You Are Royalty Purity Retreat: March 22-24, 2019
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First of all, I do know that it’s spelled heifer, but I’m a southerner and in Georgia, it’s pronounced heffa. A heffa, in the south, is usually a name given to a female that you don’t like or just really don’t want to be around. Comparison falls in that category for me. I hate comparison but yet fall victim to it sometimes. Comparison is a joy stealer and killer. The bible tells us that the only One we should compare ourselves to is Jesus. We are here to be His hands and feet, His body, serving in different capacities, but yet we fall into the trap of comparison.
Social media doesn’t help us at all does it? We supposedly use it for inspiration, information and connecting with others. Too much of a good thing isn’t good and if we’re not careful, we begin to question our entire existence! I’m sure that men struggle with comparison but we as women really have it bad! We see all the highlight reels of how our bodies should look, how our marriages should be, how our children should act and how our careers or ministry should look and achieve! Seriously!! It’s overwhelming! The enemy satan uses these images to really wreak havoc in our minds.
For instance, I was scrolling through Facebook and someone I follow posted a picture of their happy little family enjoying family time at the beach. Then out of nowhere comes all these thoughts; why do they get to go to the beach? Did she lose weight? Why are her children so perfect? Y’all I’m telling you, being a wife and mom is hard but throw in some comparison issues and it seems as if you are nothing and you’re doing everything wrong! I remember thinking after a hard day of being home with the kids, ALL DAY, Lord, what in the world is wrong with my kids? They were running around chasing each other and the dog and fighting over the remote, fighting for attention and it was overwhelming! Then I think, where have I gone wrong God? Why is that when I mention reading the bible the girls look at me as if I’ve rained on their parade and my son won’t sit still long enough for me to teach him to count to 5!!! Not to mention those days where Hubby and I can’t seem to finish a conversation without it turning into an argument and no matter what each of us says, it’s just the wrong thing to say!
Well, when I had a moment of quiet, I heard Holy Spirit say, in all His love, grace and mercy, “I gave your children and husband to you for My purposes. They need what you have to offer and you need what they have to offer. If they were supposed to act like sister such and such’s kids then I would have given them to her.” Well, how can you argue with that? He also reminded me that what He put in my children, He will use for His kingdom, He’s using them now!
There are greater things going on in our lives than we could ever wrap our little minds around! Christ’s death on the cross freed us from the bondage of comparison! When ever we compare ourselves to others we negate what He’s done on the cross and treat it as if it doesn’t even matter! Here are a few things to remember the next time you fall prey to that heffa Comparison:
So, the next time that heffa comparison comes around, tell her to kick rocks!
Father, thank you for the way that you created me! Thank you for freedom to embrace who I am. Forgive me for believing the lies that have been swimming around in my head. Help me to believe Your truth about who I am. You don’t make mistakes and in me you have placed all that I need to receive all that you have for me. Thank you Jesus for dying on the cross and setting me free from comparison. To God be all the glory, honor and praises! In Jesus’ name, Amen!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Introducing Purely Loved- You Are Royalty Purity Retreat! A weekend retreat in the north Georgia mountains where we leave all the busyness & craziness behind & focus on just being with God! This purity retreat focuses on our identity in Christ, the differences between abstinence, celibacy & purity, what sex is and isn’t, breaking soul ties, setting healthy boundaries & whatever else Holy Spirit wants to do! Not to mention fun activities and lots of food and snacks mixed in! This year’s retreat (coming up in August) was fully booked via word of mouth from 2017’s retreat so we didn’t have to promote it! Stay tuned for the launch of registration for Purely Loved 2019! Space is very limited to keep the experience intimate! Ages 20 & up, married, single, divorced. For more information or to join our mailing list, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Be blessed & encouraged,
It was by faith that Rahab, the prostitute, was not destroyed with the people in her city who refused to obey God. For she had given a friendly welcome to the spies. Hebrews 11:31 (NLT)
Yes, you read correctly, a prostitute. Rahab, a biblical woman of influence, was a prostitute in Jericho, the city that God was about to give to the Israelites. We all think of prostitutes as bad, shameful, horrible, worthless women but God didn’t think so. We meet Rahab through the spies that Joshua sent to Jericho and it just so happens that these Israelite spies end up at a prostitute’s home. This alone lets me know that God is up to something. I mean, of all the places for the spies to go, they find their way to a prostitute.
