Error of the Single Woman


In my single days, I was on the constant search for a man or male companionship.  I had a different guy for every aspect of my life.  One guy who was truly just a friend that I could hang out with, then there was the guy who took care of my emotional needs and then there was the guy who took care of my physical needs.  Neither guy had the total package of what I thought I needed or wanted in a man at the time so all three combined seemingly fed my wounded soul. Notice, neither of the guys fed me spiritually because at the time, I didn’t consider any type of spiritual need. God was just God, no major significance to the decisions I made.  But once God finally got His hands on me, once I finally submitted, my world was turned upside down!

I met my husband when I was in college and still straddling the fence with God. I knew God was calling me but I wasn’t ready to heed the call.  Before we became husband and wife, we lived together and God made it clear as day that us living together outside of marriage was not His plan! He made it very clear! (To read the story, check out my book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned) Once we found out that we were out of the will of God, He led us down the path to getting right with Him and after two years of being together we got married.

Now, going back to my single days, I didn’t know God so I did what every single lady does when she’s ready to mingle, I went out to find me a man! The Error? Not knowing that God never says in His Word that a woman has to go out and get a man.  This is the total opposite of His Word. His Word tells us that Eve was brought to Adam by God Himself (Genesis 2:22). Eve didn’t have to go and look for anyone. Being single, we roll with the world’s way of thinking that in order for a man to want us we must look, dress and behave in a way that’s contrary to God’s Word.  So not true!

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To the real Christian woman, it is my hope that you want to attract the godliness in a man, not lust, right?  Lust dies, sometimes very quickly and believe it or not, it’s not a man’s deepest need. A man’s deepest need from a woman is…RESPECT! Yes! Remember, what you give off is what you will attract. Being “fine” or “sexy”, on the outside is not enough to keep a godly man. Why? Because this is not, was not how God intended relationships to be in the first place.

Go back to Genesis where Eve was created and presented to Adam in chapter 2 verses 22 through 23. First, God took a part of Adam that was unique to him, and from that unique rib, created a woman for Adam. God used a rib which is used to protect mans most vital organs, and from that came Eve. Please catch the significance of this! You, custom-made rib, was taken from your Adam by whom? God! Now, before you’re placed by Adam’s side, there’s something that you have to do, woman of God. You have to step back, submit, and allow GOD to form, shape and mold you. Once the process is done, then and only then will God present you to your Adam. Trying to buck this system ends in ERROR!

Now, back to Genesis 2:23, when God presented Eve to Adam, what was Adam’s reaction? He immediately accepted her as his wife. He immediately and readily accepted EVE as God had formed and created her. Adam didn’t ask God to change her in any way. God didn’t ask for Adam’s opinions or preferences (he was asleep) but God knew who Adam was and He knew what Adam needed. Adam was formed, shaped and created by God as well and had God’s breath breathed into him.  Which is another reason you as a single lady need to step back and let God be God and let Him finish working on and in you and your Adam. God’s breath is needed for any relationship to work! If you’re trying to get a man that’s not had or doesn’t have the breath or word of God in him, then he won’t recognize you and won’t know what to do with you.  He’ll only respond to you in a lustful and immature way! Also notice that Adam didn’t ask to try Eve out first to make sure they were a perfect match sexually! Adam trusted that Eve was all that he needed because Adam trusted God. You need a man who trusts God and is led by God.

So, my dear single sister, stop trying to be God and submit all things to Him, yes especially the job of trying to find a man.  Work on deepening your relationship with God because trust me, you will most definitely need Him when you’re married! Know who you are in Christ. Find out what His word says about you. Then when it’s time to be side by side with Adam it will feel like a blessing and not a curse!

If you would like to hang out and chat with like-minded ladies who are trusting God to prepare them for their Adam, feel free to join our private community here on Facebook or follow me on Facebook for daily encouragement here.

If you need a little help in getting free from the baggage of old relationships, or needing to know who you are in Christ or need a complete mind change when it comes to sex and purity then my FREE online course HEALED might just be the clean start that you need!

Be Blessed & Encouraged,





What is HEALED?

Healed is a three week live, online course based on the book ‘Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned’ written by Shannon Taylor, founder of Savin’ it for Hubby. This interactive course is designed to lead you to healing and wholeness in these three areas:

  1. Identity in Jesus Christ: Knowing who we are as women in Christ which will help us to understand that love that Jesus has for us and to stand and fight against comparison, lies, body image, etc.
  2. Relationships: Learning to identify toxic or draining relationships that don’t help you in your Christian walk. Whether it’s a romantic relationship, friends or family, we’ll talk about setting boundaries and breaking the ties that keep us connected to them.
  3. Sex: Yes, let’s talk about sex! In this final session we will talk about the lies we’ve believed about sex, the damage inflicted from these lies and replace them with God’s truth about sex!

With each session, there will be homework with questions that will help you get to the root of what’s holding you back in these three areas and also during the sessions, you’ll be able to ask questions. In the book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned, you’ll be able to follow along, take notes, and also have extra encouragement in these three areas.

So, get together with your ladies group, small group, sister friends or just you and Jesus and join us in April for a life changing experience! Register and order a copy of the book here!

