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In my single days, I was on the constant search for a man or male companionship. I had a different guy for every aspect of my life. One guy who was truly just a friend that I could hang out with, then there was the guy who took care of my emotional needs and then there was the guy who took care of my physical needs. Neither guy had the total package of what I thought I needed or wanted in a man at the time so all three combined seemingly fed my wounded soul. Notice, neither of the guys fed me spiritually because at the time, I didn’t consider any type of spiritual need. God was just God, no major significance to the decisions I made. But once God finally got His hands on me, once I finally submitted, my world was turned upside down!
I met my husband when I was in college and still straddling the fence with God. I knew God was calling me but I wasn’t ready to heed the call. Before we became husband and wife, we lived together and God made it clear as day that us living together outside of marriage was not His plan! He made it very clear! (To read the story, check out my book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned) Once we found out that we were out of the will of God, He led us down the path to getting right with Him and after two years of being together we got married.
Now, going back to my single days, I didn’t know God so I did what every single lady does when she’s ready to mingle, I went out to find me a man! The Error? Not knowing that God never says in His Word that a woman has to go out and get a man. This is the total opposite of His Word. His Word tells us that Eve was brought to Adam by God Himself (Genesis 2:22). Eve didn’t have to go and look for anyone. Being single, we roll with the world’s way of thinking that in order for a man to want us we must look, dress and behave in a way that’s contrary to God’s Word. So not true!
To the real Christian woman, it is my hope that you want to attract the godliness in a man, not lust, right? Lust dies, sometimes very quickly and believe it or not, it’s not a man’s deepest need. A man’s deepest need from a woman is…RESPECT! Yes! Remember, what you give off is what you will attract. Being “fine” or “sexy”, on the outside is not enough to keep a godly man. Why? Because this is not, was not how God intended relationships to be in the first place.
Go back to Genesis where Eve was created and presented to Adam in chapter 2 verses 22 through 23. First, God took a part of Adam that was unique to him, and from that unique rib, created a woman for Adam. God used a rib which is used to protect mans most vital organs, and from that came Eve. Please catch the significance of this! You, custom-made rib, was taken from your Adam by whom? God! Now, before you’re placed by Adam’s side, there’s something that you have to do, woman of God. You have to step back, submit, and allow GOD to form, shape and mold you. Once the process is done, then and only then will God present you to your Adam. Trying to buck this system ends in ERROR!
Now, back to Genesis 2:23, when God presented Eve to Adam, what was Adam’s reaction? He immediately accepted her as his wife. He immediately and readily accepted EVE as God had formed and created her. Adam didn’t ask God to change her in any way. God didn’t ask for Adam’s opinions or preferences (he was asleep) but God knew who Adam was and He knew what Adam needed. Adam was formed, shaped and created by God as well and had God’s breath breathed into him. Which is another reason you as a single lady need to step back and let God be God and let Him finish working on and in you and your Adam. God’s breath is needed for any relationship to work! If you’re trying to get a man that’s not had or doesn’t have the breath or word of God in him, then he won’t recognize you and won’t know what to do with you. He’ll only respond to you in a lustful and immature way! Also notice that Adam didn’t ask to try Eve out first to make sure they were a perfect match sexually! Adam trusted that Eve was all that he needed because Adam trusted God. You need a man who trusts God and is led by God.
So, my dear single sister, stop trying to be God and submit all things to Him, yes especially the job of trying to find a man. Work on deepening your relationship with God because trust me, you will most definitely need Him when you’re married! Know who you are in Christ. Find out what His word says about you. Then when it’s time to be side by side with Adam it will feel like a blessing and not a curse!
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Be Blessed & Encouraged,
What if you just absolutely knew without a shadow of a doubt what it is that you were called to do? What if you had this detailed plan in your head of how things were going to go and who would be involved and how absolutely wonderful it was going to be? Then you decide to surrender it all to the Lord and He blows it all up, flips it upside down, moves people and places around and you’re smack in the middle watching as if in the eye of a tornado as everything starts to swirl around you at a dizzying rate and you have ZERO control! Can you relate even a little?
I thought that I’d graduate college, have a very successful event planning company and then I prayed, “Lord, use me!” Well, I had this wedding that I was planning and then before I knew it, I lost all control of that wedding and that was the end of my event planning company. Ironically, at this time I really began to hear God as if He was standing right next to me, like loud and clear to the point that I thought the sleep deprivation I’d experienced from taking care of a little had taken its toll. Little did I know that this would be the beginning of God answering my prayer of Him using me.
