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The Past is the Past (Sexual Healing Series)

Happy Monday! Today begins our Sexual Healing Series and I’m so excited to begin this journey with you! I’ve been praying for God’s direction for this series and I’ve been praying for you all as well!

A few things before we get started:

  • Pray for Holy Spirit to be with you and guide you through this process as you won’t be able to do this alone.
  • Get a prayer partner or accountability partner or join our closed Sexual Healing group on Facebook here.
  • Be open and honest with yourself and transparent with your prayer partner or accountability person about any struggles or issues you’re having.
  • Enjoy the journey knowing that God is on your side and is more than willing to heal you!

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Scripture: 

Philippians 3:12-13 New Living Translation (NLT)

Pressing toward the Goal

12 I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. 13 No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it,[a] but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,


The first time I had sex, I was 14 years old and the guy was 22 years old. I’d just really started taking an interest in guys and was still rather awkward and shy around them but I did notice that I liked the attention that I was getting. My mom had a pretty serious drug and alcohol problem and the attention from the opposite sex proved to be a relief from my current circumstances. He’d told me that no one had to know and that he wouldn’t tell anyone, that everything would be ok.  That he would stop if it hurt too badly. I’m thinking, he’s older and he’s cute and out of all the girls, other than his girlfriend that he lived with, across the hall from me, he chose me. So I agreed. When his girlfriend had left, I went over to their apartment and that’s where my I gave away a very precious gift. Only, I didn’t know how precious it was because no one had ever told me, not even my mom, because she didn’t know either. The experience was very painful, not at all like the scripted lies that we see on TV and in the movies. The first person I told was my sister. She knew something was up because of the big smile I had on my face. I was smiling because I’d just done THE thing that everyone talks about. However, I didn’t know that this one event would change my life forever. It lead to lots of heartache, heartbreak, pain, depression, and many pointless relationships.

Path to Healing:

Looking back, all the sexual experiences I had outside of marriage contributed to much pain inside my marriage.  Contrary to popular belief, marriage is NOT a magic wand that will make all the pain of your past just disappear! We will definitely cover this in the upcoming sessions of this series! The first important step I had to take was to let go of my past. The enemy, the devil, used my sexual past to try to destroy my marriage. There was so much shame and guilt (which we will also deal with in another session) that I couldn’t enjoy sex with my husband in the beginning of our marriage. In the scripture above, we see that we have to forget those things which are behind and reach toward those things which are ahead. The only way I was able to even approach this was with the help of  the Holy Spirit. With each experience that was brought back to the forefront of my mind, He gently told me that I was forgiven and set free, that He didn’t see me as dirty and filthy! When we surrender our lives to Jesus, our sins are remembered no more by God but sometimes we have a hard time of letting go because we haven’t let His words uproot the accusatory and shameful lies that we hold on to. What I had to do was sit and think about what happened to me, all the experiences and give them to God, lay them at the foot of the Cross and leave them there. I had to turn to His word and what He said so that I could embrace Him and who He is and embrace who He says that I am. The enemy told me that I didn’t deserve my husband but God said otherwise. I was also told that God would punish me for my sins and that one day I wouldn’t be able to have children, but God has given me 3 beautiful children! I had to take hold of the new me and let go of the old. Now you have to do the same.

Work it out:

Take some time, sit quietly and go back to your past, this time, knowing that Jesus is with you. Let Him minister to your heart. He never meant for us to experience sex outside of what He created it for. He knew that doing so would cause tremendous hurt and pain. Going back for me, I learned that I couldn’t blame myself for what I didn’t know. I couldn’t blame my mom for what she didn’t know. I don’t care what anyone says, ignorance is not bliss. God let me know that He loved me so much and that His plans for me are so much greater than my pain. Through this process, take time to write out these scriptures and meditate on them throughout the week. Begin to commit them to memory.

