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Be blessed & encouraged,
Be blessed & encouraged,
Join Co-Facilitators Shannon Taylor – Author of “Love, Jesus, Sex & Founder of “Savin’ it for Hubby” and Melissa Walthour – “Fruit of my Branches” in an open and very candid discussion. It’s sure to be an amazing time!!! THIS IS A FREE EVENT!
I saw this BET sponsored picture as I was scrolling through my Instagram feed and immediately my heart was arrested! This picture speaks volumes!! I stopped scrolling and went upstairs to start laundry but Holy Spirit wouldn’t leave me alone and He brought this scripture to mind:
Revelation 18:4-5 (NLT)
4 Then I heard another voice calling from heaven,
“Come away from her, my people.
Do not take part in her sins,
or you will be punished with her.
5 For her sins are piled as high as heaven,
and God remembers her evil deeds.
God means what He says about us being Holy as He is holy (1 Peter 1:16). He clearly tells us not to take part in the sins of this world! If you are are woman of God, especially a single woman of God, why oh why would you want to soak this type of behavior into your mind? If you think it doesn’t affect your thinking you’re wrong. It’s not just entertainment either! The prince of the air knows exactly what he’s doing (Ephesians 2:2). Even if you’re not living your life as Mary Jane, taking in behaviors such as this, we can become tolerable and even accepting of this behavior. It’s exactly what the enemy wants! Look at the caption! There’s still time to become obsessed! Seriously?! We spend more time soaking in the world instead of the Word and become dumb and defenseless to the tactics of the enemy! Seriously, I can hear the enemy and see his work all in this picture. When we say yes to God, we’ve joined the battle against the kingdom of darkness. In wars, there’s fighting going on and if you don’t know how to fight or use your weapon, then you die! The Word of God is our sword and if you don’t know what it says and warns us of, you will be taken down!
What’s so heartbreaking is what this show, this picture is portraying. She’s given her body away to someone who isn’t her husband, probably several people, guys who are very attractive, and yet she still doesn’t have what she wants! All she’s done is tie her soul to several guys and now her life is a hot mess categorized as drama and entertainment! The pain in her face says it all! If you’re searching for a Godly man and want to be in a godly relationship then why are you feeding this stuff to your spirit?! If you are a child of the living God, with His Spirit living in you and you know that He’s with you every where you go then how do you think He feels about this?! This goes for married women as well! Why do you watch this? You’re not immune to the effects of satan’s ploys just because you’ve said “I do”. Especially if you’re going through some not so pleasant issues right now in your marriage. Sisters, don’t underestimate the power that the prince of the air has as far as deception goes (Ephesians 2:2). You’re giving him permission by agreeing with the sin that’s promoted through this show and other shows such as Scandal and Insecure! If you’re still single and wondering why you’re still only attracting a certain type of guy, then check yourself! What are you doing, how are you acting and what type of signal is your spirit sending. God warns His sons of the “strange woman” in the book of Proverbs (Proverbs 5:3-23). Are you the one He’s warning His son about? Why would any woman of God want to be Mary Jane when God has called us to be so very much more! We are His daughters! The daughters of the King, the Creator of the Universe!
Call me dramatic if you want but God is serious! The enemy is serious too! Be mindful of what you’re taking in! The Bible tells us that the enemy prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour! (1 Peter 5:8) Keep your guards up sisters, the enemy is very crafty, look at how he deceived Eve! If what you’re watching, listening to, or the people you’re hanging around are not bringing you closer to God, then it’s time to step away! To read more about living a life that’s pleasing to God, whether single or married, check out my new book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned!
Be blessed & encouraged,
As most of you may know, I just published my very first book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned, and I’m having a book release party on Friday, July 15, 2017 at 6pm! See flyer for details and I look forward to meeting some of you face to face!!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Finally! It’s here! My book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned is available for purchase! I’m so excited and nervous! I pray that this book blesses you and brings you closer to our Lord & Savior, the lover of our souls, Jesus Christ!! God bless you and thank you for all your faithful support, love and prayers!!
So, in case you’re wondering, a bit about the book:
Who is it for? Any woman, any age, married, single, divorced. Men can read it too for various insight :-).