I lost jobs, embarrassing interviews, arguments with my husband, no money, struggles that happened in the past 8 years and it was all because I prayed for God to use me! He was directing me and I was fighting Him!
Here’s the thing, when we ask God to use us, this means that we have given Him sole control. He reminded me one day that, daughter, you don’t get to choose your assignment. Your obedience is what I need. We don’t get to choose who, what, when, where or how. We must obey. The train wreck happens when we try to work God’s plans into ours instead of the other way around. God takes our prayers quite seriously and He honors them. So, be careful what you pray for!
On the journey to Him “using” us, He works on, in then through us. He reaches down to clean us up and clean us out. He removes the things in us that would taint His purpose for us. He removes the things in our hearts that are not of Him and this can be quite painful! He also moves at His own pace and how many of you know that His timing is NOTHING like our timing!!?? But even in this godly surgery, He doesn’t let any of the pain go to waste, He uses it all, even the things we think are so minute and unimportant.
What He’s doing during this surgery is healing us in the process of using us. Sometimes this surgical healing requires Him to remove us from certain people and situations, environments, anything that would hinder His work in us and through us. He takes great care in healing us because He doesn’t want us to spread toxic pain to others and He certainly doesn’t want us to hold on to it. If we want God to use us, we must first go through a healing process. Healing from things and people who hurt us, the pain that left a tarlike residue. We can’t move forward if we don’t allow Him to perform the surgery on our hearts and in our minds. So if you feel as if you’re stalled, then perhaps this is the reason why?
Are there some areas that you won’t talk about, can’t talk about without crying? Is there a person in your life (friend, relative, male or female) that you know isn’t good for you, or you feel that God has warned you about but because you don’t see anything wrong, you stay because you don’t know how to leave? Do you wonder if you’re stalled because God doesn’t love you because of the things you’ve done in your past or you feel that you’re too dirty to love? This is why I’m offering the class HEALED I know that I’m not the only one who’s had these feelings and I am more than willing to share how the Lord has helped me.
If you’ve prayed for God to use you and you’re wondering why you’re stuck, then ask Him, what’s holding you back and He’ll show you. If you need help in this process then perhaps HEALED is for you!
Be blessed & encouraged,
What is HEALED?
Healed is a three week live, online course based on the book ‘Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned’ written by Shannon Taylor, founder of Savin’ it for Hubby. This interactive course is designed to lead you to healing and wholeness in these three areas:
With each session, there will be homework with questions that will help you get to the root of what’s holding you back in these three areas and also during the sessions, you’ll be able to ask questions. In the book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned, you’ll be able to follow along, take notes, and also have extra encouragement in these three areas.
So, get together with your ladies group, small group, sister friends or just you and Jesus and join us in April for a life changing experience! Register and order a copy of the book here!
HOW: This course will be facilitated online via video conferencing or if you prefer not to be seen, then you will be given the number to call in once you’ve registered.
COST: Free but donations are appreciated!
WHO IS THIS FOR? Women of all ages and stages that want and need to grow or healing in the areas of knowing their indentity in Jesus Christ, dealing with relationships and knowing God’s truth about sex.
DATES: April 12th, 19th, 25th 8pm EST
Be blessed & encouraged,
Sex and beauty are not usually two words you find in the same sentence. But they should be! Unless, you were like me, raised to believe that sex was anything but beautiful. I learned about sex from my peers and the various rap songs that I listened to. It was believed that if you were still a virgin by the age of 17, then there was something very wrong with you and unfortunately, this view still remains.
I was 14 years old the first time I had sex. I thrived off the attention that I received from a guy who was much older than me. The attention I received from him helped me to take my mind off the misery that was my life. My mom had a serious drug and alcohol problem and although she was one of the most loving women you’d ever meet, her demons overwhelmed her. My sister and I pretty much did whatever we wanted to do. (For more of my story, check out my book Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned)
Why am I sharing this? What does this have to do with marriage? Tons! The evil lie that the enemy wants us all to believe is that sex before marriage is okay and there are no consequences. Even if you didn’t get pregnant or contract a sexually transmitted disease, there’s still damage done. These are the lies that I believed and they almost destroyed our marriage. Sex is a spiritual act, so just because something didn’t happen in the natural, something did happen in the spirit. Soul ties were created and guilt and shame were given a doorway into your life. It. Is. Not okay! To read more click here!