These spies were devoted to God and His authority. They were surrendered to God and wouldn’t even think of committing any act with a prostitute. God knew this. The spies thought they were going to scope out the land but God had another plan. The spies were there to give a new life of freedom and redemption to Rahab. God had heard her cries for freedom from the life she was living.
When the soldiers of Jericho heard there were Israelite spies in their city and that they’d gone to Rahab’s home, they went to her home to get them. Rahab lied to the soldiers saying she saw them leaving on a certain road away from the city but she’d actually hidden them. Once the soldiers left, Rahab told the spies that she knew that their God was going to destroy the city and she believed in their God even though her people didn’t. So in return for her hiding them, she asked them for a favor. She asked that she and her family’s lives be spared. The spies agreed only if everyone was in her home once they came to destroy the city and takeover. To Read More, Click Here!
Be blessed & encouraged,
So many of us are in a season of transition. Some of us have been in a season of transition for a very long time. Like, how long does it take to transition to a new phase, a new season? Some days feel as if you’re stuck in this sickening place of ick! Nothing feels familiar, nothing’s comfortable anymore. You find yourself in a place where no matter how hard you try, you can’t get your footing. The people around you that you’ve grown comfortable with are moving out of your circle and there are new people coming in their place. Nothing feels stable! It’s the feeling that if something doesn’t change soon, you’re going to lose it! Can something please change? There are times when I find myself begging God to please let something change! But, when we’re fully surrendered to God, disciples of Jesus Christ, we have given over our will for God’s. With this comes living life on His terms. Which isn’t a bad thing! His terms are terms of love and protection. The issue is that living life on God’s terms, in His will, means living life in the Spirit, which means a constant battle of flesh and spirit, God’s kingdom and the world’s way of doing things. This leaves us in the middle battling our flesh to choose the ways of the Spirit! Of course we have Holy Spirit but if He’s telling us something we don’t want to hear or to do something we don’t want to, there’s another battle lol!
How do you survive seasons of transition? How do you keep going when you want to jump back in the boat, when you’re tired of walking on water? Here’s what I’ve learned so far:
For the month of May, I will be focusing on the promises of God. That’s the theme for the scripture writing plan this month. If you’d like to join me, feel free to download the free scripture writing plan located on our Downloadables page. Also, feel free to follow along on my social media outlets for prayers and encouragement. If you’d like to join our Facebook community, click here. I pray for great strength as you follow through the process of transition and I know that whatever God has next for all of us will be beyond anything we could ever ask, think or imagine! (Ephesians 3:20)
Be blessed & encouraged,
I’m following this plan on Bible.com to read the entire Bible in a year and I was reading in the Old Testament the book of Judges, Chapter 7. In this chapter, God is preparing Gideon to take down the Midianites and He’s about to choose the warriors to go with Gideon into this battle or to make this more relevant, to go with Gideon into this new season. This chapter has always intrigued me, especially this particular passage:
Judges 7: 1-7
‘So Jerub-baal (that is, Gideon) and his army got up early and went as far as the spring of Harod. The armies of Midian were camped north of them in the valley near the hill of Moreh. The Lord said to Gideon, “You have too many warriors with you. If I let all of you fight the Midianites, the Israelites will boast to me that they saved themselves by their own strength. Therefore, tell the people, ‘Whoever is timid or afraid may leave this mountain and go home.’” So 22,000 of them went home, leaving only 10,000 who were willing to fight. But the Lord told Gideon, “There are still too many! Bring them down to the spring, and I will test them to determine who will go with you and who will not.” When Gideon took his warriors down to the water, the Lord told him, “Divide the men into two groups. In one group put all those who cup water in their hands and lap it up with their tongues like dogs. In the other group put all those who kneel down and drink with their mouths in the stream.” Only 300 of the men drank from their hands. All the others got down on their knees and drank with their mouths in the stream. The Lord told Gideon, “With these 300 men I will rescue you and give you victory over the Midianites. Send all the others home.” ‘ Judges 7:1-7 https://www.bible.com/bible/116/JDG.7.1-7
There are so many memes and quotes about ‘not everyone is supposed to go with you into your new season’ and immediately we all think of the negative! I believe this causes division in the body of Christ. Now, don’t get me wrong, God will tell us to separate from some people because they are not good for us but it’s not always bad when people are removed, separated or don’t go with you into a new season. Sometimes He separates us so that we can “divide and conquer” for the Kingdom. Or because you’ll need people with a stronger core, different gifts and abilities.