HOW: This course will be facilitated online via video conferencing or if you prefer not to be seen, then you will be given the number to call in once you’ve registered.

COST: Free but donations are appreciated!

WHO IS THIS FOR? Women of all ages and stages that want and need to grow or healing in the areas of knowing their indentity in Jesus Christ, dealing with relationships and knowing God’s truth about sex.

DATES: April 12th, 19th, 25th 8pm EST

Register here for HEALED! 

Be blessed & encouraged,



The Beauty of Sex in a Godly Marriage

Sex and beauty are not usually two words you find in the same sentence. But they should be! Unless, you were like me, raised to believe that sex was anything but beautiful.  I learned about sex from my peers and the various rap songs that I listened to. It was believed that if you were still a virgin by the age of 17, then there was something very wrong with you and unfortunately, this view still remains.

I was 14 years old the first time I had sex. I thrived off the attention that I received from a guy who was much older than me. The attention I received from him helped me to take my mind off the misery that was my life. My mom had a serious drug and alcohol problem and although she was one of the most loving women you’d ever meet, her demons overwhelmed her. My sister and I pretty much did whatever we wanted to do. (For more of my story, check out my book Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned)

Why am I sharing this? What does this have to do with marriage? Tons! The evil lie that the enemy wants us all to believe is that sex before marriage is okay and there are no consequences. Even if you didn’t get pregnant or contract a sexually transmitted disease, there’s still damage done. These are the lies that I believed and they almost destroyed our marriage. Sex is a spiritual act, so just because something didn’t happen in the natural, something did happen in the spirit. Soul ties were created and guilt and shame were given a doorway into your life. It. Is. Not okay! To read more click here!

Be blessed & encouraged,



The Love of Jesus Scripture Writing Plan


Happy February!

I consider this the month of LOVE! What greater love is the love of Jesus? I pray that the scriptures from this plan help you to feel and experience the great love that Jesus has for us. His love is unconditional, never ending, and can’t be earned, just received.

February 2018 SWP

Be blessed & encouraged!



Getting Aligned with God: Prioritizing


Good Morning!

We are now at the final step in our Getting Aligned with God series! The final step is to prioritize our lives to where God comes first in everything! Giving God His rightful place in our heart and our life. Just as now that He sits on the throne of heaven, He should sit on the throne of our heart as not only our Savior but also as our Lord! When we give our lives to God, when we ‘get saved’ we always remember that Jesus died on the Cross to forgive our sins, be our Savior, and make us right with God. Along the way we often forget that He is also our Lord! Meaning, He should be the governing body of our heart and our life. This is what distinguishes us from the world and moves us from being more than just believers but disciples of Jesus Christ.

I’m a week late in posting this final step because I was so sick last week that the last thing I wanted to do was write a blog post. Yep that sick. I had to make myself a priority because if I hadn’t I would have continued to be sick or gotten worse. This is how we need to look at our life when we consider getting our priorities in order. If we don’t, our situations, circumstances could get worse and we’ll remain stuck where we don’t want to be. This picture came to mind when I was thinking of priorities, there’s an order.  God's order of marriage Just as God has a model for marriage, the same goes for our lives whether married or single. Our relationship with God is THE most important and should come first in our lives. It should take precedence in the choices that we make and the people we surround ourselves with. When we make God the priority, when we put Him in His rightful place in our life, He begins to line things up for us. This upcoming weekend my Hubby and I will celebrate 14 years of marriage!! I was lying in bed thinking of our honeymoon weekend, which was not this big getaway to a tropical island, but I remembered that we didn’t even have a car when we got married and we didn’t even have our own place! But God! So if you don’t know my story, I’ll share a bit here, but you can get the full story in my book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned.  Before my husband and I got married, we’d had sex outside of marriage not just in our relationship with each other but with others before we met. We were all out-of-order! When we decided to get married and do things God’s way, it’s as if He rolled out the red carpet for us! The way that He provided for our rings, my dress, even the hotel suite we stayed in. I even remember that somehow we’d both gotten a nice income tax check so that we were able to enjoy our honeymoon weekend and were able to eat at our top choice restaurants that we’d always wanted to try but couldn’t because we were broke college students LOL! Even after we got married, he blessed me with a new job because when we got married I was working at Ruby Tuesday as a server! Then, after the job came our own apartment and then He gave us favor with the owner of the building we lived in and got us a brand new washer and dryer for only $300! The blessings kept coming! We’d go to church and there were couples that would just pass us cards with money in them! When we got our act together, when we got aligned with God, He began to bless us and move in our lives. He began to guide us into the plans He had for us but He began to do the work in us to prepare us for the purpose He has for us individually and together as husband and wife.

If you’re stuck in your life right now and nothing’s changing or moving then perhaps your priorities are all out-of-order. Take a look at your life and see where you’ve placed God. What/who have you put in place as lord of your life? There’s an order, a flow that leads to alignment with God. And it should always begin with God.

If you need support, have more questions or just need someone to hold you accountable and pray with you throughout this process, there’s a Facebook group that I’ve created just for this. If you’re interested, click here!

