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The Evil Heffa: Comparison

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Hi!!!

First of all, I do know that it’s spelled heifer, but I’m a southerner and in Georgia, it’s pronounced heffa. A heffa, in the south, is usually a name given to a female that you don’t like or just really don’t want to be around. Comparison falls in that category for me. I hate comparison but yet fall victim to it sometimes. Comparison is a joy stealer and killer. The bible tells us that the only One we should compare ourselves to is Jesus. We are here to be His hands and feet, His body, serving in different capacities, but yet we fall into the trap of comparison.

Social media doesn’t help us at all does it? We supposedly use it for inspiration, information and connecting with others. Too much of a good thing isn’t good and if we’re not careful, we begin to question our entire existence! I’m sure that men struggle with comparison but we as women really have it bad! We see all the highlight reels of how our bodies should look, how our marriages should be, how our children should act and how our careers or ministry should look and achieve! Seriously!! It’s overwhelming! The enemy satan uses these images to really wreak havoc in our minds.

For instance, I was scrolling through Facebook and someone I follow posted a picture of their happy little family enjoying family time at the beach. Then out of nowhere comes all these thoughts; why do they get to go to the beach? Did she lose weight? Why are her children so perfect? Y’all I’m telling you, being a wife and mom is hard but throw in some comparison issues and it seems as if you are nothing and you’re doing everything wrong! I remember thinking after a hard day of being home with the kids, ALL DAY, Lord, what in the world is wrong with my kids? They were running around chasing each other and the dog and fighting over the remote, fighting for attention and it was overwhelming! Then I think, where have I gone wrong God? Why is that when I mention reading the bible the girls look at me as if I’ve rained on their parade and my son won’t sit still long enough for me to teach him to count to 5!!! Not to mention those days where Hubby and I can’t seem to finish a conversation without it turning into an argument and no matter what each of us says, it’s just the wrong thing to say!

Well, when I had a moment of quiet, I heard Holy Spirit say, in all His love, grace and mercy, “I gave your children and husband to you for My purposes. They need what you have to offer and you need what they have to offer. If they were supposed to act like sister such and such’s kids then I would have given them to her.” Well, how can you argue with that? He also reminded me that what He put in my children, He will use for His kingdom, He’s using them now!

There are greater things going on in our lives than we could ever wrap our little minds around! Christ’s death on the cross freed us from the bondage of comparison! When ever we compare ourselves to others we negate what He’s done on the cross and treat it as if it doesn’t even matter! Here are a few things to remember the next time you fall prey to that heffa Comparison:

  1. You are who God created you to be for a great purpose! He needs what He placed in you for His kingdom and no one else can do what He’s called you to do the way that you can do it! They can try, but it won’t be the same. The anointing won’t be the same and others won’t receive it the same. If God called you to start something that someone else is doing, do it anyway! For instance, I’m very straight forward, bottom-line me type of person, so flowery language kinda annoys me. Just get to the point. But for others, they enjoy the flowery language and need it. So, there has to be bible studies and devotions for the straight forward people and for the flowery language people. If God said it, then He knows who needs what you are offering and will make sure that they find you.
  2. You are enough and you can have what others have. God is a good, good Father and desires to give us good gifts. God’s timing is everything! You may not have some things that you want right not because it’s just not time! God wants what He gives us to be a blessing to us, not a curse. If given to soon, then the blessing can draw us away from Him instead of to Him. Whatever or whoever you desire to have, sit tight, it’s coming. We must trust His timing. I’m so preaching to myself on this one too!
  3. If you’re not where you want to be, change it! Yep, get off your blessed assurance and change it! Don’t like your body, put in the work and change it! Exercising sucks sometimes but I’ve noticed that when I don’t, my body doesn’t function the same and emotionally I’m not as stable and sharp. Seriously, exercise is wonderful for our minds and bodies. Even if all you do is walk for 30 minutes a day or 3 days a week, it’s getting you closer to where you want to be. Want more money, tired of not having what you want, then take the next step and do something. Get your GED, degree, apply for what you want. Give God something to work with. Often times He’s waiting for us to move in faith. Faith without works is dead! Without faith it’s impossible to please God! If you’re healthy and able-bodied, then you have no excuse especially if you’re a child of God. He promises to never leave or forsake us and that He will bless us with what we need and the desires of our hearts, so move forward, trust God, take a step and leave the rest to God. He will do His part, but you must do yours too!
  4. Lastly, remember how incredibly blessed you are! There’s always something to be grateful for. I may not be able to buy that backpack purse I saw on Amazon, but I’m healthy, my family is healthy, we have a roof over our head and we’re not hungry! My hot hunk of chocolate husband loves God and me! Are we where we want to be, nope, not yet but man, we’re not where we used to be and to me that’s evidence that God is working and moving in our lives, but all things in His timing.

