ve received. You will not be on this journey alone. I look forward to hearing from you!
On this day, one year ago I had the scare of my life! I’d just found out a week before that we were expecting and I’d gone for my check up and all was well. My hubby and I couldn’t believe we were expecting again and both were still in shock. Well, he was, I kinda knew it was supposed to happen, somewhat….
Three years ago, we purchased our first home and as we were moving in and unpacking, I heard the Lord say that we would have a third child. We have two daughters, Maya now 10 and Ava now 7, I said, ok Lord, how will we fit another kid in this house, as we were moving into a townhouse. He said that the new baby would fit in our room, which was a pretty nice sized master. I remember telling God, ok, but You will have to speak to hubby on that. Hubbs was not hearing having a third kid, he was just fine with our two girls. Well, fast forward three years to the summer of 2014. I can’t remember where I was or what I was doing but I heard the Spirit say, ” You’re going to have a son named Caleb”. I in turn questioned Him of course and asked, “Ok, Lord, to whom should I relay this message?” because surely it wasn’t meant for me. Hubby made it very clear that we were done having kids. Well, maybe a month or so earlier, I’d gone to hubby again and said that I wanted to try for a boy and of course he said no, so I’d let the matter go, made up in my mind that we were done and made peace with it. After all, I couldn’t force my hubby, so I let it go and put my focus into ministry and making great strides in losing weight and toning my body. I was doing a darn good job may I add! Anyway, back to my story. So, I hear that I”m going to have a son named Caleb and that was during the summer. Well months passed and nothing. I began to question what I’d heard and wrote it off as being a little miffed that I’d wanted a son and hubbs said no but I just couldn’t shake the desire for a son. Everywhere I went I saw little boys playing and cute little baby boys!
Fast forward to October 2014. I was preparing for another session of the purity program that I coordinate and my director and I were out shopping and I felt horrible! Didn’t think nothing of it. She convinced me to buy a pregnancy test and I said fine, ok, whatever. I woke up at 4:37am to go to the bathroom and I figured I may as well take the test get it over with so I could mark it off my list as to why I was feeling so bad. I’m sitting waiting for the test results and I look down on the floor where the test was and the lines were hot pink!! I almost fell off the toilet seat!! I hurry to wake up Hubbs to show him and he was surprisingly calm! I just looked at him as if he was crazy because I was freaking out! I’d made up my mind that I was fine without a third kid! My muscles were defined and my belly was deflating, I was down to my goal size 10!
Called the Dr. the next day and via their calculations, I was 6 weeks pregnant! The following week, I go in for my check up and as I said all was well. A week later, my purity classes begin and I’m at church prepping with my director and we’re chatting. (Hope you’re not sensitive, beware of what’s next) While we’re chatting a get the sensation that feels as if I’m urinating on myself. So I rush to the bathroom and get to the stall, I pull my pants down only to see blood, and lots of it! Then, there was a final gush of blood and fluids and I began to scream and cry out for my director. She comes running and I just start crying and screaming that my baby is gone, my baby is gone!! I remember looking at a clot that was left in my underwear and thinking, this is my baby. I remember telling God, you know, I was fine without the third kid, You didn’t have to do this to me! After I calmed down a little I call my husband and he comes to pick me up and we go to the emergency room. I was a mess, I was so hurt but just wanted the whole ordeal to be over. The wait was grueling, I was given IV, and an unusually long ultrasound. During the ultrasound all I could think was why is she taking so long to find something that isn’t there?