What is it about? This book is my heart. It tells my story and through my story I share a little of what I’ve learned about love, Jesus & sex and marriage. I share what so many of us wishes that our mom would have shared with us!
When is a good time to read this book? Now! Share it with your daughters, mothers, aunts, sister, friend, mentees, mentors, small group!
Where? Any where! While I am very straightforward, it’s done very tastefully, tactfully and in much love! So don’t be afraid to share it in church! Afterall, isn’t church where we’re supposed to learn the truth about sex?
Why? I share this book, my stories, because I want to spare others the pain and heartache I went through, I want my sisters to be free and I want them to know TRUTH!!
How? You can purchase my book here!!!
Thank you again for your love and support! When you receive your book, use the hashtag #lovejesussex and let me know what you think!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Scripture: Hebrews 13:4 (NIV) Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
There is this very huge misunderstanding that sex equals love. It so does not! If only I’d learned this in my teen years. Sex outside of marriage, “good” sex outside of marriage, clouds your vision, makes you feel as if you’re in love but all it does is blind you to the things that you really need to pay attention too. For instance, my hubby and I had sex with others and each other before we were married. It wasn’t until after we were married that all of our junk came out. Did you catch that? Marriage has a way of bringing all of your junk to the surface. I truly believe the reason some marriages don’t work is because when the junk comes to the surface, instead of people dealing with it and offering mercy and grace, they run and sadly in some cases, they take the junk with them to the next relationship. Again, marriage doesn’t erase your past!
My sexual brokenness is what brought me to full surrender to God. I couldn’t deal with the pain. The more I learned about God, His heart for me, His purpose and reason for creating sex, I realized what a mess I was! I felt so much guilt and shame. Well, why, Shannon, why did you feel this? It’s just sex right? WRONG! Sex is not just sex! Never was, never is, never will be. Sex is an act of worship. Yes, think about it, it’s powerful isn’t it? Women use it to get what they want, or to validate who they are as a woman because of their physical attributes. Men use it to make them feel like a man, as if they’ve conquered or accomplished something based on how much sex they can get. Satan uses it to destroy us. But God created it to create life. Sex has the power to create life! That’s power!
God tells us in His Word to work at all things as unto Him (Colossians 3:23-24). Not only this but to offer our bodies as a living and holy sacrifice, which is the way to truly worship Him. “And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice–the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him (NLT).
Growing up I was never taught this! I wasn’t even taught to value myself, only to not get pregnant. So I worshipped the enemy with my body. I praised my flesh, I gave in. Ungodly soul ties were formed. Heartbreak happened almost to the point of my destruction. But God! He sent Jesus to save me and you! Praise God for this! I am redeemed and restored and am able to enjoy sex freely as God intended with my husband. My husband, the only one who truly deserves to know me intimately. The thing I regret the most is that my husband was not my first. No one else deserved that honor, that privilege. Again, thank God for Jesus!
Path to Healing:
How did I deal with the lies that I’d believed about sex? Finding out the truth of course! The truth will set you free! (John 8:32). I have found that some married women find it hard to have sex with their husbands because they haven’t dealt with their own pasts and have believed the lies that they’ve been taught about sex. Some have been taught that sex is nasty, you’re not supposed to enjoy it, there are certain things you shouldn’t do in the marriage bed even though God says the marriage bed is undefiled (Hebrews 13:4). I struggled with believing that because of my past, I wasn’t supposed to enjoy sex in marriage and I also believed that I wasn’t supposed to do certain things because “God was watching”! I’m so very glad that I found out that these were lies! Sex in the covenant of marriage is beyond beautiful! I understand why God created it for marriage. It allows you and your spouse to communicate in ways that words can’t express! There’s freedom in being vulnerable with the one God has blessed you to be with, your union has been blessed by Him. He sees what you’re doing and He’s pleased, not repulsed and not grieved! Sex outside of marriage grieves the Holy Spirit! And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. (NLT) Sex within marriage helps you through rough times, it’s like glue, it helps to keep you together, bonding and sealing your relationship. I will say this, the enemy works hard to get you to have sex outside of marriage and he works hard to get you to NOT have sex when you’re married. Another trick he uses to destroy marriages.