So, the next time that heffa comparison comes around, tell her to kick rocks!

Father, thank you for the way that you created me! Thank you for freedom to embrace who I am. Forgive me for believing the lies that have been swimming around in my head. Help me to believe Your truth about who I am. You don’t make mistakes and in me you have placed all that I need to receive all that you have for me. Thank you Jesus for dying on the cross and setting me free from comparison. To God be all the glory, honor and praises! In Jesus’ name, Amen!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Rahab, Unlikely Woman of Influence

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It was by faith that Rahab, the prostitute, was not destroyed with the people in her city who refused to obey God. For she had given a friendly welcome to the spies. Hebrews 11:31 (NLT)

Yes, you read correctly, a prostitute. Rahab, a biblical woman of influence, was a prostitute in Jericho, the city that God was about to give to the Israelites. We all think of prostitutes as bad, shameful, horrible, worthless women but God didn’t think so. We meet Rahab through the spies that Joshua sent to Jericho and it just so happens that these Israelite spies end up at a prostitute’s home. This alone lets me know that God is up to something. I mean, of all the places for the spies to go, they find their way to a prostitute.

These spies were devoted to God and His authority. They were surrendered to God and wouldn’t even think of committing any act with a prostitute. God knew this. The spies thought they were going to scope out the land but God had another plan. The spies were there to give a new life of freedom and redemption to Rahab. God had heard her cries for freedom from the life she was living.

When the soldiers of Jericho heard there were Israelite spies in their city and that they’d gone to Rahab’s home, they went to her home to get them. Rahab lied to the soldiers saying she saw them leaving on a certain road away from the city but she’d actually hidden them. Once the soldiers left, Rahab told the spies that she knew that their God was going to destroy the city and she believed in their God even though her people didn’t. So in return for her hiding them, she asked them for a favor. She asked that she and her family’s lives be spared. The spies agreed only if everyone was in her home once they came to destroy the city and takeover. To Read More, Click Here!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

Categories, Sexual Healing Series

Sex is Just Sex, Right? (Sexual Healing Series)

Before we get started:

  • Pray for Holy Spirit to be with you and guide you through this process as you won’t be able to do this alone.
  • Get a prayer partner or accountability partner or join our closed Sexual Healing group on Facebook here.
  • Be open and honest with yourself and transparent with your prayer partner or accountability person about any struggles or issues you’re having.
  • Enjoy the journey knowing that God is on your side and is more than willing to heal you!

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Scripture: Hebrews 13:4 (NIV)  Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

There is this very huge misunderstanding that sex equals love. It so does not! If only I’d learned this in my teen years. Sex outside of marriage, “good” sex outside of marriage, clouds your vision, makes you feel as if you’re in love but all it does is blind you to the things that you really need to pay attention too. For instance, my hubby and I had sex with others and each other before we were married. It wasn’t until after we were married that all of our junk came out. Did you catch that? Marriage has a way of bringing all of your junk to the surface.  I truly believe the reason some marriages don’t work is because when the junk comes to the surface, instead of people dealing with it and offering mercy and grace, they run and sadly in some cases, they take the junk with them to the next relationship. Again, marriage doesn’t erase your past!