Once the doctors and nurses were done invading my privacy, Hubby and I sat and waited in silence. The Dr came in and asked if the ultrasound tech had told us anything, and we answered no. He then says, well, the baby is still alive and the heartbeat is strong!! Hubbs and I were looking at him as if he had two heads! I was like, what in the world was that gush I felt and all the blood?! Well, turns out I had experienced something called a subchorionic hematoma. This is when there’s extra blood and tissue that your body doesn’t absorb and what isn’t absorbed, is expelled during pregnancy. He told us that although the baby seemed fine, but the placenta was starting to detach and there was still a 50/50 chance of miscarriage. The only thing I could do was go home and try to rest. We get home and I’m a nervous wreck! Every time I went to the bathroom was so scary because I was just waiting for something else to happen and every time I saw even a hint of blood I would cry. This all happened over a weekend and on Monday I went to see my Dr. She did and ultrasound and again the baby was there, all was fine and heartbeat was strong. I asked about the placenta pulling away and she said, “whatever happened, it’s healed now”. I just looked at her and said to myself, Lord, really, what are you up to?! So at this time all we knew was that we were having a baby. Where did this Caleb come from Lord? Well, when you’re over the age of 35, they offer genetic testing and you have the chance to find out early the sex of your child. On Christmas eve, we found out that we were having a boy, this indeed was our son Caleb. I could only laugh! Only God, only God!! My husband just looked at me as if I had two heads lol!
Now, one year later, our son Caleb is almost 5 months old and he is the happiest, cutest baby boy ever! We all are so in love!!
I share this story with you, because I want you to know that no matter how things look, no matter what the circumstances look like or point to, if GOD said it, it will come to pass!!! We just have to stand in faith and trust HIM!!! We have to keep our eyes on Him and focus only on what He has said and not all that we hear going on around us! God said that I would have a son named Caleb and in spite of what I saw in the bathroom that night, in spite of what the Dr told us, our baby boy is here, alive and well and keeping us up at night lol!
Our God is faithful and if He said that you will have something, then believe it and watch Him bring it all to pass!!
Hi! I’m in the process of publishing my first book, y’all pray for me! As I’m in the process of publishing the first one, I’ve started on the second one, which is fiction mixed with a little life truth, and thought I’d share a little teaser 😉
…My God what have I done?! My life is a mess! My heart is a mess! The pain is unbearable. I can barely breathe! It hurts to breathe! I want to cry but the tears won’t come. How did this happen? When did this happen? Why did this happen? To me! Haven’t I gone through enough? The pain of seeing my mom throw her life away and kill herself with drugs and alcohol and now a painful, hurtful marriage! The entire marriage has been painful! God, my soul hurts, it aches. Words can’t describe the hurt and pain and disappointment, anger, frustration and hopelesness.
With you there’s always hope, right? I feel sick to my stomach with grief. Who am I? What do I do now? God I have begged you, pleaded, cried, prayed that you would take these feelings away. But you haven’t. Why have me continue to love someone I can never have and worst yet, he still loves me! He’s honored that I still love him, but my husband could care less about me! All he does is tear me down to nothing! He never misses a chance to remind me of my mistakes! As if he’s perfect and has never done anything wrong! My God will this pain ever stop?! What do I do now God? I don’t want to fail you. I don’t want to go to hell, I want to please you but how when I know you know what’s in my heart. Am I gonna go to hell for feeling this way? If only I’d truly known you sooner, if I ‘d been stronger, if I’d fought, fought for Gavin’s love. I told Evan it was over, it hurts too bad to love him, it’s painful loving him. He doesn’t know how to love me. He’s all about himself. There’s no we, just him. His wants, his needs.
God, I don’t know how much more of this emptiness I can take! How do I get out of this? I trust you Lord, now what do you want me to do? First Peter 3 is too hard and too painful to do. I don’t even know if I still want to be married or not. I just want this to be over. I still can’t breathe, how can I rest and sleep feeling like this? I don’t, I can’t talk to him, I don’t know what to say. Too much pain and he just doesn’t get it. He just can’t seem to understand me. Sometimes I wish I could press the reset button but then I wouldn’t have my children. I want to cry, maybe the pain will stop but I don’t want to wake the kids, the tears won’t come anyway.
This really is my life. This is a bunch of BS! I keep hoping that I’ll wake up from a bad dream. Who knew wanting and getting love and affection from your husband would be so hard! Holy Spirit and Jesus I hope you’re truly interceding for me now because I no longer know what to pray or ask for except for this pain to stop.
