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So, How Do I Stop Having Premarital Sex?

So, you’ve decided to stop having sex outside of marriage but man, seriously, those urges didn’t just up and disappear because you said yes to God, right? If anything, in some instances, they’ve probably gotten worse, right? Yeah, I know. Well, there are some things you must understand first in order to be successful in your walk of purity.

First, you have to understand that this is a spiritual battle. It’s not just against your fleshly desires. Second, there’s no way on this earth that you can walk this walk alone. Third, realizing that something in you has been awakened prematurely and only God can put it back to sleep. And fourth, this will require some work on your part as well.

What in the world am I talking about? Well, I’ll tell you a few things, without typing a dissertation:

Contrary to what we’ve all been told, sex, including oral, was reserved for marriage.  A gift from God to married couples.  We see evidence of this act in the book of Genesis (Genesis 4:1). Sex was also created by God. Which means, He knows why He created it and what happens when it’s done outside of why it was created. God meant for sex to be good and pleasurable and this is what gets us into trouble.  We all agree that it’s good and pleasurable! Guess who also knows this about sex? Satan. Remember I said that this is a spiritual battle (Ephesians 6:10-18). Satan has succeeded in perverting this act and taking it out of the context of why it was created therefore instead of sex being a blessing for marriage and procreation, it has become a curse because it has been abused and the marriage bed defiled.

Now, on to why you still want sex. You still want it because you’ve been awakened in this area and because the power of sex is not easily shaken.  It’s binding, sex joins you to another person, you become one with this person. Sounds familiar? Yes because this is what happens in marriage (Genesis 2: 23-24). In the Bible we are warned in Song of Solomon (2:7) not to awaken love before its time and not just sex but allowing someone to become so intimate with you emotionally as well. For women, this is how we are taken down. Our emotions! Ok…….

  1. If you haven’t done so, soul ties that have been formed with anyone you’ve had sex with must be broken.

From Pastor Chris Simpson, New Wine Christian Fellowship http://www.newwineonline.com:  

STEPS TO BREAKING UNGODLY SOUL TIES:

  • Confess any and all ungodly ties to the Lord. Repent from your heart for violating God’s ordained boundaries in your relationships.
  • Make a solemn commitment to the Lord to break off any relationship that is not pure or righteous in His eyes. Become accountable to others to help you keep that commitment. Until you do that, any prayers for freedom are in vain. I’ve actually had people ask me to break their unhealthy soul ties so that when they got together again (in their illicit relationship), they wouldn’t feel all those bad spirits. However, God is not mocked. Reinforce your requests to the Lord with a commitment to obey.
  • Before praying, do whatever is necessary for the anointing of the Holy Spirit to come. This is so important. Pray, wait, forgive, or worship. Once His presence and anointing is present, then proceed with the soul tie breaking prayer. It’s the anointing that breaks the yoke. The ties won’t break with a simple prayer from the mind. The anointed power of the Holy Spirit must be present to be effective.

SOUL TIE BREAKING PRAYER 

“In the name of Jesus Christ I now renounce, break and loose myself from all demonic subjection and any ungodly soul ties and unhealthy bondings with the following people: (break soul ties with each person that comes to mind)”

“Lord, I ask you to do whatever it takes to break me of my tendencies to: obsessive preoccupations, domination, control, passivity, apathy, unforgiveness, anger, blame, accusations, fear, intimidation and disobedience in relationships.”

“Finally, in the name of Jesus, I declare every demonic hold in my life that has come as a result of unhealthy soul ties null and void. Satan, I renounce you and your demons and command you to depart from my spirit, soul and body!”

  1. Once the ties have been broken, check your circle. Who do you hang with? Are they trying to walk the same walk as you? If not, then you might need to break up with them too!
  2. What are you watching, reading, listening to? All of this plays a part in the success of walking in purity. Purity is more than not having sex, it’s making sure that our heart and mind lines up with the word of God. If you’re watching things like Being Mary Jane, Scandal and Love and Hip Hop, then you’ll likely be influenced by these shows.  Without going too far down the rabbit trail, Satan was once Lucifer, Archangel of worship, had a beautiful voice, etc, so because of his pride he was kicked out of heaven. Satan wants to be God, and he wants us to worship him, not God so certain types of music, turn our hearts to sinful desires and not to worship and glorify God. Music is powerful! Notice how you react when you listen to certain types, same goes for TV shows. The Bible tells us to take certain thoughts and ideas captive (2 Corinthians 5:10) The Bible also tells us that once we are set free through Christ, make sure that we stay free and not get tied up again (Galatians 5:1, 13)
  3. As I said before, you can’t walk this walk alone. Have people who will hold you accountable and that you trust to be transparent with. Transparency is key! Most importantly, have a RELATIONSHIP with God. Holy Spirit was sent to guide us and comfort us. Don’t ignore Him or forget about Him. Our flesh is constantly warring with our spirit and sometimes the battle is just too hard for us to fight. The Bible says “So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves” (Galatians 5:16). Remember that even if you find yourself in a compromising situation, God always provides a way out, you just have to take it! (1 Corinthians 10:12-13)