My sexual brokenness is what brought me to full surrender to God. I couldn’t deal with the pain. The more I learned about God, His heart for me, His purpose and reason for creating sex, I realized what a mess I was! I felt so much guilt and shame. Well, why, Shannon, why did you feel this? It’s just sex right? WRONG! Sex is not just sex! Never was, never is, never will be. Sex is an act of worship. Yes, think about it, it’s powerful isn’t it? Women use it to get what they want, or to validate who they are as a woman because of their physical attributes. Men use it to make them feel like a man, as if they’ve conquered or accomplished something based on how much sex they can get. Satan uses it to destroy us. But God created it to create life. Sex has the power to create life! That’s power!

God tells us in His Word to work at all things as unto Him (Colossians 3:23-24). Not only this but to offer our bodies as a living and holy sacrifice, which is the way to truly worship Him. “And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice–the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him (NLT). 

Growing up I was never taught this! I wasn’t even taught to value myself, only to not get pregnant. So I worshipped the enemy with my body. I praised my flesh, I gave in. Ungodly soul ties were formed. Heartbreak happened almost to the point of my destruction. But God! He sent Jesus to save me and you! Praise God for this! I am redeemed and restored and am able to enjoy sex freely as God intended with my husband. My husband, the only one who truly deserves to know me intimately. The thing I regret the most is that my husband was not my first. No one else deserved that honor, that privilege. Again, thank God for Jesus!


Path to Healing:

How did I deal with the lies that I’d believed about sex? Finding out the truth of course! The truth will set you free! (John 8:32). I have found that some married women find it hard to have sex with their husbands because they haven’t dealt with their own pasts and have believed the lies that they’ve been taught about sex. Some have been taught that sex is nasty, you’re not supposed to enjoy it, there are certain things you shouldn’t do in the marriage bed even though God says the marriage bed is undefiled (Hebrews 13:4). I struggled with believing that because of my past, I wasn’t supposed to enjoy sex in marriage and I also believed that I wasn’t supposed to do certain things because “God was watching”! I’m so very glad that I found out that these were lies! Sex in the covenant of marriage is beyond beautiful! I understand why God created it for marriage. It allows you and your spouse to communicate in ways that words can’t express! There’s freedom in being vulnerable with the one God has blessed you to be with, your union has been blessed by Him. He sees what you’re doing and He’s pleased, not repulsed and not grieved! Sex outside of marriage grieves the Holy Spirit! And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. (NLT) Sex within marriage helps you through rough times, it’s like glue, it helps to keep you together, bonding and sealing your relationship. I will say this, the enemy works hard to get you to have sex outside of marriage and he works hard to get you to NOT have sex when you’re married. Another trick he uses to destroy marriages. 

I had to think about all the lies that I’d been told and I had to totally renew my mind about sex.

Lies I believed:

  • Sex was nasty and not to be enjoyed
  • You have to have sex with someone to get them to love you
  • Sex wasn’t important to God
  • I could do what I wanted and not have to worry about the consequences as long as I didn’t get pregnant
  • Sex had to be done a certain way, a performance, like what’s seen in porn
  • Sex was for anyone who wanted it, no other requirements, stipulations or consequences

Truth:

  • Sex was created by God for married couples because anything He created, He calls it good. (Genesis 5:2)
  • Sex is very important to God which is why in several scriptures we are warned of the consequences of sex outside of marriage. (see scriptures below)
  • Porn is the absolute last place one should be getting ideas or learning about sex. It’s demonic and not of God!

Work it out:

1 Corinthians 6:19 (NIV) Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;

What does this mean to you, for you? Holy Spirit lives in us so we should be extra careful of what we allow to enter our bodies mentally, physically and spiritually. What are some things/people who you need to change/let go of? Do you need to get help with help with a porn addiction? Do you need to cut off unhealthy relationships? Break some soul ties? Write down your own wrong and unhealthy thoughts about sex and find out what God has to say about them. Don’t know where to start? Pray and ask God for wisdom and He will give it to you freely! Below I’ve listed scriptures and links to a few resources to get your started. I pray that you will take advantage of what’s offered and go forth in getting the healing that you need.

