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Cloudy Vision

Hello!

Have you ever had cloudy vision?  You can see but not clearly, you can make out shapes and silhouettes but not a clear picture of who or what it is you’re looking at?  Well, that’s what sex before marriage does.  Let me explain. You have sex with someone based on how they make you feel or what state of mind you’re in.  If it’s a one night stand thing, then you may have sex with the guy for several reasons, you’re horny, he’s fine, you’re lonely, or you feel that you have to do so just to keep him.  Now, say he’s not so much of a creep in the beginning and the sex is good and all seems fine.  Question, what is the basis for this relationship? Is it just sex?  We as women have the tendency, just as guys, to “diversify our accounts”. We have a guy for sex, for emotional support, who makes us laugh, gives us money, makes us feel good, you name it there’s a guy for it!  But what about when you have to find 1 guy?  You can’t marry them all!  So now, you’re stuck with cloudy vision.  You can’t make up your mind, the sex guy is cool but he doesn’t give you what you need emotionally, or the emotional guy is cool but you’ve had sex with him as well and it wasn’t all that hot.  So what do you do?

This used to be me! I wish I’d known that yep, God takes care of that too, and very well.  I always say that I got lucky because I married the guy who fit my important needs and as an added bonus he’s everything I’ve ever wanted physically. God can and will take care of our desires as well! (Psalm 37:4)  My husband’s strengths are my weaknesses and my strengths are his weaknesses.  When you have sex with different guys, play the field and get wrapped up in so much mess, you can’t see straight, your vision is cloudy!  Your heart is jacked up, your emotions are all over the place and that’s not God’s plan for us.  Not to mention all of the soul ties you’ve created!

God created us so He knows what we need sexually and emotionally.  We don’t have to go and do the work by trial and error (mostly error!), He will do it for us gladly.  Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.  You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.   The key here is accepting the fact that God knows the plan, not us.  This requires us to trust Him!!

See, He’s already declared that we’re taken care of but we have to have a relationship, not religion with Him and seek Him first! We don’t know who we are or what we want or what our purpose is without Him!  The way I see it, my life was an absolute mess without God!  I tried to do everything on my own and on my own terms and messed up a lot but God loves us so much that He restores us and picks us up out of our messes and turn them into the beautifulness (yep I created a word ;-)) that He intended for us to have anyway! So, if your vision is cloudy, ask God to give you clear vision and an undivided heart and He will show you the way!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Scattered & Splattered!

Hi!

The past 2 weeks have been challenging for me.  I feel as if I’m all over the place and dealing with a ton of emotions, to-do’s, not-to-do’s, spiritual warfare, the whole shebang! While I do love the holiday season, it can be challenging for me because I’m reminded of my mom, who passed 6 years ago, and how much I miss her and my family in general.  Also, just a little worn out from the spiritual warfare that comes along with being obedient to God.  Fighting lies from the enemy and my own self sabotaging thoughts that come to mind, have to be nipped quickly and being mindful of this and taking thoughts captive can be exhausting after a while. I know that the battle is not ours but we still have to take our thoughts captive and when you’re bombarded, it’s like an intense sword fight!

Also this week I delivered some Christmas gift bags to Peace Place and doing this was awesome! I’ve always wanted to do something like this and am grateful to have had the opportunity to fulfill a dream of mine! Needless to say, this week has been one filled with ups and downs and that’s why I feel so scattered and splattered!

In continuing my reading of Why Not You? by Valorie Burton, I came to a section at the end of the chapter, “Face Your Fears and Insecurities” and there’s this list of questions that are very thought-provoking.  As I read through them and started thinking about the answers, I felt myself start to slow down and really think about what’s going on and refocus on my goals and vision for myself.  I’m even going to break this down in to 2 columns: Career and Relationships, and answer the questions as they pertain to both.  SN, there may be some relationships that may need to be let go of, strengthened or pursued. So here are the questions. If you’ve been feeling a little scattered and splattered yourself, hopefully we can get back on track together!

  1. Honestly, do I really want to do this? If so, why? What’s my purpose in it?
  2. What does my inner voice-the voice of the Holy Spirit-tell me?
  3. What’s keeping me from standing up fully and confidently in this situation?
  4. What am I afraid of? (Our job is not to pretend fear doesn’t exist or to run and hide from it; our job is to be strong and courageous in unearthing the fear so we can confront and conquer it.)
  5. What doubts hinder me right now? What’s the truth about each of those doubts?
  6. Who will I need to become in order to achieve the goal or vision set before me?
  7. What will it feel like to stand fully in who I am?
  8. How do I want to feel in the situation in which I am lacking confidence?
  9. What will I have to do differently in order for success to come more easily?
  10. What opportunity for growth is before me right now?
  11. What will it take for me to embrace this opportunity for growth?