There’s temptation everywhere at any given time.  We all know this. We have to learn how to navigate through this mess. We can’t see everything that’s coming at us but God can.  You may still have sexual urges but they don’t have to rule you. The Bible tells us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18). When you don’t have the energy or “want to” to flee, pray, I guarantee you, God will show up. Do you trust God to help you with this? You have to surrender your sex life to Him. Trust Him to bring along the one He chose for you. Also, if you do fall, repent, get up and keep fighting.  Don’t condemn yourself because God doesn’t condemn you. He wants you to have His best. Don’t settle just because you’re horny. Find some emergency verses, an item that will remind you that you can do this, remind you of why you’re doing this, whether it’s a purity ring or bracelet (such as our signature bracelet :-)). Have some emergency phone numbers too. Know what your triggers are. If Valentine’s day is a trigger, make plans with friends or family so that you can head off temptation to fall back into old habits.  God will honor and bless your efforts! Don’t forget to do your part! God will handle what you can’t! Feel free to share anything that’s helped you as well!

Be blessed and encouraged,

Shannon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Pain as a Weapon

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It’s often said “no pain, no gain” and in some cases this seems to be true. We humans don’t like pain, nor do we enjoy facing painful situations, circumstances or consequences. We don’t want anything taking away our comfort! But, God showed me an interesting way to view pain.  You’ve heard that from pain comes purpose, right? Well God showed me that pain can be a weapon as well. The hurts, mistakes, hang-ups, painful situations and consequences are tools of our enemy satan. He set them up to steal from us, kill us and destroy us.  That’s his mission, his job (John 10:10).  But God! Our Father knew in advance that these situations would happen so He turns these ill fated tools of the enemy into purpose (Romans 8:28)! Our purpose is God’s Kingdom purpose, and God uses this “painful” purpose to defeat satan! The pain in our lives becomes a weapon in the hands of God! God uses this weapon, created by the enemy, to beat him at his own game! Not only that, the pain that’s inflicted, the purpose that is given, only strengthens God’s Kingdom. God’s turning our pain into purpose is a weapon used against the kingdom of darkness. Talking about a revelation! Looking back, I’ve found this to be true in my own life. Savin’ it for Hubby was birthed from painful situations, circumstances and consequences from my own life and God is definitely using Savin’ it for Hubby to defeat the kingdom of darkness by revealing His truth about sex! This is my purpose and I love that I am being used by God to defeat the enemy!  To get to this point, I had to face the things that I’d done and that had been done to me that were against God, against His Word and His will for my life. I had to face the pain, allowing God to walk me through and receive His healing.  This step must take place or else the enemy still has the power to use these things against you.

Letting God heal and strengthen you turns you into a great threat to the enemy. He knows that God can turn you into someone powerful which is why he tries his best to bring condemnation so that you will run from God instead of running to Him.

No matter what you’ve done or what’s been done to you, nothing can keep you from God but you! He’s always waiting for us with open arms to heal and love on us. We have to remember what God’s purpose is for us and also what the enemy’s purpose is for us too.  You have to know your enemy and his tactics in order to defeat him!

Don’t be afraid to face pain, because with God, you’re never facing it alone. Facing it and dealing with it brings you healing and victory and makes you a mighty weapon for God!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


Wake Up!

Empire picSo, I hear the new season of Empire has started and everyone’s all excited and pumped…even “Christians”. Oh yes, I’m coming for you!

Please, please, please explain to me how this show is in anyway fitting for the eyes of a supposedly God-fearing, Jesus loving, saved person? Am I missing something here? Everything about this show is in total disobedience to the Word of God not to mention it contradicts the Word of God completely!