Resources:

Porn Addiction: https://www.xxxchurch.com/

Tips on not having sex and breaking soul ties: How Not to Have Sex

Scriptures:

  1. Hebrews 13:4
  2. 1 Corinthians 16:9
  3. 2 Timothy 2:22
  4. Galatians 5:16
  5. Colossians 3:23-24
  6. Romans 8:1
  7. Romans 12:1-2
  8. 1 Corinthians 3:16-17
  9. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
  10. 1 Corinthians 6:12-20
  11. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2
  12. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9
  13. Galatians 5:1
  14. Galatians 5:19-21
  15. 1 Corinthians 7:5

Prayer:

Gracious and loving Father, thank you for your unconditional love, mercy and grace. Thank you Jesus for the forgiveness of sin.  I pray for every person who’s dealing with their sexuality whether single or married. I pray you will restore and rejuvenate the marriage bed of the marriages represented here. I pray that you would heal both spouses in this area and that their marriage would thrive and be a testimony of your greatness! I pray that all lies of sex be removed and destroyed and replaced with your truth! I pray for ungodly soul ties to be broken, porn addictions and other unhealthy addictions healed in the name of Jesus! I pray that Your truth about sex will overcome all the lies told us by the enemy! I pray for healing and wholeness in their hearts and minds. I pray for marriages to begin the healing process and I pray for wisdom and guidance for those preparing to be married. Lead them to wise counsel Lord and I pray that they take heed to all that they learn. I pray that all will continue to press forward towards all that you have for them! In Jesus’ name, Amen

I look forward to hearing about your experiences this week and if there are any other scriptures you’d like to share, questions or you just want to chat with someone who’s walking this same path, join us in the closed Facebook group here!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

Categories, Sexual Healing Series

Identity Crisis (Sexual Healing Series)

Before we get started:

  • Pray for Holy Spirit to be with you and guide you through this process as you won’t be able to do this alone.
  • Get a prayer partner or accountability partner or join our closed Sexual Healing group on Facebook here.
  • Be open and honest with yourself and transparent with your prayer partner or accountability person about any struggles or issues you’re having.
  • Enjoy the journey knowing that God is on your side and is more than willing to heal you!

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Scripture: 1 Peter 2:9 (NIV) But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.


We were both fresh out of college when we got married. We were all lovey dovey and couldn’t stand to be away from each other. Then time passes, and the reality sinks in that you actually have to start doing life together, real life things like budget, pay bills, communicate. Before long, things started to get a little rocky. All of a sudden marriage didn’t look like I thought it would or should. All of my expectations weren’t being met, Hubby wasn’t being my knight in shining armor. He wasn’t telling me how fine and beautiful I was every day, or being affectionate everyday. He didn’t bring home flowers, and chocolates. He didn’t make me feel special, loved or needed everyday. In order for me to feel loved and cherished I needed this meer man to make me feel special because that’s what I expected and that’s what I needed him to do to make me feel secure and not doubt that I deserved to be married and to be loved unconditionally.  I needed him to do all these things every day so that I wouldn’t feel guilt and shame from my past and to some how prove to myself that I was worthy of love and valuable.

Looking back, this is what I expected from all my past relationships. I craved the attention and affection. My home life was so full of dysfunction and unpredictable circumstances, not the stability and security that a young girl needed. I wasn’t getting attention and affection from home from my mom and my dad was killed before I’d been born. There was no daily healthy affirmation or confirmation of who I was. So I sought the attention and affection elsewhere. I knew that my mom loved me but she had so many of her own demons to fight that she couldn’t fully give us what we needed, she couldn’t give what she didn’t have herself. If one guy wasn’t attentive enough, there was always another guy and another guy who was always available to make me feel beautiful, wanted, attractive and loved, special.  I thrived on the attention! The more attention I got, the more I felt validated and it took away from the hurt and pain that I had to deal with at home. It got even worse when I was in college. By then I was utterly boy crazy! I was so depressed from my past and I just covered it up with sex and all the attention I could get.