Using this list, I’m going to get myself back on track and continue to plan for great things to come in the next few weeks and in the new year! I’m also going to go and sit and stare at my vision board to help me refocus as well. Onward & Upward!

*Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.*

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


Vision Board for 2012

Hi!

As promised, I’ve posted pictures of my vision board for 2012.  So, what I’m focusing on for 2012 is my spiritual life coach certification, reaching my goal weight and just staying positive and building my confidence in God and myself! I’m so excited about all the things that have happened this year and all the wonderful things coming in 2012!  I truly encourage you to do this for yourself and take the time to think about what you’d like to see and accomoplish in the coming year. You won’t regret it!  Please feel free to leave comments or ask questions or leave a picture of your own vision board.  I look forward to starting a wonderful New Year with you!

Proverbs 29:18 (MSG) If people can’t see what God is doing, they stumble all over themselves; But when they attend to what he reveals, they are most blessed.

Be blessed & encouraged!

Shannon


Why Not You?

Hi!

So one of my life goals is to teach women God’s truth about sex. Before I surrendered my life to Christ, I had sex outside of marriage for all the wrong reasons.  I realized that I was trying to compensate for some things that were missing from my life.  My father wasn’t around, I had no self-confidence, no self-esteem and I thought sex would help me forget my issues or solve some of them.  Sex was a horrible substitute for God!  I truly feel that a lot of women have sex outside of marriage for some of the same reasons and also because of plain ignorance of the truth.  No one ever told me to wait until marriage to have sex.

Even though I’m in a much better place emotionally (Praise God!) there are still 2 things that I struggle with and that’s confidence and fear.  I have my days when I feel very confident and can laugh in the face of fear and then there are days when those things get the best of me.  To help me deal with these two issues, I will be reading a book by Valorie Burton called, Why Not You? 28 Days to Authentic Confidence.  I love Valorie! I’ve had the awesome privilege of meeting her and chatting with her and I think she’s just great and I truly admire her.

So, if anyone out there is having a few confidence or fear issues, please join me! Let’s trust God for our confidence, purpose, and self-esteem!  And especially if you’re using sex or anything else other than God for completion or to define you and/or your purpose.  God is the only one who can fill the void and emptiness that you’re feeling! Not a man, not sex, not food, and not shopping!

I will be updating the blog each day on my insights to each chapter and the things I’m learning and finding out about myself as well as victories!  There are a lot of things I’m praying for in the coming year and I refuse to let lack of confidence or fear steal my opportunities from me!  I’ve overcome some of them and I’m looking forward to more victories! Let me know if you plan to join me!

Be blessed & encouraged!

Shannon


What’s Your Vision for 2012?

Have you guys started thinking about 2012?  Your vision, your goals?  I have and I’m excited about what the future holds!!! Well, if you haven’t, I’m here to help you get on track, get focused and yes, make some things happen!

Ok, so 2 years ago I made a Vision Board.  What’s a Vision Board you ask?  For me, it’s a board that has pics and words of inspiration and encouragement that will help me to focus on my hopes, dreams, and goals for the year that I hope to see come to pass.  You can add pics of you, words, cut outs from inspirational cards, magazine pics, whatever!  It’s your board and it’s meant to inspire and encourage you as well as to help you keep your focus on your goals.  I really enjoy creating my vision board.  It’s exciting!  I get to sit down and really think about me for a change and my needs and my wants and my specific dreams, goals and visions for myself.  No one has to approve of it or like it or be inspired by it but me! 🙂

Interested?  Good! Let’s get started!!  First, write down your visions, goals, dreams.  Writing things down makes them real and really helps you to fine tune them.  It’s ok if you don’t know them right away.  If you have to take a few days (I recommend no more than 3!) to think about them that’s fine, just don’t take too long.  You’re doing this for you!

Next, start looking for pictures or words that will inspire you to focus on your vision/goals.  If you want, get a group of friends together and have a vision board party! It’s great to have people around you who will encourage you and hold you accountable as well!  So, for the past week, I have been browsing through magazines and folding down pages with words or pictures that I want to use to add to my board.  Once you find your pics, spread them out and decide how you want to arrange them on your board.  You can add a picture or write one word in the center of the board and have pics surrounding that word or add a pic of yourself to the center of the board and add pics around the pic of you.  This is your board so do whatever works for you!

Lastly, hang the board in a place where you will see it daily!  I have mine in my bathroom.  Whenever I go,  😉 I see my goals and visions and it helps me to keep my focus throughout the day.  I truly like having mine in the bathroom because when I get up in the morning it’s one of the first things I see and it helps me get my mind set on my goals for the day and inspires and encourages me to keep going!

Below is a video that I believe will give you a little more guidance as to getting your vision board together.  I will post a picture of mine once I’m done!  Also, I’d love to see what you come up with, we can pray and keep each other encouraged and inspired!

Be blessed & encouraged!

Shannon


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