  1. Philippians 3:12-13
  2. 1 Corinthians 5: 17
  3. Matthew 11:28-30
  4. Psalm 139 (I know it’s long but if you don’t want to write the entire thing, pick the verses that speak to you the most)
  5. Jeremiah 19:11
  6. 1 John 1:9
  7. Isaiah 43:18-19
  8. Galatians 2:20
  9. 2 Corinthians 3:17

Prayer:

Gracious and loving Father, thank you for your unconditional love, mercy and grace. Thank you Jesus for the forgiveness of sin.  I pray for every person who decides to take on this challenge and that you will give them the strength they need to press through. Bring to their remembrance experiences that they need to lay at the foot of the Cross that they may press forward towards all that you have for them! Father, begin to replace the lies that they believe about themselves with your beautiful truths. In Jesus’ name, Amen

I look forward to hearing about your experiences this week and if there are any othre scriptures you’d like to share, questions or you just want to chat with someone who’s walking this same path, join us in the closed Facebook group here!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Women 4 Christ Prayer Call

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Hi!

Join Savin’ it for Hubby Founder, Shannon Taylor (me :-)) and Women 4 Christ this Saturday morning at 7:00 am EST as we go before the Lord in prayer & praise ! Tune In to Be Blessed! You won’t want to miss this message!

Phone Number:1-712-775-7031

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Be blessed & encouraged!

Shannon

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Are You a Fountain or a Drain?

image (1)Hi!! Next month I get the awesome opportunity to be one of the speakers at an amazing women’s conference and the theme is “Are You a Fountain or a Drain?” I’m so looking forward to this event! This event is being given by a sister-friend of mine, Minister Galetha Beard. She’s the president of their ministry called Women of Vision. SIFH has been partnering with this ministry for the past 3 years and love everything they stand for!

Now, if you’re in Georgia and would love to attend this event and be refreshed, encouraged and challenged, it will be on November 7th and the cost is $20.00, food included! Not bad for a women’s event, huh?  Below, is the link where you can find the details and register for the event. I really hope to see you there!

 

Are You a Fountain or a Drain? Women’s Event

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Soul Ties

What is a sosoul ties redul tie?

“A soul tie is the joining or knitting together of the bonds of a relationship. Godly soul ties occur
when like-minded believers are together in the Lord: friends, marriage partners, believers to
pastors, etc. Relationships that lack ‘God-centeredness’ can result in ungodly soul ties between
friends, parents and children, siblings, marriage partners, former romantic or sexual partners,
domineering authorities, etc. An unhealthy attachment with another can bring about a psychic
control that can adversely affect the life, e.g. a mother who refuses to relinquish her hold on her
children (tied to her apron strings), a person who refuses to release to the Lord the memory of an
old romantic flame (withdrawing into nostalgia in times of loneliness), a person who holds a grudge
or a judgment against another, someone who uses spiritual forces to control others (witchcraft),
etc.”

Prayer for breaking ungodly soul ties:

“In the name of Jesus Christ I now renounce, break and loose myself from all demonic subjection and any
ungodly soul ties and unhealthy bondings with the following people: (break soul ties with each person that
comes to mind)”

“Lord, I ask you to do whatever it takes to break me of my tendencies to: obsessive preoccupations,
domination, control, passivity, apathy, unforgiveness, anger, blame, accusations, fear, intimidation and
disobedience in relationships.”

“Finally, in the name of Jesus, I declare every demonic hold in my life that has come as a result of
unhealthy soul ties null and void. Satan, I renounce you and your demons and command you to depart
from my spirit, soul and body!”

(courtesy of New Wine Christian Fellowshiphttp://www.newwineonline.com)

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God of the Storm

Sometimes things happen to us in our lives that are painful, like gut wrenching pain.  The first question we ask is why. Why did this have to happen to me? Why now? It never makes sense in the midst of it.  It just hurts. No one can offer any solace; although they mean well, their words don’t seem to take the pain away.  Somehow in the midst of all this pain you find that you get through the day and wake up the next morning realizing somehow you made it through.  What we don’t realize is that in the pain, there’s something bigger and greater going on that’s being orchestrated by Someone who’s bigger and greater than the pain we feel. When my mom died a month after I had my first daughter, my heart was crushed! My mom had only seen her granddaughter once before she died! Just imagine; after giving birth, via C-section, your mom pass and you are left with weird hormonal feelings, soreness, swollen breasts, a new baby and new husband with no guidance what so ever! I was angry, hurt and very disappointed! Many thoughts and questions consumed my mind. Why did she have to die after my baby was born? Why now Lord? I don’t know what I’m doing!  I need my mom! My baby girl (either of them, because now I have two daughters) would never know her grandmother! Who would I call when I had questions without my mom here? Who would I talk to about all I was going through on this new journey I’d embarked on?  Well, when I asked the Lord why, He heard my cry and gave me an answer as to why.  Now, keep in mind He didn’t have to tell me anything. He is God, but He is also love and He is close to the broken-hearted (Psalm 34:18).   As painful as it was, I understood why and He gave me comfort in His answer.  In spite of the loss of my mom, I became a great mother and wife and God gave me spiritual moms to provide guidance and comfort along the way. As a result of my mom’s death, our family became closer and it deepened my relationship with my sister.  I also feel that my mom’s death made me appreciate life more, realizing it is short and precious. So, I have to make the most of every moment I have with my daughters.