The new season that a lot of us are stepping into or the calling that we have on our lives will require a new or different core group of people or warriors. There’s a changing of the guards, transition happening within the body of Christ. Some people will be removed altogether, some moved down to rest, some promoted. With all of this, there will need to be a strong core because the enemy will try his best to disrupt what God is doing but we already know that he’s a defeated foe and the victory is already ours! Anyway, here are a few points to consider based on this passage, where moving into a new season and having a strong core is concerned:
Notice that God didn’t say anything about there being evil within the warriors that were sent away, they just weren’t right for Gideon for this particular task, this particular season. So to bring this to modern day terms, just because “Julie” hasn’t called in a while or that you’re not as close to “Nicole” as you used to be, it’s not that anything is wrong, it could just be God moving the ones who aren’t supposed to go and replacing them with the ones you NEED for the next season or assignment in your life. Just trust the process and when He says to let go, be obedient and let go and be sure to praise God for the victory!
Be blessed & encouraged,
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Last year God confirmed for me the calling on my life, prophetess… Um no thank you! They are weird and only want money, is what I thought LOL! It’s not one that I would have chosen as I would much rather be left in a corner somewhere with tons of books, coffee and notebooks and pens! It’s not a call of glitz or glamor as some try to make it seem. If done God’s way, you may or may not get much recognition which I’m ok with but this call requires death more than the normal dying to self. There’s lots of tears, separation, isolation, seeing and hearing things that others don’t and knowing when to say something and when to keep your mouth shut! Which I learned the hard way. There’s the lonely walk of being utterly misunderstood and saying things that people don’t want to hear but they need to hear it and so out of love and obedience to God, you put yourself out there to please an audience of One. I always knew I had ‘something’ on me but would never fully accept it. I always wrote if off as me being crazy, too sensitive or making up things but then I heard the Lord say to me, “If you don’t accept the calling on your life, you will never grow in it.” Well, that was rather eye opening! I didn’t want to just be a lukewarm stagnant Christian and I certainly didn’t want Him to take it away. And who am I to deny what God almighty has called me to do?! So I accepted and with that acceptance, my eyes were opened, my heart and mind were opened to receive what He was trying to teach me and then I began to grow!
Now, this journey to acceptance or walking in acceptance isn’t an easy one. Sometimes we are called to accept where we are and it’s not where we want to be. When we’re in a place where we don’t want to be, we want to just blow right through it and get it over with. We just refuse to accept places of pain, frustration or struggle. But I can hear the Lord saying, “if you don’t accept it, you won’t grow.” I challenge you to stop and take a look at where you are. Just because you accept where you are doesn’t mean that you have to stay there! Acceptance = Growth! Take a look at where you are and ask God why you’re there? Sometimes He’s placed us in a certain place or situation and sometimes it’s of our own doing but ask God, what is it that I’m supposed to learn from this? Whatever you learn from the situation causes you to grow and prepares you for the next step.