From what I’ve heard of the latest episode, a lot of “Christians” were disappointed because it was a little over the top. Seriously, what did you expect?! Isn’t that how the enemy uses sin? He dishes out a little to suck you in, to desensitize and then once that’s happened, in comes the flood! You should be happy that you noticed that it was over the top! Could it be your Spirit alerting you that hey, you shouldn’t be filling yourself with this junk! Satan is the god of the air, of this world.  He uses the airwaves, TV, music to do his work.  Think about it! I heard on the radio this morning one guy said that he felt as if he should have had the remote in one hand and a stack of $1 dollar bills in the other! Really???!!! Come on people of God! What are we doing? We are bowing down to everything, compromising at every turn! We have the Creator of the Universe on our side, we don’t have to accept this!! But because we want to gratify our flesh and don’t want to offend, we bend and succumb to the wiles of this world!

Not only is this show totally contrary to the Word of God, look at what it’s promoting. Fornication, lewdness, violence, disrespect for women, do I need to go on? No wonder our young men and women act the way they do, not treasuring their bodies and young men, instead of covering us they are looking to expose all that we have as women.  They may not listen to us but they are watching and if we’re ok with feeding this garbage to ourselves then of course they think it’s ok as well! Then we adults have the audacity to get mad when the young ones act in the manners that they’ve picked up from us! Come on people, that do as I say and not as I do approach does not work! The young girls and Lord help us, women, want to emulate Cookie and yes lets bring in Olivia Pope. Please tell me where and how do these women represent at Titus 2 woman?

God’s Word tells us “And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”(Philippians 4:8) Is there anything in Empire that resembles anything close to this?  Then Titus 2:3-5 Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers.[a] Instead, they should teach others what is good. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God. Do either Cookie or Olivia Pope reflect any one of these characters? 

And let’s not leave out the men: Titus 2:2,6 Teach the older men to exercise self-control, to be worthy of respect, and to live wisely. They must have sound faith and be filled with love and patience. In the same way, encourage the young men to live wisely. And 1 Timothy 5:2 Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters.

The Word says that For the time has come for judgment, and it must begin with God’s household. And if judgment begins with us, what terrible fate awaits those who have never obeyed God’s Good News?” (1 Peter 4:17) Being a Christian is more than just believing and saying the prayer, that’s only the beginning.  We have to make the decision to make Jesus Lord over our lives, not just our Savior.  He has called us higher, otherwise who would be able to differentiate between someone in the world and someone who has given their lives to Christ? We are to be in this world, being salt and light, not conforming to it’s ways! 

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


The Power of Jesus

Mark 1:23-24, 34

23 Suddenly, a man in the synagogue who was possessed by an evil[h] spirit began shouting, 24 “Why are you interfering with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are—the Holy One of God!”

25 Jesus cut him short. “Be quiet! Come out of the man,” he ordered. 26 At that, the evil spirit screamed, threw the man into a convulsion, and then came out of him.

34 So Jesus healed many people who were sick with various diseases, and he cast out many demons. But because the demons knew who he was, he did not allow them to speak.

So, I just started studying the book of Mark and just got an awesome but sobering revelation. In the above verses, Jesus has just arrived to Capernaum and on the Sabbath, being Jesus, shaking up all sorts of stuff, began teaching.  But of course, when the Word is about to go forth, the enemy shows up in this man. Now, verse 24 grabs me, the demons inside the man knew who Jesus was AND they knew that Jesus had the power and ability to destroy them!!!!!!!!!!! They knew that Jesus is the Holy One of God! Why this has never stuck out to me like this before me is crazy but the demons knew who he was and knew what Jesus was capable of. The sobering fact is that we, humans created in the image of God, God’s children, co-heirs with Jesus Christ himself, don’t KNOW who Jesus is and we certainly don’t know His power, but the demons do! OMG! So this just further shows why the enemy works so hard at keeping us deceived! The less we know about the power of Jesus, the more Satan can deceive us, keep us in bondage, keep us in sin, addictions, afflictions, sickness, doubting and questioning the power of God and His existence! Just to show how much power Jesus has over the enemy, in verse 34, Jesus casts out the demons and then doesn’t allow them to speak because the demons know who Jesus is!!! JESUS HAS POWER OVER DEMONS! Rejoice in this! Whatever “demon” you have or are battling with, Jesus is greater! There is truly power in the name of Jesus, don’t ever forget that or let the enemy talk you out of believing that! At the name of Jesus, demons flee!! If the demons know who Jesus is, shouldn’t you!!!!!!!!!!!!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


It’s Not Nasty!

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It’s back to school time and I know that some of you have children entering middle school/junior high, especially girls.  I bet that some of you haven’t had “the talk” with them either, have you? If you haven’t talked to your daughter and told her God’s truth about sex then I suggest you do it NOW! Before she steps foot in her school.  Do it before her little friends tell her lies and things that could get her into trouble.

