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Answer to Emptiness

Everywhere you look, there seems to be an answer to your emptiness.  If you have this job, car, house.  If you are married with 2 kids and a dog.  If you are this size and look this way, wear these clothes.  Eat like this, move like that, hang out with them, go here, say this, do this, read this, watch this! None of it means anything! All of this is just a distraction to keep us away from God!

My struggles with emptiness are no different, honestly married or single, there will be some sort of emptiness.  Why? Because without Jesus, there’s no fulfillment.  You can be married to the most wonderful guy in the world and still feel that something’s missing.  If you don’t have Jesus, then what’s the point?  He’s the creator of all, He has the owner’s manual, He knows how things are supposed to work.  If we don’t do things according to the owner’s manual, then we won’t get the full effect of what we have.  We have to learn that no thing or person will ever take the place of Jesus.  That’s how we were created, left with room for Him in our hearts and it can only be filled by Him.  I used to try to fill this emptiness with sex and food, but that led to so many problems and heartaches! Sex outside of its intended purpose leaves you feeling emptier than you were before. So you try again with another person thinking that oh, this dude was just lame. Then, the next guy fails and you try another, yet you’re still empty.

Jesus knows all that you’ve done and all that you’re going to do, yet He still says “come to me”.  He didn’t come to condemn, but to love…unconditionally.

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Romans 8:1

King James Version (KJV)

8 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

So, what if you have Jesus and you still feel this emptiness? That mean’s you’ve spent too much time away from Him and He wants you to come and sit still and be filled with Him. No pressure, no judgement, no scolding, just love.

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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No Regrets!

no regretsOk, a moment of realness here!

Live your life now in a way that you will have no regrets when you’re married. You want to be a wife, start acting like one now!!  The man who God has set aside for you will have your heart.  You will be so in love with him! He will be all that you need and want spiritually and physically.  You will think about all the guys you’ve given yourself away to and will regret all that you allowed them to do to you.  You will regret letting them see what was meant for your husband.  You will wish that he’d been the only one who’s seen you naked, who’s touched your body, whose known you intimately.  What you do now matters!

You are not a car! You don’t need to test drive or be test driven to see if you’re a good fit with some guy.  Trusting God, you will never be disappointed! He created you and your future husband.  He knows how He created your vagina and how He created his penis.  He knows what you both will enjoy sexually.  He created the gift of sex and He created you! You have one body, save it for your husband.  Let him enjoy you and love you in a way that no one else ever will and you will be free of shame and guilt and be free to enjoy him.

Be blessed & encouraged!

Shannon

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Happy New Year!!

beautiful golden fireworks exploding over a dark night sky

 

Hi! I’ve been on a writing break for the past few weeks and now, I’m ready for 2013!  This year has been awesome and I’m grateful for your support and following.  My prayer is that the words that came from my heart, my life,  have had a positive impact on your life.  I pray that you’ve made the decision to follow Christ, to keep yourself pure and go against the grain and be proud that you’re Savin’ it for Hubby!

In 2013, I want to focus more on marriage preparation and the consequences of having sex outside of marriage.  Say you didn’t get pregnant or contract an STD, sex outside of marriage still has negative effects on your marriage as well as you as a person; your self-esteem, self-confidence.  I will have several series throughout the year so stay tuned!

The New Year is a new beginning.  A chance to start over and do things differently.  Start your year of with a clean slate, sin and guilt free by giving your heart, soul, your life to Christ! His mercies are new everyday (Lamentations 3:22-23) He came to give us life, not to condemn us. He loves us with an everlasting, unconditional, unmeasurable love!  I wish you all that you hope for and more in 2013!

Happy New Year! May God bless and keep you!

Be blessed and encouraged,

Shannon

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Dating: Helpful or Harmful?

When I was single, I couldn’t wait for my next date.  To be wined and dined and doted on and have whomever the lucky guy was undivided attention.  Each date led to something being revealed that I didn’t like about the guy or I found out he was just in it for sex.  Unfortunately, I gave in which led to more problems than I care to admit.  Dating supposedly is set up to see if we’re compatible with someone, and we all want to make sure we’re compatible but really all it does is feed a spirit of discontentment.  I feel that it contributes to the high rate of divorce.  It teaches us that if we get married and the guy does something we don’t like, we just divorce them and move on.  Marriage is a covenant relationship, not a contract.  You become one when you get married.  Why is it so easy for some people to divorce themselves? It’s because they went into the marriage with the wrong idea or no idea about marriage.  Some are just in love with the idea of marriage and totally are not prepared for what happens after “I do”. More on this later, now back to dating.

