SAVIN’ IT FOR HUBBY STORE
Have you ever had cloudy vision? You can see but not clearly, you can make out shapes and silhouettes but not a clear picture of who or what it is you’re looking at? Well, that’s what sex before marriage does. Let me explain. You have sex with someone based on how they make you feel or what state of mind you’re in. If it’s a one night stand thing, then you may have sex with the guy for several reasons, you’re horny, he’s fine, you’re lonely, or you feel that you have to do so just to keep him. Now, say he’s not so much of a creep in the beginning and the sex is good and all seems fine. Question, what is the basis for this relationship? Is it just sex? We as women have the tendency, just as guys, to “diversify our accounts”. We have a guy for sex, for emotional support, who makes us laugh, gives us money, makes us feel good, you name it there’s a guy for it! But what about when you have to find 1 guy? You can’t marry them all! So now, you’re stuck with cloudy vision. You can’t make up your mind, the sex guy is cool but he doesn’t give you what you need emotionally, or the emotional guy is cool but you’ve had sex with him as well and it wasn’t all that hot. So what do you do?
This used to be me! I wish I’d known that yep, God takes care of that too, and very well. I always say that I got lucky because I married the guy who fit my important needs and as an added bonus he’s everything I’ve ever wanted physically. God can and will take care of our desires as well! (Psalm 37:4) My husband’s strengths are my weaknesses and my strengths are his weaknesses. When you have sex with different guys, play the field and get wrapped up in so much mess, you can’t see straight, your vision is cloudy! Your heart is jacked up, your emotions are all over the place and that’s not God’s plan for us. Not to mention all of the soul ties you’ve created!
God created us so He knows what we need sexually and emotionally. We don’t have to go and do the work by trial and error (mostly error!), He will do it for us gladly. Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. The key here is accepting the fact that God knows the plan, not us. This requires us to trust Him!!
See, He’s already declared that we’re taken care of but we have to have a relationship, not religion with Him and seek Him first! We don’t know who we are or what we want or what our purpose is without Him! The way I see it, my life was an absolute mess without God! I tried to do everything on my own and on my own terms and messed up a lot but God loves us so much that He restores us and picks us up out of our messes and turn them into the beautifulness (yep I created a word ;-)) that He intended for us to have anyway! So, if your vision is cloudy, ask God to give you clear vision and an undivided heart and He will show you the way!
Be blessed & encouraged,
I know it’s been forever but….I’m pregnant! I am due in about 7.5 weeks! I’m so ready LOL! This little fella is getting heavy! It seems that my little Caleb has consumed my life already and I haven’t really been able to write even though there’s lots on my mind. Hoping to write more once I get settled with my little one!
Now for red flags for dating, I saw this post on Facebook and thought it would be helpful. If you see any of the signs listed below, RUN FOR THE HILLS! (Oh and by the way, I’m always sharing info on the Savin’ it for Hubby Facebook page so it you haven’t joined us, you may do so by clicking “Like” via the Facebook box to the right :-))
Please ladies, don’t let your loneliness or desperation make you compromise your morals. Be patient and wait on the Lord. I know sometimes it easier said than done, but you’ll never regret trusting and waiting on him.
Be blessed and encouraged,
“A soul tie is the joining or knitting together of the bonds of a relationship. Godly soul ties occur
when like-minded believers are together in the Lord: friends, marriage partners, believers to
pastors, etc. Relationships that lack ‘God-centeredness’ can result in ungodly soul ties between
friends, parents and children, siblings, marriage partners, former romantic or sexual partners,
domineering authorities, etc. An unhealthy attachment with another can bring about a psychic
control that can adversely affect the life, e.g. a mother who refuses to relinquish her hold on her
children (tied to her apron strings), a person who refuses to release to the Lord the memory of an
old romantic flame (withdrawing into nostalgia in times of loneliness), a person who holds a grudge
or a judgment against another, someone who uses spiritual forces to control others (witchcraft),
Prayer for breaking ungodly soul ties:
“In the name of Jesus Christ I now renounce, break and loose myself from all demonic subjection and any
ungodly soul ties and unhealthy bondings with the following people: (break soul ties with each person that
comes to mind)”
“Lord, I ask you to do whatever it takes to break me of my tendencies to: obsessive preoccupations,
domination, control, passivity, apathy, unforgiveness, anger, blame, accusations, fear, intimidation and
disobedience in relationships.”
“Finally, in the name of Jesus, I declare every demonic hold in my life that has come as a result of
unhealthy soul ties null and void. Satan, I renounce you and your demons and command you to depart
from my spirit, soul and body!”
(courtesy of New Wine Christian Fellowshiphttp://www.newwineonline.com)
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Be blessed & encouraged,
I pray that you all are well! I’m guest posting on my dear sister LaTanya Quinn’s blog for her ministry, LaTanya Quinn Ministries for a series called The Married and Single Series. You definitely want to check out the wisdom that has been shared thus far as well as the article written by yours truly – Attracting Adam. Praying you’re blessed and will draw closer to the lover of our souls!
Be blessed & encouraged,
Mark 1:23-24, 34
23 Suddenly, a man in the synagogue who was possessed by an evil[h] spirit began shouting, 24 “Why are you interfering with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are—the Holy One of God!”