So, whether you’re where you want to be or not, are denying the call of God or sitting and holding on for the ride to be over, stop running and accept where you are so that you can move forward!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Prophetess Shannon Nicole Taylor, fully accepting and growing 🙂
In my single days, I was on the constant search for a man or male companionship. I had a different guy for every aspect of my life. One guy who was truly just a friend that I could hang out with, then there was the guy who took care of my emotional needs and then there was the guy who took care of my physical needs. Neither guy had the total package of what I thought I needed or wanted in a man at the time so all three combined seemingly fed my wounded soul. Notice, neither of the guys fed me spiritually because at the time, I didn’t consider any type of spiritual need. God was just God, no major significance to the decisions I made. But once God finally got His hands on me, once I finally submitted, my world was turned upside down!
I met my husband when I was in college and still straddling the fence with God. I knew God was calling me but I wasn’t ready to heed the call. Before we became husband and wife, we lived together and God made it clear as day that us living together outside of marriage was not His plan! He made it very clear! (To read the story, check out my book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned) Once we found out that we were out of the will of God, He led us down the path to getting right with Him and after two years of being together we got married.
Now, going back to my single days, I didn’t know God so I did what every single lady does when she’s ready to mingle, I went out to find me a man! The Error? Not knowing that God never says in His Word that a woman has to go out and get a man. This is the total opposite of His Word. His Word tells us that Eve was brought to Adam by God Himself (Genesis 2:22). Eve didn’t have to go and look for anyone. Being single, we roll with the world’s way of thinking that in order for a man to want us we must look, dress and behave in a way that’s contrary to God’s Word. So not true!
To the real Christian woman, it is my hope that you want to attract the godliness in a man, not lust, right? Lust dies, sometimes very quickly and believe it or not, it’s not a man’s deepest need. A man’s deepest need from a woman is…RESPECT! Yes! Remember, what you give off is what you will attract. Being “fine” or “sexy”, on the outside is not enough to keep a godly man. Why? Because this is not, was not how God intended relationships to be in the first place.
Go back to Genesis where Eve was created and presented to Adam in chapter 2 verses 22 through 23. First, God took a part of Adam that was unique to him, and from that unique rib, created a woman for Adam. God used a rib which is used to protect mans most vital organs, and from that came Eve. Please catch the significance of this! You, custom-made rib, was taken from your Adam by whom? God! Now, before you’re placed by Adam’s side, there’s something that you have to do, woman of God. You have to step back, submit, and allow GOD to form, shape and mold you. Once the process is done, then and only then will God present you to your Adam. Trying to buck this system ends in ERROR!
Now, back to Genesis 2:23, when God presented Eve to Adam, what was Adam’s reaction? He immediately accepted her as his wife. He immediately and readily accepted EVE as God had formed and created her. Adam didn’t ask God to change her in any way. God didn’t ask for Adam’s opinions or preferences (he was asleep) but God knew who Adam was and He knew what Adam needed. Adam was formed, shaped and created by God as well and had God’s breath breathed into him. Which is another reason you as a single lady need to step back and let God be God and let Him finish working on and in you and your Adam. God’s breath is needed for any relationship to work! If you’re trying to get a man that’s not had or doesn’t have the breath or word of God in him, then he won’t recognize you and won’t know what to do with you. He’ll only respond to you in a lustful and immature way! Also notice that Adam didn’t ask to try Eve out first to make sure they were a perfect match sexually! Adam trusted that Eve was all that he needed because Adam trusted God. You need a man who trusts God and is led by God.
So, my dear single sister, stop trying to be God and submit all things to Him, yes especially the job of trying to find a man. Work on deepening your relationship with God because trust me, you will most definitely need Him when you’re married! Know who you are in Christ. Find out what His word says about you. Then when it’s time to be side by side with Adam it will feel like a blessing and not a curse!
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If you need a little help in getting free from the baggage of old relationships, or needing to know who you are in Christ or need a complete mind change when it comes to sex and purity then my FREE online course HEALED might just be the clean start that you need!