Follow me for a moment.  When you date, your ultimate goal is to find your spouse, right? Well, I’m married now and I LOVE my husband but let me tell you, marriage can be hard.  It’s a lot of work.  There are days that I don’t like my husband, or he’ll do or say something that I don’t like or hurt my feelings (he’s a man and he’s human, it’s going to happen in marriage, trust me!) or I may say or do something that ticks him off (which does happen in marriage, trust me!). As I said before, satan is watching and waiting for an opportunity to pounce.  On a bad day, if you’re not taking your thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10:5), memories of guys from your past will pop up.  Your mind will begin to wonder and things you’ve done with him, things he’s said to you, how he made you feel, how he touched you or kissed you.  Then, you start to look at your hubby and start comparing and wondering….why doesn’t he make me feel like such and such, or why doesn’t he do this, say this, or act this way.  This happens! Marriage is beautiful but you will be tested! As I’ve said before, the enemy doesn’t fight fair.

Dating to find your “soul mate” is not the way to go.  It sets you up for failure.  You won’t get to your future hubby any faster. Let God do that for you.  If you do, when you get married, you will have less ammo for the enemy to use against you. That’s why God gave us His word, so that we will know what to do.  He gave it to us for our protection. He knows that the enemy is out to steal, kill and destroy.  Don’t give in to what feels good or looks good now. Think about your future and what you really want and act accordingly.

When I met my hubby, we were in college.  He moved in with me, we “shacked up” and boy did God get our attention.  We both grew up where everyone we knew lived with others married or not.  We started going to church together and learned the truth.  Not long after he moved in, I lost my job, he was in a car accident and totaled his car, my car broke down and I didn’t have the money to get it fixed, and then we were evicted! God provided wise counsel and we were told that we needed to either get married or not live together.  So hubby and I prayed and God led the way.  He provided all that we needed; the rings, my dress, venue.  God totally worked it out.  When you get in line with His vision and do things His way, He will definitely take care of you and make a way but you have to trust Him.

So, what’s the alternative to dating.  Prayer and hanging out or going out in groups.  God will show you and lead you through the rest.  If your future hubby is in that group, God will work it out so that you can get to know each other better.  Just trust Him, trust Him, trust Him!!!

I found a more in-depth article on dating here!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

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So, You Messed Up…Again….

So, you messed up…again. Well, there is hope for those of us who have surrendered their life to Christ and accepted Him as Lord & Savior! Is Jesus YOUR Lord & Savior??

God’s Law Reveals Our Sin

7 Well then, am I suggesting that the law of God is sinful? Of course not! In fact, it was the law that showed me my sin. I would never have known that coveting is wrong if the law had not said, “You must not covet.”t8 But sin used this command to arouse all kinds of covetous desires within me! If there were no law, sin would not have that power.9 At one time I lived without understanding the law. But when I learned the command not to covet, for instance, the power of sin came to life,10 and I died. So I discovered that the law’s commands, which were supposed to bring life, brought spiritual death instead.11 Sin took advantage of those commands and deceived me; it used the commands to kill me.

12 But still, the law itself is holy, and its commands are holy and right and good.

13 But how can that be? Did the law, which is good, cause my death? Of course not! Sin used what was good to bring about my condemnation to death. So we can see how terrible sin really is. It uses God’s good commands for its own evil purposes.

Struggling with Sin

14 So the trouble is not with the law, for it is spiritual and good. The trouble is with me, for I am all too human, a slave to sin.15 I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate.16 But if I know that what I am doing is wrong, this shows that I agree that the law is good.

17 So I am not the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.
18 And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature.t I want to do what is right, but I can’t.19 I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway.

20 But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.
21 I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong.22 I love God’s law with all my heart.23 But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me.24 Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death?

25 Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.

Romans, Chapter 8

Life in the Spirit

1 So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.2 And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death.3 The law of Moses was unable to save us because of the weakness of our sinful nature.t So God did what the law could not do. He sent his own Son in a body like the bodies we sinners have. And in that body God declared an end to sin’s control over us by giving his Son as a sacrifice for our sins.

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon

***Bible verses courtesy of http://www.youversion.com***