Scattered & Splattered!


The past 2 weeks have been challenging for me.  I feel as if I’m all over the place and dealing with a ton of emotions, to-do’s, not-to-do’s, spiritual warfare, the whole shebang! While I do love the holiday season, it can be challenging for me because I’m reminded of my mom, who passed 6 years ago, and how much I miss her and my family in general.  Also, just a little worn out from the spiritual warfare that comes along with being obedient to God.  Fighting lies from the enemy and my own self sabotaging thoughts that come to mind, have to be nipped quickly and being mindful of this and taking thoughts captive can be exhausting after a while. I know that the battle is not ours but we still have to take our thoughts captive and when you’re bombarded, it’s like an intense sword fight!

Also this week I delivered some Christmas gift bags to Peace Place and doing this was awesome! I’ve always wanted to do something like this and am grateful to have had the opportunity to fulfill a dream of mine! Needless to say, this week has been one filled with ups and downs and that’s why I feel so scattered and splattered!

In continuing my reading of Why Not You? by Valorie Burton, I came to a section at the end of the chapter, “Face Your Fears and Insecurities” and there’s this list of questions that are very thought-provoking.  As I read through them and started thinking about the answers, I felt myself start to slow down and really think about what’s going on and refocus on my goals and vision for myself.  I’m even going to break this down in to 2 columns: Career and Relationships, and answer the questions as they pertain to both.  SN, there may be some relationships that may need to be let go of, strengthened or pursued. So here are the questions. If you’ve been feeling a little scattered and splattered yourself, hopefully we can get back on track together!

  1. Honestly, do I really want to do this? If so, why? What’s my purpose in it?
  2. What does my inner voice-the voice of the Holy Spirit-tell me?
  3. What’s keeping me from standing up fully and confidently in this situation?
  4. What am I afraid of? (Our job is not to pretend fear doesn’t exist or to run and hide from it; our job is to be strong and courageous in unearthing the fear so we can confront and conquer it.)
  5. What doubts hinder me right now? What’s the truth about each of those doubts?
  6. Who will I need to become in order to achieve the goal or vision set before me?
  7. What will it feel like to stand fully in who I am?
  8. How do I want to feel in the situation in which I am lacking confidence?
  9. What will I have to do differently in order for success to come more easily?
  10. What opportunity for growth is before me right now?
  11. What will it take for me to embrace this opportunity for growth?

Using this list, I’m going to get myself back on track and continue to plan for great things to come in the next few weeks and in the new year! I’m also going to go and sit and stare at my vision board to help me refocus as well. Onward & Upward!

*Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.*

Be blessed & encouraged,



Why Not You?: Day 2

Good Evening!  I have to admit that I let my confidence in God’s ability slip today.  I got wrapped up in my abilities and my limitations that I just totally ignored the fact that I have an awesome God who’s more than capable of providing for me.

So, in case you didn’t know, my goal is to become a Certified Life Coach and I’ve been exploring different schools and programs and they are pretty pricey.  I’ve narrowed my list down to 3 choices.  I started comparing the schools and then I started focusing on the money that I don’t have to pay for the certification program and then my mind started reeling! I started thinking of ways that I could raise the money, sell cupcakes, pies, cookies, go work in a grocery store, maybe do a fish fry, anything! (LOL @ the fish fry!) So, after getting frustrated with myself I picked up Valorie’s Book, Why Not You? and started to read chapter 2 which is “Know that Authentic Confidence Attracts Success” and right off the bat I’m convicted of my stressing and trying to figure out something that God has already worked out! I know that this is what I’m called to do and I’m confident in this but for a fleeting moment, I started getting my panties in a bunch because I couldn’t figure out how I was going to make this happen!  So, I keep reading and here are a few things that I read that totally boosted me out of my funk that I was in and totally reminded me that by me walking in my God-given purpose that I can have confidence in knowing that God can orchestrate my life through His awesome favor!

*Authentic Confidence is about what God can do through me, in me, and for me. Immediately everything is taken off of me! All I have to do is trust God that if He brought me to this, surely He will make a way for me to get through this and succeed!

*Knowing that God is with me is my key to authentic confidence.  Authentic confidence is my complete trust that what I offer to this world is valuable, meaningful, and divinely unique! Do you feel this way about yourself?

*Authentic confidence=self-confidence+faith

*Two essentials of confidence are faith and trust in God-trust that He will make available to me the resources I need (BINGO!!!!) and my ability to communicate effectively! My calling as a spiritual life coach has already been taken care of by the ONE who called me to do so! So now why am I worrying?

If what you’re trying to accomplish is God’s will for your life, trust that He has already paved the way, we just have to follow HIM!!

Be blessed & encouraged,



Why Not You?: Day 1


I’m reading Valorie Burton’s book, “Why Not You: 28 Days to Authentic Confidence and I will be sharing my journey with you through this blog.

So I’ve read the intro and Day 1 Take Stock of Yourself and already I have underlined and taken tons of notes! There are some things in the introduction that jump off the page at me as if God is really trying to get me to understand some things about Him that I just never realized or thought of before or that I just wouldn’t even think of.  God is not complicated! I think sometimes we make Him impersonal and out of touch and He’s not.  Sometimes I’m super aware of His presence! He’s sooooo wonderful! We make Him complicated because His love for us is so great that sometimes it does seem too good to be true that He, God, wants us to succeed and grow and thrive and “have life abundantly”!