I get it, it’s hard to think about telling your baby girl about sex, I have 2 little girls of my own.  My oldest is 9 and yes, we’ve had the talk, on her level, of course. I wasn’t ready and I didn’t want to, but she was reading her Bible one day, Genesis, and she read about Adam having sexual relations with Eve.  She asked what was sexual relations so I had to tell her, which I’m glad I did, because I was able to tell her the truth before anyone could come to her with lies.

I also realize that a lot of us have believed lies about sex all of our lives and it’s taken a while for us to get rid of the lies and embrace truth. The reality is that so many women still walk around believing lies and the lies follow them into their marriages and their marriages suffer and the women suffer. I know that I don’t want my daughters to go into their marriages with skewed views of sex so as they get older, I will reveal more truth and when they get married, they will be able to go into their marriages fully embracing and enjoying sex the way that God intended.

So, for those of you who are dreading “the talk” or don’t know where to start, I’m giving you a condensed list to start with. Maybe this list will help bring you into truth as well.

Truths About Sex:

1. Sex was created by God, as a gift for married couples; male and female. (Genesis 4:1)

2. Sex is beautiful when done in parameters which God set: marriage! (Hebrews 13:4)

3. Sex represents the intimate relationship that God wishes to have with us. (Song of Solomon)

4. Sex is meant to be like super glue for marriage, so if you’re having sex with someone you’re not married to, then guess what you’ve done? Glued yourself to some random guy!

5. Sex outside of marriage can be devastating. It has lasting emotional, psychological, spiritual and sometimes damaging physical consequences.

6. What happens to you now, sexually, can set the tone for your sexual relationship with your husband.

7. Sex creates soul ties.  Each time you have sex, you tie your soul to someone else.  Yes, you can be walking around  with your soul still tied to your ex, ex, ex, ex boyfriend! Soul ties cannot be broken without God!

8. Sexual immorality is a form of devil worship.

9. Sex outside of marriage separates us from God and keeps us from His best for our lives.  Sin separates and sexual immorality is sin and not pleasing to God.

10. SEX IS NOT NASTY! Do not tell your daughter that sex is nasty! She will grow up to be a woman who gets married and won’t be able to enjoy her husband all because she thinks that sex is nasty!

What we tell our young girls now about sex, shapes their future! If you have skewed views of sex, please seek healing. Don’t spread the lies to your daughter.  Don’t be afraid to tell her about your mistakes either.  Wouldn’t you rather she learned from your mistakes instead of her own especially concerning sex?

These are starting points that you can break down based on the age and maturity of your daughter. Pray before your talk and ask God for wisdom and guidance and don’t be afraid to say that you don’t know. Tell her what you do know and then for the answers you don’t have, you can go and find answers, truth, together.  The world, the enemy, isn’t holding back or sugar coating and neither should we.  Our kids are in the middle of war and we have to arm them with the truth.  If we won’t tell them God’s truth, the enemy is ready and willing to fill them with his lies!

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Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


God’s Voice vs Satan’s Voice

Thought this was an awesome reminder as to how God encourages and reassures us while satan seeks to discourage, condemn and tear us down.  We need to know the difference!! Praying this blesses you!

 

God's voice vs satan's voice

 

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


PAY ATTENTION!!!

Would we all agree that music has a little power to it? If you’re in a bad mood, you listen to your favorite song or encouraging music and you start to feel better.  If you’re trying to “get in the mood” to work out, you listen to something that’s upbeat or has the ability to get you moving and yes, there’s even music you listen to to get you in the mood for “other things” such as sex….My point, we have to be careful as to what we’re feeding our souls.  My ears have become super sensitive lately and I thank God for this because everything with a tight beat ain’t worth listening too and that’s how we all get sucked in.  Before satan was kicked out of heaven, his thing was music.  Now that he’s not in heaven and is on Earth wreaking havoc, the wonder of music has been perverted and corrupted.  Yes, there’s power in music and he knows it and he’s using it to his advantage! I’m posting some videos courtesy of this wonderful ministry called Good Fight Ministries.  Please check out their website here. Also, my worship pastor Montell Jordan, breaks it down beautifully in his sermon on the power of music.

What’s even scarier is that we’re allowing our children to listen to this craziness and we’re not paying attention to what they’re listening to yet we’re wondering why so many senseless deaths are happening not to mention so much careless behavior! Please, watch these videos, please, pay attention to what you’re listening to and please pay attention to what your children are being exposed to!!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


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