25 Jesus cut him short. “Be quiet! Come out of the man,” he ordered. 26 At that, the evil spirit screamed, threw the man into a convulsion, and then came out of him.
34 So Jesus healed many people who were sick with various diseases, and he cast out many demons. But because the demons knew who he was, he did not allow them to speak.
So, I just started studying the book of Mark and just got an awesome but sobering revelation. In the above verses, Jesus has just arrived to Capernaum and on the Sabbath, being Jesus, shaking up all sorts of stuff, began teaching. But of course, when the Word is about to go forth, the enemy shows up in this man. Now, verse 24 grabs me, the demons inside the man knew who Jesus was AND they knew that Jesus had the power and ability to destroy them!!!!!!!!!!! They knew that Jesus is the Holy One of God! Why this has never stuck out to me like this before me is crazy but the demons knew who he was and knew what Jesus was capable of. The sobering fact is that we, humans created in the image of God, God’s children, co-heirs with Jesus Christ himself, don’t KNOW who Jesus is and we certainly don’t know His power, but the demons do! OMG! So this just further shows why the enemy works so hard at keeping us deceived! The less we know about the power of Jesus, the more Satan can deceive us, keep us in bondage, keep us in sin, addictions, afflictions, sickness, doubting and questioning the power of God and His existence! Just to show how much power Jesus has over the enemy, in verse 34, Jesus casts out the demons and then doesn’t allow them to speak because the demons know who Jesus is!!! JESUS HAS POWER OVER DEMONS! Rejoice in this! Whatever “demon” you have or are battling with, Jesus is greater! There is truly power in the name of Jesus, don’t ever forget that or let the enemy talk you out of believing that! At the name of Jesus, demons flee!! If the demons know who Jesus is, shouldn’t you!!!!!!!!!!!!
Be blessed & encouraged,
It’s back to school time and I know that some of you have children entering middle school/junior high, especially girls. I bet that some of you haven’t had “the talk” with them either, have you? If you haven’t talked to your daughter and told her God’s truth about sex then I suggest you do it NOW! Before she steps foot in her school. Do it before her little friends tell her lies and things that could get her into trouble.
I get it, it’s hard to think about telling your baby girl about sex, I have 2 little girls of my own. My oldest is 9 and yes, we’ve had the talk, on her level, of course. I wasn’t ready and I didn’t want to, but she was reading her Bible one day, Genesis, and she read about Adam having sexual relations with Eve. She asked what was sexual relations so I had to tell her, which I’m glad I did, because I was able to tell her the truth before anyone could come to her with lies.
I also realize that a lot of us have believed lies about sex all of our lives and it’s taken a while for us to get rid of the lies and embrace truth. The reality is that so many women still walk around believing lies and the lies follow them into their marriages and their marriages suffer and the women suffer. I know that I don’t want my daughters to go into their marriages with skewed views of sex so as they get older, I will reveal more truth and when they get married, they will be able to go into their marriages fully embracing and enjoying sex the way that God intended.
So, for those of you who are dreading “the talk” or don’t know where to start, I’m giving you a condensed list to start with. Maybe this list will help bring you into truth as well.
Truths About Sex:
1. Sex was created by God, as a gift for married couples; male and female. (Genesis 4:1)
2. Sex is beautiful when done in parameters which God set: marriage! (Hebrews 13:4)
3. Sex represents the intimate relationship that God wishes to have with us. (Song of Solomon)
4. Sex is meant to be like super glue for marriage, so if you’re having sex with someone you’re not married to, then guess what you’ve done? Glued yourself to some random guy!
5. Sex outside of marriage can be devastating. It has lasting emotional, psychological, spiritual and sometimes damaging physical consequences.
6. What happens to you now, sexually, can set the tone for your sexual relationship with your husband.
7. Sex creates soul ties. Each time you have sex, you tie your soul to someone else. Yes, you can be walking around with your soul still tied to your ex, ex, ex, ex boyfriend! Soul ties cannot be broken without God!
8. Sexual immorality is a form of devil worship.
9. Sex outside of marriage separates us from God and keeps us from His best for our lives. Sin separates and sexual immorality is sin and not pleasing to God.
10. SEX IS NOT NASTY! Do not tell your daughter that sex is nasty! She will grow up to be a woman who gets married and won’t be able to enjoy her husband all because she thinks that sex is nasty!
What we tell our young girls now about sex, shapes their future! If you have skewed views of sex, please seek healing. Don’t spread the lies to your daughter. Don’t be afraid to tell her about your mistakes either. Wouldn’t you rather she learned from your mistakes instead of her own especially concerning sex?
These are starting points that you can break down based on the age and maturity of your daughter. Pray before your talk and ask God for wisdom and guidance and don’t be afraid to say that you don’t know. Tell her what you do know and then for the answers you don’t have, you can go and find answers, truth, together. The world, the enemy, isn’t holding back or sugar coating and neither should we. Our kids are in the middle of war and we have to arm them with the truth. If we won’t tell them God’s truth, the enemy is ready and willing to fill them with his lies!
Be blessed & encouraged,