Be blessed & encouraged,
The Be Mine Conference is the conference I wish I’d had access to when I was in middle/high school. The truths that are shared with the young ladies at this conference are so needed right now. Especially when the noise and lies off this world is crowding in on them! They need to know that they are beautiful right now, they are strong right now, they matter right now, their gifts are needed right now and that purity is possible right now!!! If you have a teenage daughter, niece, cousin, or sister you want her at this conference! If you don’t have a teenage girl in your life, consider donating so that if there’s a girl who would like to attend but can’t afford the cost, you can have joy knowing you made this possible for her! Plus, I’ll be one of the break out speakers!!😍 I hope to see you there! #bemine #bemineconference #bemineconference2018#bemine2018 #girlsconference #girlpower #beautifulnow #strongnow#giftednow #teens #teengirls #purityispossible #puritymatters #savinitforhubby#teenagers #tweens #juniorhigh #middleschool #highschool #beautifulinitstime
Be Blessed & Encouraged,
I consider this the month of LOVE! What greater love is the love of Jesus? I pray that the scriptures from this plan help you to feel and experience the great love that Jesus has for us. His love is unconditional, never ending, and can’t be earned, just received.
Be blessed & encouraged!
We are now at the final step in our Getting Aligned with God series! The final step is to prioritize our lives to where God comes first in everything! Giving God His rightful place in our heart and our life. Just as now that He sits on the throne of heaven, He should sit on the throne of our heart as not only our Savior but also as our Lord! When we give our lives to God, when we ‘get saved’ we always remember that Jesus died on the Cross to forgive our sins, be our Savior, and make us right with God. Along the way we often forget that He is also our Lord! Meaning, He should be the governing body of our heart and our life. This is what distinguishes us from the world and moves us from being more than just believers but disciples of Jesus Christ.
I’m a week late in posting this final step because I was so sick last week that the last thing I wanted to do was write a blog post. Yep that sick. I had to make myself a priority because if I hadn’t I would have continued to be sick or gotten worse. This is how we need to look at our life when we consider getting our priorities in order. If we don’t, our situations, circumstances could get worse and we’ll remain stuck where we don’t want to be. This picture came to mind when I was thinking of priorities, there’s an order. Just as God has a model for marriage, the same goes for our lives whether married or single. Our relationship with God is THE most important and should come first in our lives. It should take precedence in the choices that we make and the people we surround ourselves with. When we make God the priority, when we put Him in His rightful place in our life, He begins to line things up for us. This upcoming weekend my Hubby and I will celebrate 14 years of marriage!! I was lying in bed thinking of our honeymoon weekend, which was not this big getaway to a tropical island, but I remembered that we didn’t even have a car when we got married and we didn’t even have our own place! But God! So if you don’t know my story, I’ll share a bit here, but you can get the full story in my book, Love, Jesus, Sex: Experiences & Lessons Learned. Before my husband and I got married, we’d had sex outside of marriage not just in our relationship with each other but with others before we met. We were all out-of-order! When we decided to get married and do things God’s way, it’s as if He rolled out the red carpet for us! The way that He provided for our rings, my dress, even the hotel suite we stayed in. I even remember that somehow we’d both gotten a nice income tax check so that we were able to enjoy our honeymoon weekend and were able to eat at our top choice restaurants that we’d always wanted to try but couldn’t because we were broke college students LOL! Even after we got married, he blessed me with a new job because when we got married I was working at Ruby Tuesday as a server! Then, after the job came our own apartment and then He gave us favor with the owner of the building we lived in and got us a brand new washer and dryer for only $300! The blessings kept coming! We’d go to church and there were couples that would just pass us cards with money in them! When we got our act together, when we got aligned with God, He began to bless us and move in our lives. He began to guide us into the plans He had for us but He began to do the work in us to prepare us for the purpose He has for us individually and together as husband and wife.
If you’re stuck in your life right now and nothing’s changing or moving then perhaps your priorities are all out-of-order. Take a look at your life and see where you’ve placed God. What/who have you put in place as lord of your life? There’s an order, a flow that leads to alignment with God. And it should always begin with God.
If you need support, have more questions or just need someone to hold you accountable and pray with you throughout this process, there’s a Facebook group that I’ve created just for this. If you’re interested, click here!
Be blessed and encouraged,
Purge: in summary, to rid yourself of an unwanted feeling, thought or memory, or condition. To remove something physically, abruptly or violently.