I had to think about all the lies that I’d been told and I had to totally renew my mind about sex.
Lies I believed:
Work it out:
1 Corinthians 6:19 (NIV) Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
What does this mean to you, for you? Holy Spirit lives in us so we should be extra careful of what we allow to enter our bodies mentally, physically and spiritually. What are some things/people who you need to change/let go of? Do you need to get help with help with a porn addiction? Do you need to cut off unhealthy relationships? Break some soul ties? Write down your own wrong and unhealthy thoughts about sex and find out what God has to say about them. Don’t know where to start? Pray and ask God for wisdom and He will give it to you freely! Below I’ve listed scriptures and links to a few resources to get your started. I pray that you will take advantage of what’s offered and go forth in getting the healing that you need.
Porn Addiction: https://www.xxxchurch.com/
Tips on not having sex and breaking soul ties: How Not to Have Sex
Gracious and loving Father, thank you for your unconditional love, mercy and grace. Thank you Jesus for the forgiveness of sin. I pray for every person who’s dealing with their sexuality whether single or married. I pray you will restore and rejuvenate the marriage bed of the marriages represented here. I pray that you would heal both spouses in this area and that their marriage would thrive and be a testimony of your greatness! I pray that all lies of sex be removed and destroyed and replaced with your truth! I pray for ungodly soul ties to be broken, porn addictions and other unhealthy addictions healed in the name of Jesus! I pray that Your truth about sex will overcome all the lies told us by the enemy! I pray for healing and wholeness in their hearts and minds. I pray for marriages to begin the healing process and I pray for wisdom and guidance for those preparing to be married. Lead them to wise counsel Lord and I pray that they take heed to all that they learn. I pray that all will continue to press forward towards all that you have for them! In Jesus’ name, Amen
I look forward to hearing about your experiences this week and if there are any other scriptures you’d like to share, questions or you just want to chat with someone who’s walking this same path, join us in the closed Facebook group here!
Be blessed & encouraged,
I know, it’s been a while. But, when God says to pause, I pause and when He says to move, I move. It’s now time to move, to do something new. I thought that the time was done for Savin’ it for Hubby but God was preparing me to move it in a different direction.
This new direction if for those of us that are no longer virgins but have decided to follow Christ and are now wondering, so now what? Where do I go from here? What so many of us fail to see is the brokenness that remains because of our past sexual decisions. So God led me to my own story of redemption. How did I get past my past, my hurts. What’s my “after Christ” story? He showed me that a lot of His daughters are here, married, single or divorced. So, beginning next week, Monday May 8th, 2017, we’ll begin a series called “Sexual Healing”. I know the Marvin Gaye song just popped into your head, sorry, but this will have nothing to do with him!
God didn’t lead me to teach about purity until after I was already married and a lot of people believe that marriage takes away the need for purity and that’s a huge lie! Purity still matters in marriage! Also, many of you aspire to be married but I’ve found that many women think that getting married will take away all the pain, heartache and heartbreak from their past, also another huge lie!
Well, in this series I will go back to my story, and through it walk with you on the path to sexual healing. I will teach you what God taught me. I’ll share about how I had to forgive myself, others and even deal with my anger towards God! I’ll also share how all we will ever need comes from Him and that having a spouse should be an addition to your wholeness and not meant to complete you. Also, I’ll cover redemption, restoration, and how to go to God in dealing with loneliness which can also happen in marriage! There will be questions and lots of scriptures so be prepared with your Bible and your favorite journal or notebook and pretty pens! Transparency is key for this to be successful and it won’t be an easy walk but it will be so worth it!
So, will you make plans to join me? Jump in with both feet, an open heart and mind? Find an accountability partner and lets get healed! I’ve created a Facebook Group just for this series. This is where we can dialog, questions can be asked, answered and we can share what we’re learning as well. This is a closed group. If you’re interested, the link to the group is below and I will approve you for access. I’m praying with and for you!