The ideals go against the grain and against tradition of what we’re told. The lies that we have to act a certain way, associate ourselves with certain people of stature, dress a certain way, go to this school or drive this car have been blown out of the water in this book! Just reading the intro and the first chapter I already feel empowered and feel a lightness in my heart.  So below I’m going to list some of my notes that I’ll definitely be pouring over for the next 28 days.

*I have within me everything I need to begin living the purpose for which I was created! – This sticks out to me because I know what my calling is and I’m very passionate about it but have been feeling as if I’m missing something, that I don’t quite have everything I need to just start.  Suffice it to say, this statement alone is powerful for me!

*”It’s our confidence in Him that bolsters our confidence and belief in ourselves.  Knowing that God created you and wants to use you also means acknowledging that He accepts you as you are.  Simultaneously, He’s offering you daily opportunities to grow into more of the person He created you to be.  He accepts you, despite the criticisms, doubts, or insecurities you may impose on yourself and the obstacles you erect for yourself. (Why Not You? pg. 5) – Wow!!!!!  This made me really think! When I’m doubting myself and being hesitant in moving forward in the calling that I have on my life, am I really trusting God’s Word or am I trusting in my fleeting confidence?! God says that He will never leave us nor forsake us and He means it! He can’t lie! He’s God! So when I put my trust, faith and confidence in Him then, my confidence is amped because I know that He has my back! Then, the fact that He wants to use me and He accepts me, I could stop reading this book now and be on cloud 9! I never really thought about it in these terms, God wanting to use me and He accepts me even if I don’t feel worthy or usable or accepted.  It doesn’t matter because God sees all those things in me because He created me as such! I have learned that doubt is the greatest obstacle that I can erect for myself. Especially because I know that God has called me and I know what He has called me to do! Doubt = Delay!

*Strengthening my confidence empowers me to say yes to God consistently and without hesitation!

*Who I am right now is enough!!!!!!!!!!!  I am enough because God is enough! Ladies if you’re compromising your beliefs and your morals and your purity because you feel as if it will make this guy love, value, or appreciate you, STOP! You’re enough right now and if he can’t accept it, then HE’S NOT THE ONE! The man who God gives you to will not cause you to sin, he will protect you and cover you! You are fine now! You don’t have to have sex with him!

*The truth is, we’ll never really be successful doing anything other than the things each of us were uniquely and specially created to do.  Did you get that? I did! To me it means all the different jobs I’ve had and the businesses I started most likely failed because I was not doing what I was uniquely and specially created to do! It makes so much sense to me now! I’d be excited about a new venture but 2 weeks later would be bored senseless or just feel out of sorts! Stop trying to be someone you’re not or doing what you think people want you to do. Ask God for your purpose, trust God to bring you to your husband, trust God to show you the way. He definitely will!

*If your dream involves something God created you to do, you’ll always be good enough to do it. I don’t know about you but knowing this is so freeing!

*Confidence, ultimately, is about trust….trust God’s ability to orchestrate your life! You don’t have to go beating down doors or “grinding” your life away! The world “grinds” God’s children trust and obey! God knows what He has for you (Jeremiah 29:11) so why not trust Him to show you the way?

*Doubt…steals your confidence and your dreams. It causes you to shrink from who you are.  I immediately thought of Eve in the Garden of Eden when I read this.  The serpent planted doubt in her mind.  She was there with God and had everything she could ever want or need and she succumbed to doubt.  The rest is history….

*Believing that you’re not enough will create a fear that paralyzes and keeps you from building fully on what you do have enough of. Nuff said! 😉

*There’s perfection in your imperfections.  Sometimes your purpose will come from the pains in your life.  My purpose came from the pains in my life. God uses those.  He’s purposeful! What Satan meant to take you out, God can and will use for your good if you will allow Him too!

Confidence Journal:

In what ways do I want to be different at the completion of this 28 day journey? I want to trust that God has my back consistently, no hesitation.  No doubts. I want to push through my fears and move forward. Onward & Upward! I am enough!

Be blessed & encouraged,



Why Not You?


So one of my life goals is to teach women God’s truth about sex. Before I surrendered my life to Christ, I had sex outside of marriage for all the wrong reasons.  I realized that I was trying to compensate for some things that were missing from my life.  My father wasn’t around, I had no self-confidence, no self-esteem and I thought sex would help me forget my issues or solve some of them.  Sex was a horrible substitute for God!  I truly feel that a lot of women have sex outside of marriage for some of the same reasons and also because of plain ignorance of the truth.  No one ever told me to wait until marriage to have sex.

Even though I’m in a much better place emotionally (Praise God!) there are still 2 things that I struggle with and that’s confidence and fear.  I have my days when I feel very confident and can laugh in the face of fear and then there are days when those things get the best of me.  To help me deal with these two issues, I will be reading a book by Valorie Burton called, Why Not You? 28 Days to Authentic Confidence.  I love Valorie! I’ve had the awesome privilege of meeting her and chatting with her and I think she’s just great and I truly admire her.

So, if anyone out there is having a few confidence or fear issues, please join me! Let’s trust God for our confidence, purpose, and self-esteem!  And especially if you’re using sex or anything else other than God for completion or to define you and/or your purpose.  God is the only one who can fill the void and emptiness that you’re feeling! Not a man, not sex, not food, and not shopping!

I will be updating the blog each day on my insights to each chapter and the things I’m learning and finding out about myself as well as victories!  There are a lot of things I’m praying for in the coming year and I refuse to let lack of confidence or fear steal my opportunities from me!  I’ve overcome some of them and I’m looking forward to more victories! Let me know if you plan to join me!

Be blessed & encouraged!