Is This You?


proberbs for living

So, I’m doing the Proverbs challenge this month and this has been blessing me! Only on Day 7 but I’ve been getting so much out of the book of Proverbs and am excited for all that I’m going to learn as the days progress.  What’s really stuck out to me is how much emphasis is put on wisdom and understanding.  In Proverbs, wisdom and understanding are considered more valuable that gold, silver, rubies or anything you think you may desire! Talk about a change in perspective! The world tells us to go after the riches and wealth, but the Word of God tells us in all of our getting, get wisdom and understanding.  Now, what has also jumped out at me is how much a son of God is warned about the immoral woman.  I’m only on Day 7 and in Proverbs 5, 6 and all of 7 is dedicated to warning about the immoral woman.

Please see scriptures below:

Proverbs 5 (NLT)

My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
    listen carefully to my wise counsel.
Then you will show discernment,
    and your lips will express what you’ve learned.
For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
    and her mouth is smoother than oil.
But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
    as dangerous as a double-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death;
    her steps lead straight to the grave.[a]
For she cares nothing about the path to life.
    She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.

So now, my sons, listen to me.
    Never stray from what I am about to say:
Stay away from her!
    Don’t go near the door of her house!
If you do, you will lose your honor
    and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
    and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
11 In the end you will groan in anguish
    when disease consumes your body.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
    If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
13 Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
    Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?
14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin,
    and now I must face public disgrace.”

15 Drink water from your own well—
    share your love only with your wife.[b]
16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
    having sex with just anyone?[c]
17 You should reserve it for yourselves.
    Never share it with strangers.

18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
    Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
    Let her breasts satisfy you always.
    May you always be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
    or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?

Proverbs 6 (NLT)

21 For the Lord sees clearly what a man does,
    examining every path he takes.
22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
    they are ropes that catch and hold him.
23 He will die for lack of self-control;
    he will be lost because of his great foolishness.

24 It will keep you from the immoral woman,
    from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman.
25 Don’t lust for her beauty.
    Don’t let her coy glances seduce you.
26 For a prostitute will bring you to poverty,[b]
    but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life.
27 Can a man scoop a flame into his lap
    and not have his clothes catch on fire?
28 Can he walk on hot coals
    and not blister his feet?
29 So it is with the man who sleeps with another man’s wife.
    He who embraces her will not go unpunished.

30 Excuses might be found for a thief
    who steals because he is starving.
31 But if he is caught, he must pay back seven times what he stole,
    even if he has to sell everything in his house.
32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool,
    for he destroys himself.
33 He will be wounded and disgraced.
    His shame will never be erased.
34 For the woman’s jealous husband will be furious,
    and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.
35 He will accept no compensation,
    nor be satisfied with a payoff of any size.

Proverbs 7 NLT

Follow my advice, my son;
    always treasure my commands.
Obey my commands and live!
    Guard my instructions as you guard your own eyes.[a]
Tie them on your fingers as a reminder.
    Write them deep within your heart.

Love wisdom like a sister;
    make insight a beloved member of your family.
Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman,
    from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman.

While I was at the window of my house,
    looking through the curtain,
I saw some naive young men,
    and one in particular who lacked common sense.
He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman,
    strolling down the path by her house.
It was at twilight, in the evening,
    as deep darkness fell.
10 The woman approached him,
    seductively dressed and sly of heart.
11 She was the brash, rebellious type,
    never content to stay at home.
12 She is often in the streets and markets,
    soliciting at every corner.
13 She threw her arms around him and kissed him,
    and with a brazen look she said,
14 “I’ve just made my peace offerings
    and fulfilled my vows.
15 You’re the one I was looking for!
    I came out to find you, and here you are!
16 My bed is spread with beautiful blankets,
    with colored sheets of Egyptian linen.
17 I’ve perfumed my bed
    with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18 Come, let’s drink our fill of love until morning.
    Let’s enjoy each other’s caresses,
19 for my husband is not home.
    He’s away on a long trip.
20 He has taken a wallet full of money with him
    and won’t return until later this month.[b]

21 So she seduced him with her pretty speech
    and enticed him with her flattery.
22 He followed her at once,
    like an ox going to the slaughter.
He was like a stag caught in a trap,[c]
23     awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart.
He was like a bird flying into a snare,
    little knowing it would cost him his life.

24 So listen to me, my sons,
    and pay attention to my words.
25 Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her.
    Don’t wander down her wayward path.
26 For she has been the ruin of many;
    many men have been her victims.
27 Her house is the road to the grave.[d]
    Her bedroom is the den of death.

Yes, I posted the whole thing! Now, that you’ve gotten your Bible reading time in, I ask this question; Is this you? Are you the immoral woman that a son should be warned about? Are you going after a married man, hoping that you can fill whatever need his wife supposedly isn’t fulfilling and in turn, he will leave her for you? Are you the one who gets dressed in hopes of enticing a man, getting his attention and giving him all of your body, fulfilling his sexual desires, only for you both to be totally empty in the end? Is this your goal, to break your brother down to nothing, all so that you can feel as if you have power, purpose, meaning, significance? Are you the woman that parents are warning their sons about?

I understand wanting to look good. I know there’s tremendous pressure to be sexy by the world’s standards.  Look at the TV shows: Pretty Little Liars, The Mistresses, reality TV shows that encourage this behavior.  I see it and am very aware of it but we, women of God, are called to be the opposite! Being sexy is no where in the Bible.  Being sexy is not a requirement of God! He warns his sons against a woman whose goal is basically to entice, conquer and ruin! If you’re trying to get a man this way, please stop, this is not what you want.  A good, godly man is not looking for what he sees on TV.  He’s looking for the woman described in 1 Peter 3:3-6 and Proverbs 31:10-31.

Basically, to sum it all up, going about getting a man this way is prostitution.  Think about it, it’s the weekend and you put on the tightest, most revealing outfit you have and heels you can barely walk in and you go out seeking attention hoping that someone will buy you a drink, pay for your meal or show some sort of interest, face it, this is what prostitutes do.  You might not have sex, but you’re still using your body to get what you want. This was not God’s plan for His precious daughters! We were meant to be protected, guarded, hidden. He loves us! He’s given us abilities that men will never have! He’s entrusted us with the gift of childbirth, which is us using our precious bodies to assist God in bringing new life into this world! Our bodies are remarkable, yet we treat them as if there nothing.  We are not our own, if you profess to know Christ and love Him and He lives in you, this should not be you!

You can dress to impress without showing everything that God has given you and you certainly don’t want to repel the one that you’re looking for! There’s so many sites and YouTube channels that promote modesty and how to dress modestly yet fashionably. One of my mentees has an awesome YouTube channel that shares about purity and fashion. To check her out, click here.   Learn to be yourself  and be comfortable with who you are. Not trying to snag a man by how you look but learn to wait patiently with God, for God to bring you to your man, not someone else’s man, your man. Remember, these guys are your brothers in Christ, do you really want to be the cause of your brother falling? Our men have a huge battle to fight each and every day with the evils of this world, don’t add to his struggles.

It’s not too late to join in on the Proverbs challenge! You will surely be blessed!

Be blessed & encouraged,