Now that I look back, the signs were all there, the warnings, the words of wisdom; I didn’t listen. Even the fights before the engagement, the sense of relief during our temporary break-up. Nope, I listened to Evan. “Have faith in me” he said. I was so stupid! Why in the world did I think that marriage would change things? Maybe because I knew nothing about marriage to begin with. I should have known something was wrong because I thought of Gavin on the day of our wedding. Who thinks of another man on her wedding day? Even our wedding night was awkward. The signs were all there yet I ignored them. And now I’m in the biggest mess of my life! Lord, please save me from myself….
So, what’cha think? Would you keep reading? This is my first time attempting fiction so be gentle :-). I shall continue writing! Until next time…
Ever had something so weird happen to you or circumstances that are out of the ordinary happen to you that wouldn’t normally happen? For instance, if you’re a very peaceable person and then out of no where something happens between you and another person and in that incident you’re totally misunderstood? Or, you’re in a situation that is beyond your control but somehow you get dragged in and it’s drama that you normally try to avoid like the plague? Or, you have an issue with a friend, boyfriend, parent, etc. Yeah, those type of things that get under your skin, hurt your feelings, tick you off and poke at your heart because it’s so not you! I mean, really how in the world did I get in to this, right?
Well, let me offer a little encouragement, roll with it. Yes, roll with it. Here’s why, in every situation, there’s a lesson to be learned. In a situation I was in, I found once the smoke cleared, that God was trying to teach me something about Him, myself and others. What a concept huh? So, instead of getting your panties in a bunch and allowing the enemy to beat you up, stop and ask God what in the world is going on? What is it that He’s trying to teach you, get you to see? God is purposeful and doesn’t waste a thing. A few lessons I’ve learned are:
1. People are people are people: No matter the status or stature, we all have junk. Don’t think that just because someone says they are a Christian or if someone is a leader or boss or seems to have it all together that they can’t or won’t do something crazy or in your eyes, unexpected because they will, they are human.
2. God will use people and experiences in your life to either grow you, protect or discipline you. No, it doesn’t feel good but it’s worth it and helpful. I believe the chaos in the situation is used to divert our attention as well, which may keep us out of something that we’re not supposed to be involved in.
3. Pain brings about change and enlightenment. Sometimes we choose to ignore the lesson and go right back and do it again but it is the hope that we will learn from our mistakes, embrace the change and move forward.
4. Out of the ordinary experiences teach us to heed the voice of the Holy Spirit for guidance. Sometimes these experiences are how God tries to get our attention. Listen up!
We all go through changes in our lives, some good, some bad. Some much needed and some unexpected. Change can bring us such great joy or it can feel as if our lives are falling apart, as if your heart is being ripped from your chest! Whether we like it or not, change is inevitable.
Over the past 3 years, my life has changed dramatically! I quit my job in 2010 because God said that it was time to go but I thought it was just to leave that particular job and go to another, but not so! Little did I know God had something else in store for me, something huge and beyond me! Something that would require my whole life to be changed, shaken and reformed! I’m still in preparation and right now the it doesn’t feel good at all!!! BUT, I know who’s in control and I know that He has me. If you’re a child of God and you have said “Lord, I surrender my life to you” then hold on for the ride of your life!
Jesus came to die for our sins, when we surrender our lives to Him, we die to our sins. That death to our sins is not always easy but it’s necessary for our lives. The change can be painful at times but in the end it’s so good for us, it’s life for us. But because we still have flesh, we die kicking and screaming because we don’t want to change because change doesn’t always feel good. We want what feels good, right?! God is more concerned about the development of our character and changing our hearts than our comfort. He said He would never leave nor forsake us, but He never said that this journey would be easy.
We all have things about us that we need to change or would like to change, but it’s a great relief to know that we don’t have to go through the process of change alone. God is patient and gentle with us, gently nudging us in the way we should go, shoot I know sometimes He’s had to drag me! But out of His great love, He changes us, gently and lovingly. So if you’re in some stuff and you know you shouldn’t be or have somethings about you that you want to change, don’t worry about having to do it all by yourself because you can’t, that’s why Jesus died for us. We are incapable, without Jesus. He will help you! All you have to do is ask and obey! He didn’t come to condemn but to save and love us. Talk to Him about the things you want to change, need to change but just can’t seem to do and trust Him to help you because He will, He’s just waiting on the invitation!