It is important to realize that although we go through pain, God sees all and He will help us through it.  After all, He did say that He would never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5).  In this pain, I have found strength that I didn’t know I had and I have come to know God more intimately.  He became my mother and my father.  He has become all that I need and will ever need on this life journey.  Here are some pearls of wisdom I have learned that I want to share with you in hopes it will give you peace in the middle of your storm (pain).

  1. God, even though He loves us beyond words, is more interested in building our character than He is in our comfort. It doesn’t feel good and it all seems bad but, we know that in all things God works things out for the good of those who love His, who are the called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28).
  2. God is purposeful.  He uses every tear, every joy, every heartache and pain to mold and shape us into what He created us to be. He is the potter; we are the clay (Isaiah 64:8).
  3. What we go through, whether good or bad, it’s for God’s glory and to help someone else along the way. We shouldn’t be afraid to share our story with others especially if you’re getting the nudge from the Lord to do so.  God has a great way of orchestrating divine connections.  You never know, your testimony may be just what the other person needed to lead them to God.  We need each other and God didn’t mean for us to go through life alone.  (John 13:34-35)
  4. What we go through will either cause us to run to God or run away from Him, the choice is ours. You will never be alone if you run to Him!
  5. He’s waiting to love on us and strengthen us through our pain.
  6. Most importantly, I’ve learned that through pain, comes purpose! Through the pain and consequences of premarital sex, came my purpose/ministry, Savin’ it for Hubby.  By me sharing my story, I help others see that they are not alone, God still loves them and wants them, and He has taken away all shame and guilt and most of all He is the Great Restorer!

I don’t know what painful situation you’re in right now but God does and will be with you through it all if you ask Him too.  If you’re going through a divorce, He still loves you and will take care of you. If you have lost someone dear to you, He will be there to wipe every tear away. (Isaiah 25:8) Nothing is too hard for God to handle! (Jeremiah 32:17). So, release your pain, trust Him and let Him give you rest.

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Withholding Goods

Proverbs 3:27-28 (NKJV)

27 Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due,
When it is in the power of your hand to do so.
28 Do not say to your neighbor,
“Go, and come back,
And tomorrow I will give it,”
When you have it with you.

God uses us, His people, to bless others. Often we pray for something or are in need of something and we don’t get it because the person that God wants to use to bless you, decides that they don’t want to do what God told them to do. They may choose not to because takes them out of their comfort zone or God could have touched on a sore spot of plain selfishness. But think about it, what if you were the one in need or your child was the one in need? Wouldn’t you want someone to move when God told them to? We have to be the change we want to see. You never know what you may be sitting on or hoarding in your garage, the one thing that your neighbor needs and because of your selfishness or your disobedience, that person goes without. God loves a cheerful giver and most of the time you get back what you’ve given but please don’t let that be your motivation. Give out of love, love should be your motivation. Plus, you never know when you may need help and trust me, the day will come. There will come a time when we will all have to depend on each other and share our belongings but isn’t that what God wanted us to do anyway? What happened to the Acts 2 church? LOVE ANYWAY! It’s not about you or how you feel, it’s about God. He’s the One who gave you all that you have anyway! You didn’t get it on your own and it can quickly be taken away from you! You can’t say that you’re a Christian but when you’re called to do something for God, you decide not to do so! It’s not about you, show LOVE ANYWAY!

Be blessed & encouraged, 

Shannon