Be blessed and encouraged,



Goodbye 2017!


I’m still in shock that 2017 is almost over! It seems like yesterday I was wistfully thinking of all the great things to come in 2017. I was even more so hopeful for this year because the word that the Lord had given me was “new”. What’s more exciting than new things, people and experiences?! Well, an interesting and exciting year it truly has been! But not because I’ve had these miraculous answers to prayer either. One of the experiences I’m so excited about is that I published my first book and had a wonderful book release celebration surrounded by so many people whom I love dearly and have helped me so much throughout the process of writing and publishing my book.

I’ve learned so much more about myself because God (and other prophets) confirmed my calling as a prophetess and I’ve met God in a totally new capacity! I co- facilitated my first purity retreat in which I had the honor and privilege to prophesy over some absolutely beautiful, strong young women of God! This was my first time prophesying over more than 1 person and it was one of the most exhilarating, humbling, yet most amazing experiences of my life! I’ve totally had to rewire my mind about what I thought a prophetess was. I had to weed through the false to find the true ones and the true ones were hard to find. That’s because there are so many false ones screaming so loudly for their own personal gain and attention! Being a prophetess/prophet is so much more than sharing a prophetic word!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sad to see and it’s made me quite angry because now when someone who’s truly been called by God, we have to deal with all the mess that’s been dealt by those who called themselves. God doesn’t release you to even know for sure until after you’ve been tried in some serious fire and even then, there’s more fire to come and walk through, but I digress.

I’ve also learned some very valuable lessons. I’ve learned that the higher or deeper you go with the Father, the more pain you feel in your heart because your heart breaks for what breaks His, you see what you don’t want to see and you say things that people don’t want to hear. You have to walk away from some things you don’t want to walk away from and what has been the hardest has been not saying stuff until it’s time! But I’ve decided to learn from Josephs example and wait on God. Which brings me to the greatest lesson and it’s that I can’t go wrong with obeying God regardless of the consequences. I’ve learned that people are seasonal, but not always because there’s something wrong with them but because their season in your life is done. I’ve learned that being comfortable is a quick way for God to totally change your assignment and move you along to something else and you just continue to walk on water and get comfortable being uncomfortable.  And just because something’s good and growing, doesn’t mean you’re supposed to stay there. As a prophetess, one of my purposes is to build and to plant (Jeremiah 1:10). Even though He moves some people out-of-the-way, He replaces them with the people who you need and they come from all over the world and the most unlikely places! One would think that knowing your calling and purpose would be freeing, and in some aspects it is, but it really shows you who you really are and just how much you truly need God! There’s no way you can fulfill your purpose on this earth without Him.  You also learn the true condition of your heart, your insecurities and vulnerabilities and the spiritual warfare is turned up several notches!

Why am I sharing this? I’m sharing this because I want whoever reads this to take this year for what it is, whether it’s been awesome or awful. Take the good and appreciate it, take the bad, ugly and painful and learn from it, grow from it and share your testimony! Look at it this way, you made it through another year and a lot of others didn’t. Getting the word “new” didn’t get me what I was hoping and still praying for, but it did get me what I needed and that was me learning that I so desperately need my God!

So what’s next for me? Well, I’ve set a lofty goal to share something with you all every week next year!!! Oh my goodness that made me nervous just typing it! Stay tuned and I hope that you’ll join me! I hope to teach more, help more, serve more, and meet God in new and exciting ways. I give Him permission 🙂 to not only step out of my little box that I’d put Him in, but to throw it away! I’m completely open to all that He has for me no matter how hard or uncomfortable they may be, I know that through and with Him, nothing’s impossible and that it’s for my good and the good of those He sends me to but most importantly, it’s all for His GLORY! And for that alone, I’m willing and ready. Lord, hear am I, send me!

Here’s to an unpredictable, God filled, God led New Year!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Prophetess Shannon 🙂


The Love You Seek


Join me for my first live teaching ever lol!

What: The Love You Seek, is a teaching based on the woman at the well. I will be teaching from John 4:1-19.

Who: Anyone, man, woman, single or married!

Where: This will be a live teaching via Facebook Live. You can follow the event here.

When: Monday, September 18th at 9:00 pm EST. So put the kiddos to bed, grab your fave pens, journal and Bible and join in! Share with everyone you know!

Be blessed and encouraged,



The Call

You called, I answered. I said yes and my life has never been the same!

Your Presence overwhelms me!

Your Words compel me to Truth.

You see me, see through me, love me completely!

I’m undone in Your Presence.

Confounded by Your Ways.

Higher! Higher You’ve called me, Higher You take me!

My whole being is Yours!

So Powerful You are, my face to the floor.

Unable to withstand Your Grace.

Unable to behold Your Face.

My heart is Yours because of Your Amazing Grace!

Be blessed & encouraged,




Join Me @ Pearls in the Park!


Join Co-Facilitators Shannon Taylor – Author of “Love, Jesus, Sex  & Founder of “Savin’ it for Hubby” and Melissa Walthour – “Fruit of my Branches” in an open and very candid discussion. It’s sure to be an amazing time!!! THIS IS A FREE EVENT!Pearls in the Park