Be Blessed & Encouraged,
What if you just absolutely knew without a shadow of a doubt what it is that you were called to do? What if you had this detailed plan in your head of how things were going to go and who would be involved and how absolutely wonderful it was going to be? Then you decide to surrender it all to the Lord and He blows it all up, flips it upside down, moves people and places around and you’re smack in the middle watching as if in the eye of a tornado as everything starts to swirl around you at a dizzying rate and you have ZERO control! Can you relate even a little?
I thought that I’d graduate college, have a very successful event planning company and then I prayed, “Lord, use me!” Well, I had this wedding that I was planning and then before I knew it, I lost all control of that wedding and that was the end of my event planning company. Ironically, at this time I really began to hear God as if He was standing right next to me, like loud and clear to the point that I thought the sleep deprivation I’d experienced from taking care of a little had taken its toll. Little did I know that this would be the beginning of God answering my prayer of Him using me.
I lost jobs, embarrassing interviews, arguments with my husband, no money, struggles that happened in the past 8 years and it was all because I prayed for God to use me! He was directing me and I was fighting Him!
Here’s the thing, when we ask God to use us, this means that we have given Him sole control. He reminded me one day that, daughter, you don’t get to choose your assignment. Your obedience is what I need. We don’t get to choose who, what, when, where or how. We must obey. The train wreck happens when we try to work God’s plans into ours instead of the other way around. God takes our prayers quite seriously and He honors them. So, be careful what you pray for!
On the journey to Him “using” us, He works on, in then through us. He reaches down to clean us up and clean us out. He removes the things in us that would taint His purpose for us. He removes the things in our hearts that are not of Him and this can be quite painful! He also moves at His own pace and how many of you know that His timing is NOTHING like our timing!!?? But even in this godly surgery, He doesn’t let any of the pain go to waste, He uses it all, even the things we think are so minute and unimportant.
What He’s doing during this surgery is healing us in the process of using us. Sometimes this surgical healing requires Him to remove us from certain people and situations, environments, anything that would hinder His work in us and through us. He takes great care in healing us because He doesn’t want us to spread toxic pain to others and He certainly doesn’t want us to hold on to it. If we want God to use us, we must first go through a healing process. Healing from things and people who hurt us, the pain that left a tarlike residue. We can’t move forward if we don’t allow Him to perform the surgery on our hearts and in our minds. So if you feel as if you’re stalled, then perhaps this is the reason why?
Are there some areas that you won’t talk about, can’t talk about without crying? Is there a person in your life (friend, relative, male or female) that you know isn’t good for you, or you feel that God has warned you about but because you don’t see anything wrong, you stay because you don’t know how to leave? Do you wonder if you’re stalled because God doesn’t love you because of the things you’ve done in your past or you feel that you’re too dirty to love? This is why I’m offering the class HEALED I know that I’m not the only one who’s had these feelings and I am more than willing to share how the Lord has helped me.
If you’ve prayed for God to use you and you’re wondering why you’re stuck, then ask Him, what’s holding you back and He’ll show you. If you need help in this process then perhaps HEALED is for you!
Be blessed & encouraged,
What is HEALED?
Healed is a three week live, online course based on the book ‘Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned’ written by Shannon Taylor, founder of Savin’ it for Hubby. This interactive course is designed to lead you to healing and wholeness in these three areas:
With each session, there will be homework with questions that will help you get to the root of what’s holding you back in these three areas and also during the sessions, you’ll be able to ask questions. In the book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned, you’ll be able to follow along, take notes, and also have extra encouragement in these three areas.
So, get together with your ladies group, small group, sister friends or just you and Jesus and join us in April for a life changing experience! Register and order a copy of the book here!
HOW: This course will be facilitated online via video conferencing or if you prefer not to be seen, then you will be given the number to call in once you’ve registered.
COST: Free but donations are appreciated!
WHO IS THIS FOR? Women of all ages and stages that want and need to grow or healing in the areas of knowing their indentity in Jesus Christ, dealing with relationships and knowing God’s truth about sex.
DATES: April 12th, 19th, 25th 8pm EST
Be blessed & encouraged,
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