Well, this behavior played out in my marriage. Hubby and I didn’t get proper premarital counseling, we went in to marriage blindly, like sheep led to slaughter! We got what Hubby and I like to call “bootleg” counseling. The church we were attending at the time didn’t have any kind of marriage or premarital classes or counseling. We met with our pastor for about an hour. He asked all of five questions and when he found out we were living together, the only thing he told us was to stop having sex, not telling us why, and that we needed to get married sooner rather than later. So, we did, we got married and a few months later all hell broke loose!

I was expecting my husband to be my savior. My redeemer, the one to restore me and he couldn’t because that’s not his job. He needed someone to do and be the same for him and I couldn’t because that’s not my job either. Only Jesus can do this. We both came into marriage broken, battered and bruised filled with the pain and baggage from our pasts. He didn’t know who he was in Christ and neither did I so we put these unrealistic expectations on each other. You can’t be broken and get with another broken person and expect them to make you whole. No other human on this earth can complete you, ever. That’s not what humans are to do, only Jesus completes us. That’s why no matter how much sex, drugs, alcohol, food, shopping, attention you get or have, you’re never fulfilled. There’s a place in us only meant to be filled with Jesus and Jesus alone.

Path to Healing:

After some time, Hubby and I went to counseling and dealt with some of our past issues and learned how to work with each other. We also began to learn who we were in Christ. Throughout this journey, God called me to teach His truth about sex and during this journey He healed me as well. By replacing the lies with the truth, I was healed. My husband couldn’t and didn’t heal me, Jesus did. My husband isn’t responsible for my happiness and neither are my children, I am. People will come and go, will hurt you, try to break you, discourage you, knock you down, talk about you, wear you down, but Jesus won’t! All these things I experienced growing up because no one taught me who I was in Christ. I only heard of God here and there, but never about Jesus dying for my sins, my healing and wholeness and that I can be co-heirs with Him and be a child of God! Since I didn’t know these things, I went searching to fill this void in all the wrong places. Again I say, ignorance is NOT bliss. The things I did when I was young followed me into my marriage. My getting married didn’t make my hurts, pains, and flaws go away, they were just magnified! God uses marriage to draw things out of us and man is it painful sometimes.  I’m always amazed at how my husband knows exactly what button to push and how God shows me something about myself that I need to let Him in to heal or that I need to work on. Once I learned that I am God’s treasured possession, His daughter, the one He takes delight in, His child that’s fearfully and wonderfully made, I was able to relax and enjoy my marriage more! When my husband was being very human, it was easy to forgive him because I understood that he’s human and that God is working on him just like He’s working on me. My husband needed to have his junk uprooted too. So, knowing these things, it became easier to extend mercy and grace towards one another.

Work it out:

Not to say that you will be perfect going in to marriage, but BEFORE you get married, deal with you now! Learn who you are in Christ so that you won’t go into marriage with all these unrealistic expectations that will only put your marriage in crisis mode. You need Jesus now and you will most definitely need Him when you’re married! If you’re already married and things are already in crisis mode, focus on getting your heart right. Don’t look at what your husband is or isn’t doing. Let God handle Him, you focus on what God is telling you to work on.

Now, I want you to write down some of the lies that you believe about yourself or circumstances and then beside each one, write truth. For instance, for me it was not feeling worthy or valued, so my go to scripture was Psalm 37:23 (NLT) The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights (takes pleasure) in every detail of their lives. Just knowing that God took pleasure in every detail about my life blessed my heart! I didn’t have to worry about anyone else, because I knew that my Father cared about me. Below are some scriptures to get you started. Take time to write them out, meditate on them and use them to replace the lies and learn who you are in Christ! 

  1. Romans 12:2
  2. Psalm 37:23
  3. 1 Peter 2:9
  4. Psalm 94:19
  5. Romans 6:6
  6. Deuteronomy 7:6
  7. 2 Corinthians 3:17
  8. Isaiah 62:3
  9. Galatians 3:26
  10. Ephesians 2:10
  11. Psalm 139:14
  12. Song of Songs 4:7
  13. 1 Samuel 16:7
  14. Proverbs 31:30

Prayer:

Gracious and loving Father, thank you for your unconditional love, mercy and grace. Thank you Jesus for the forgiveness of sin.  I pray for every person who’s dealing with an identity crisis. Father I pray that you begin to show them who You created them to be. Show them how You see them. Father I pray that you will replace the lies told them by the enemy and replace them with Your truth. I pray for healing and wholeness in their hearts and minds. I pray for marriages to begin the healing process and I pray for wisdom and guidance for those preparing to be married. Lead them to wise counsel Lord and I pray that they take heed to all that they learn. I pray that all will continue to press forward towards all that you have for them! In Jesus’ name, Amen

I look forward to hearing about your experiences this week and if there are any other scriptures you’d like to share, questions or you just want to chat with someone who’s walking this same path, join us in the closed Facebook group here!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

Categories, Sexual Healing Series

The Past is the Past (Sexual Healing Series)

Happy Monday! Today begins our Sexual Healing Series and I’m so excited to begin this journey with you! I’ve been praying for God’s direction for this series and I’ve been praying for you all as well!

A few things before we get started:

  • Pray for Holy Spirit to be with you and guide you through this process as you won’t be able to do this alone.
  • Get a prayer partner or accountability partner or join our closed Sexual Healing group on Facebook here.
  • Be open and honest with yourself and transparent with your prayer partner or accountability person about any struggles or issues you’re having.
  • Enjoy the journey knowing that God is on your side and is more than willing to heal you!

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Scripture: 

Philippians 3:12-13 New Living Translation (NLT)

Pressing toward the Goal

12 I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. 13 No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it,[a] but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,


The first time I had sex, I was 14 years old and the guy was 22 years old. I’d just really started taking an interest in guys and was still rather awkward and shy around them but I did notice that I liked the attention that I was getting. My mom had a pretty serious drug and alcohol problem and the attention from the opposite sex proved to be a relief from my current circumstances. He’d told me that no one had to know and that he wouldn’t tell anyone, that everything would be ok.  That he would stop if it hurt too badly. I’m thinking, he’s older and he’s cute and out of all the girls, other than his girlfriend that he lived with, across the hall from me, he chose me. So I agreed. When his girlfriend had left, I went over to their apartment and that’s where my I gave away a very precious gift. Only, I didn’t know how precious it was because no one had ever told me, not even my mom, because she didn’t know either. The experience was very painful, not at all like the scripted lies that we see on TV and in the movies. The first person I told was my sister. She knew something was up because of the big smile I had on my face. I was smiling because I’d just done THE thing that everyone talks about. However, I didn’t know that this one event would change my life forever. It lead to lots of heartache, heartbreak, pain, depression, and many pointless relationships.

Path to Healing:

Looking back, all the sexual experiences I had outside of marriage contributed to much pain inside my marriage.  Contrary to popular belief, marriage is NOT a magic wand that will make all the pain of your past just disappear! We will definitely cover this in the upcoming sessions of this series! The first important step I had to take was to let go of my past. The enemy, the devil, used my sexual past to try to destroy my marriage. There was so much shame and guilt (which we will also deal with in another session) that I couldn’t enjoy sex with my husband in the beginning of our marriage. In the scripture above, we see that we have to forget those things which are behind and reach toward those things which are ahead. The only way I was able to even approach this was with the help of  the Holy Spirit. With each experience that was brought back to the forefront of my mind, He gently told me that I was forgiven and set free, that He didn’t see me as dirty and filthy! When we surrender our lives to Jesus, our sins are remembered no more by God but sometimes we have a hard time of letting go because we haven’t let His words uproot the accusatory and shameful lies that we hold on to. What I had to do was sit and think about what happened to me, all the experiences and give them to God, lay them at the foot of the Cross and leave them there. I had to turn to His word and what He said so that I could embrace Him and who He is and embrace who He says that I am. The enemy told me that I didn’t deserve my husband but God said otherwise. I was also told that God would punish me for my sins and that one day I wouldn’t be able to have children, but God has given me 3 beautiful children! I had to take hold of the new me and let go of the old. Now you have to do the same.