In other words to cast down thoughts and imaginations (2 Corinthians 10:5) and get rid of anything or anyone that keeps you from walking in alignment with God.
9 The Lord did this to purge Israel’s[a] wickedness,
to take away all her sin. As a result, all the pagan altars will be crushed to dust.
No Asherah pole or pagan shrine will be left standing.
When it comes to sin, God is serious! Obviously, because He’s been known to destroy cities because of it, see the story about Sodom and Gomorrah (Genesis 19). You could argue that this was Old Testament news but if that was the case then why did He send Jesus to die on the Cross for us?
If we’re serious about moving forward in the plans that God has for us then we need to be serious in removing things, thoughts, actions and people from our lives that don’t please God, that hinder our relationship with God, that keeps us from moving forward in our calling, our purpose in the kingdom of God.
How do you know if something or someone is stealing your attention and affections from God? Well, let’s do a quick check:
What came to mind as you asked yourself these questions? Whatever came to mind, is what needs to be purged from your life!
We’re not called to walk this journey alone. I’ve created a private Facebook Group that provides support for the steps in this series. To join, click here!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Welcome to the first step to Getting Aligned with God! Today we will talk a bit about fasting. There’s lots of confusion when it comes to fasting and there are many scriptures in the bible that give certain specifications for fasting; when it’s done, why, where, who, what, how and how long.
Well, for me fasting starts with a choice. It’s a choice to deny the flesh of something it craves, and seeking to fully fulfil my spirit. It’s me decreasing so that God in me may increase (John 3:30-31). Christians fast for healing, answers to prayer, closeness to God, to have certain things broken off them, to help them get aligned with God.
Letting go of what we want, especially when it’s no good for us, sometimes requires a little extra umph, extra help, some reinforcement. That’s where fasting comes in. The first 2 scriptures in our January 2018 SWP (scripture writing plan) were scriptures pertaining to fasting. Have you decided what you will fast from? There are many ways to fast. There’s the Daniel Fast, there’s fasting where you only drink water and/or juices, and then there’s a fast where you fast from things, people or situations that pull you away from God or have a strong hold on your life. For instance foods, that guy who you know you need to move away from or that friend or family member who criticizes your faith, or fast from social media! For me, I’m fasting from sweets; no candy, cakes, ice cream, cookies, pies, cinnamon rolls, all the things that I absolutely love. I don’t eat these things all the time but I do love them and sometimes the cravings can get out of hand or I’ll find myself turning to them when I’m a bit stressed or frustrated. So, I’m starting this year off in getting aligned with God by denying my flesh and instead of baking something to try to ease a frustration, I’m going to God, I’ll be praying and reading scripture instead. As for the length of a fast, it depends on you. Every year my church does a 21 day fast in January and we started this past Saturday, January 6th. Some people do 40 days as Jesus did when He was tempted in the desert by satan (Matthew 4:1-11). Then there are short fasts throughout the year. I do these based on what’s going on in my life, or if I’m seeking clear answers from God. I’ll do a week-long fast and say, not eat anything all day until 4pm. If you’re not sure, pray and ask God, He’ll give you a time period and what to fast from. During this type of fast, you can ask someone to fast with you or to be your prayer partner during your fast.
Fasting is a way to help to train you to run to God first and not to those things, people or situations that pull you away from God. In order to move forward with God we have to be in line with Him. We have to be on the same side of the fence, we can’t straddle. Fasting is making a choice for our relationship with Christ. It’s also a way to make your spirit more sensitive to His voice. Fasting requires us to depend on Him to get us through denying our flesh and in the first week, you may find that your flesh is screaming at you like a 2-year-old having a temper tantrum because it wants what it wants. When your flesh starts screaming, you yell back at it with scripture! I also must warn you of the spiritual warfare that comes with fasting. It’s the enemy, the devil, satan, trying to trip you up and pull your affections away from God. That’s why prayer is so important during fasting! You can’t fast and not pray, you just can’t. Your fast will be in vain. You can’t get close to the Father without having a conversation with Him and that’s prayer.
You don’t have to go through your journey of fasting alone. I have set up a Facebook group that pertains to this series and there we will share about our fasts, and other things we’re learing during this series. If you’re interested, click here!
I look forward to this journey with you and please, if there are any questions, comments or concerns feel free to ask!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Someone else is counting on your Obedience.
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