FB Group Link: Click here
Be blessed & encouraged,
So, you’ve decided to stop having sex outside of marriage but man, seriously, those urges didn’t just up and disappear because you said yes to God, right? If anything, in some instances, they’ve probably gotten worse, right? Yeah, I know. Well, there are some things you must understand first in order to be successful in your walk of purity.
First, you have to understand that this is a spiritual battle. It’s not just against your fleshly desires. Second, there’s no way on this earth that you can walk this walk alone. Third, realizing that something in you has been awakened prematurely and only God can put it back to sleep. And fourth, this will require some work on your part as well.
What in the world am I talking about? Well, I’ll tell you a few things, without typing a dissertation:
Contrary to what we’ve all been told, sex, including oral, was reserved for marriage. A gift from God to married couples. We see evidence of this act in the book of Genesis (Genesis 4:1). Sex was also created by God. Which means, He knows why He created it and what happens when it’s done outside of why it was created. God meant for sex to be good and pleasurable and this is what gets us into trouble. We all agree that it’s good and pleasurable! Guess who also knows this about sex? Satan. Remember I said that this is a spiritual battle (Ephesians 6:10-18). Satan has succeeded in perverting this act and taking it out of the context of why it was created therefore instead of sex being a blessing for marriage and procreation, it has become a curse because it has been abused and the marriage bed defiled.
Now, on to why you still want sex. You still want it because you’ve been awakened in this area and because the power of sex is not easily shaken. It’s binding, sex joins you to another person, you become one with this person. Sounds familiar? Yes because this is what happens in marriage (Genesis 2: 23-24). In the Bible we are warned in Song of Solomon (2:7) not to awaken love before its time and not just sex but allowing someone to become so intimate with you emotionally as well. For women, this is how we are taken down. Our emotions! Ok…….
From Pastor Chris Simpson, New Wine Christian Fellowship http://www.newwineonline.com:
STEPS TO BREAKING UNGODLY SOUL TIES:
SOUL TIE BREAKING PRAYER
“In the name of Jesus Christ I now renounce, break and loose myself from all demonic subjection and any ungodly soul ties and unhealthy bondings with the following people: (break soul ties with each person that comes to mind)”
“Lord, I ask you to do whatever it takes to break me of my tendencies to: obsessive preoccupations, domination, control, passivity, apathy, unforgiveness, anger, blame, accusations, fear, intimidation and disobedience in relationships.”
“Finally, in the name of Jesus, I declare every demonic hold in my life that has come as a result of unhealthy soul ties null and void. Satan, I renounce you and your demons and command you to depart from my spirit, soul and body!”
There’s temptation everywhere at any given time. We all know this. We have to learn how to navigate through this mess. We can’t see everything that’s coming at us but God can. You may still have sexual urges but they don’t have to rule you. The Bible tells us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18). When you don’t have the energy or “want to” to flee, pray, I guarantee you, God will show up. Do you trust God to help you with this? You have to surrender your sex life to Him. Trust Him to bring along the one He chose for you. Also, if you do fall, repent, get up and keep fighting. Don’t condemn yourself because God doesn’t condemn you. He wants you to have His best. Don’t settle just because you’re horny. Find some emergency verses, an item that will remind you that you can do this, remind you of why you’re doing this, whether it’s a purity ring or bracelet (such as our signature bracelet :-)). Have some emergency phone numbers too. Know what your triggers are. If Valentine’s day is a trigger, make plans with friends or family so that you can head off temptation to fall back into old habits. God will honor and bless your efforts! Don’t forget to do your part! God will handle what you can’t! Feel free to share anything that’s helped you as well!
Be blessed and encouraged,
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If you’re a girl in grade 6th-12th or know a girl in this age range then they are in for a day filled with speakers sharing their testimony, fun activities, breakout sessions of their choice, and drawing closer to Jesus as He shows the girls their true identity.
Many volunteers and staff are ready to pour love and laughter into the girls in middle and high school. Breakfast and Lunch is provided and if they pre-register now, they get a free t-shirt. From life lessons to testimonies, these leaders are Rising Up to share from their heart. An event a teen girl doesn’t want to miss! I hope to see you there!!!
Online registration will close Jan. 24., but doors are open for walk-in registration.
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