Work it out:

Take some time, sit quietly and go back to your past, this time, knowing that Jesus is with you. Let Him minister to your heart. He never meant for us to experience sex outside of what He created it for. He knew that doing so would cause tremendous hurt and pain. Going back for me, I learned that I couldn’t blame myself for what I didn’t know. I couldn’t blame my mom for what she didn’t know. I don’t care what anyone says, ignorance is not bliss. God let me know that He loved me so much and that His plans for me are so much greater than my pain. Through this process, take time to write out these scriptures and meditate on them throughout the week. Begin to commit them to memory.

  1. Philippians 3:12-13
  2. 1 Corinthians 5: 17
  3. Matthew 11:28-30
  4. Psalm 139 (I know it’s long but if you don’t want to write the entire thing, pick the verses that speak to you the most)
  5. Jeremiah 19:11
  6. 1 John 1:9
  7. Isaiah 43:18-19
  8. Galatians 2:20
  9. 2 Corinthians 3:17

Prayer:

Gracious and loving Father, thank you for your unconditional love, mercy and grace. Thank you Jesus for the forgiveness of sin.  I pray for every person who decides to take on this challenge and that you will give them the strength they need to press through. Bring to their remembrance experiences that they need to lay at the foot of the Cross that they may press forward towards all that you have for them! Father, begin to replace the lies that they believe about themselves with your beautiful truths. In Jesus’ name, Amen

I look forward to hearing about your experiences this week and if there are any othre scriptures you’d like to share, questions or you just want to chat with someone who’s walking this same path, join us in the closed Facebook group here!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Women 4 Christ Prayer Call

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Hi!

Join Savin’ it for Hubby Founder, Shannon Taylor (me :-)) and Women 4 Christ this Saturday morning at 7:00 am EST as we go before the Lord in prayer & praise ! Tune In to Be Blessed! You won’t want to miss this message!

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Be blessed & encouraged!

Shannon

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What Does God’s Word Say About Sex?

purity-article-header-mirage-marriageHi! I’m so excited to begin this journey with you through God’s Word! Why am I so excited? I am excited because one of the greatest lies ever told will now be demolished! What’s this lie? The lie is that God has nothing to say about sex! Oh, He has lots to say! For all the questions and doubts you’ve had concerning sex, I challenge you to join in and find out the answers for yourself! This is about you and God, no one else! Take the time to really meditate on God’s Word and let Holy Spirit minister to your heart. Let truth replace all the lies that have been told to you and that you’ve told to yourself.

Over the next thirty-one days, pray for revelation, journal the entire scripture or parts that really hit home for you and meditate on the passages.  Let God’s truth set you free.  I’ll be following along as well and will, as Holy Spirit leads, post what revelation I get or have gotten from the scriptures as well as how they’ve helped me on my journey to purity and healing from my past hurts.  If you need accountability, follow Savin’ it for Hubby on Facebook and post any questions, concerns or any revelation that you’ve received.  You will not be on this journey alone. I look forward to hearing from you!

Below is the link to download the plan!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

August SWP

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Are You a Fountain or a Drain?

image (1)Hi!! Next month I get the awesome opportunity to be one of the speakers at an amazing women’s conference and the theme is “Are You a Fountain or a Drain?” I’m so looking forward to this event! This event is being given by a sister-friend of mine, Minister Galetha Beard. She’s the president of their ministry called Women of Vision. SIFH has been partnering with this ministry for the past 3 years and love everything they stand for!

Now, if you’re in Georgia and would love to attend this event and be refreshed, encouraged and challenged, it will be on November 7th and the cost is $20.00, food included! Not bad for a women’s event, huh?  Below, is the link where you can find the details and register for the event. I really hope to see you there!

 

Are You a Fountain or a Drain? Women’s Event

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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The Power of Jesus

Mark 1:23-24, 34

23 Suddenly, a man in the synagogue who was possessed by an evil[h] spirit began shouting, 24 “Why are you interfering with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are—the Holy One of God!”

25 Jesus cut him short. “Be quiet! Come out of the man,” he ordered. 26 At that, the evil spirit screamed, threw the man into a convulsion, and then came out of him.

34 So Jesus healed many people who were sick with various diseases, and he cast out many demons. But because the demons knew who he was, he did not allow them to speak.

So, I just started studying the book of Mark and just got an awesome but sobering revelation. In the above verses, Jesus has just arrived to Capernaum and on the Sabbath, being Jesus, shaking up all sorts of stuff, began teaching.  But of course, when the Word is about to go forth, the enemy shows up in this man. Now, verse 24 grabs me, the demons inside the man knew who Jesus was AND they knew that Jesus had the power and ability to destroy them!!!!!!!!!!! They knew that Jesus is the Holy One of God! Why this has never stuck out to me like this before me is crazy but the demons knew who he was and knew what Jesus was capable of. The sobering fact is that we, humans created in the image of God, God’s children, co-heirs with Jesus Christ himself, don’t KNOW who Jesus is and we certainly don’t know His power, but the demons do! OMG! So this just further shows why the enemy works so hard at keeping us deceived! The less we know about the power of Jesus, the more Satan can deceive us, keep us in bondage, keep us in sin, addictions, afflictions, sickness, doubting and questioning the power of God and His existence! Just to show how much power Jesus has over the enemy, in verse 34, Jesus casts out the demons and then doesn’t allow them to speak because the demons know who Jesus is!!! JESUS HAS POWER OVER DEMONS! Rejoice in this! Whatever “demon” you have or are battling with, Jesus is greater! There is truly power in the name of Jesus, don’t ever forget that or let the enemy talk you out of believing that! At the name of Jesus, demons flee!! If the demons know who Jesus is, shouldn’t you!!!!!!!!!!!!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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Everything!

depend on GodAs a woman of God, whether single or married, you have to get to a place in your life where you know how to go to God for EVERYTHING!

I mean every need you have be it physically, yes, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Why? Because the people and things in our lives are only meant to compliment our lives, not to become our lives.  Humans can only do and handle so much.  It’s impossible for people to keep up with our every demand, emotion or need.  It’s exhausting! Have you ever tried to be everything to someone? It’s impossible! You will wear yourself out! For instance in marriage or seeking marriage, we often look for someone to be our “knight in shining armor” to “complete us”. These expectations were truly meant for fairy tales.  These are unrealistic expectations that will truly set you up for disappointment.  I learned this the hard way.  In the beginning of our marriage, I expected my husband to love me unconditionally, do what I needed and wanted when I needed it and wanted it done.  I wanted him to be affectionate, loving, make me feel good about myself, make me feel secure, take care of me and always see me as beautiful whether I was looking good physically or not! I wanted him to complete me because I felt so empty. I put all these unrealistic expectations on him that when he failed even once, my life was devastated! Then came the thoughts that tormented me about him not loving me, or caring all because he missed one of my many unrealistic expectations.  He’s a man, he’s human and can only do so much.  The greatest mistake we can make is in looking to find someone to complete us! Not possible.  You are setting yourself up for failure if you’re looking for another incomplete person to complete you! The only One who can complete you is God and thonly One that complete the person you’re seeking to complete you is God.  Two incomplete people equals a whole lot of mess!

See, there’s a place for people and things in our lives and there’s a place for God.  We try and try to fill God’s portion with people and things but as God would have it, nothing or no one will ever come close to filling His part, but Him.  He did this purposely so we would always depend on Him.  We were created for Him! Now, having learned this lesson, I receive what love and devotion that my husband can give in his human self. Whatever I feel may be lacking for some reason or another, depending on the day it is, (because we women are emotional creatures), I know how to go to God and ask that He fill or help me to deal with what I feel that I’m missing. I’ve also learned to go to God first to fill me so that what love and affection I receive from my husband and children and those around me are just beautiful bonuses. So if one day I don’t get what I need from the people in my life, it doesn’t devastate me, I have God and have been filled by Him.  When I need to be held and hubby isn’t feeling all lovey dovey, God takes care of it in His own way.  God knows me better than I know myself so He knows exactly how to take care of me.

We all need to get to  a place in life where we teach ourselves to go to God first, then, He takes care of the rest be it through people, things or Him.  Don’t put unrealistic expectations on people and things.  You will live your life in great disappointment. Depend on God for everything and you will never be disappointed!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon