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Of Highest Regard

Bracelet pure messgaeHi!! So in the next 4 days of the Scripture Writing Plan, we’re taking a little trip to the Old Testament.  I included these scriptures because I wanted us to take a look at just how seriously sexual sin was taken during this time.  Virginity was held in very high regard and was what defined a woman, and determined her eligibility for marriage. All parties were held accountable, the young woman, her parents, the man and even the elders of the city. Virginity was a big deal and being found not having her “virginity” intact was a disgrace to the woman and her family.

During this period of time, the bedding that was used during the wedding night, was kept by her parents as proof of her fidelity.  The blood showed proof that her husband was her first sexual partner because of her hymen that was broken during their first sexual experience.  Once this was examined and proved by the elders of the city, the husband was fined because he accused her of not being a virgin or not satisfying him anymore, therefore giving her a bad name.

God gave the responsibility of protection to the men, her father and her husband.  Before marriage, it is the duty of the parents to protect the purity of their family, especially the man. How terribly different our world is today!! There’s no regard for purity, virginity at all! None! Our men are taken out by various sins, hurts and ignorance, never truly knowing the great call that has been placed on their lives as priests and protectors.

I won’t go into too much detail because I want Holy Spirit to reveal much to you and I pray that we as daughters of the King come to understand just how strongly God feels about us, about our purity, bodies, how precious virginity is.  For some of us, not knowing this has caused us to learn a lot of things the hard way but praise God it’s never too late to start treasuring our bodies and thank Him for redemption and restoration!! It is now our responsibility walk worthy and accordingly and teach our sisters and daughters the TRUTH of who they are and were created to be! I look forward to hearing what revelation you get on this journey!!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


38 Things I’ve Learned In My 38 years of Life

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  1. God is….(whatever you need Him to be :-))
  2. Guarding your heart is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
  3. Health is definitely wealth.
  4. People are people are people.
  5. You can only change you!
  6. Sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing and sometimes the best thing you can say is nothing.
  7. No matter how much wisdom or wise counsel you give, ultimately, people will do what they want to do.
  8. People will ask for your advice and still go do something stupid.
  9. Guilt can always be seen on a person’s face.
  10. People, situations and some circumstances are seasonal and that’s perfectly fine!
  11. You won’t always get what you give.
  12. You can’t put your expectations on others.
  13. You are responsible for your own happiness.
  14. No human will and isn’t supposed to “complete” you.
  15. Pain can definitely become your purpose.
  16. Not everyone is your friend, they’re really an acquaintance.
  17. A person will avoid telling you things because they know that what you’ll say isn’t what they want to hear.
  18. Life sucks sometimes but it could be a lot worse.
  19. Sex outside of marriage never satisfies and it never will.
  20. There’s no such thing as perfection on this side of heaven.
  21. Being different is a great thing!
  22. People really are a blessing or a lesson, geez!!
  23. Always  check your circle!
  24. People will dislike you for something that’s in their own heart.
  25. It doesn’t hurt to smile 🙂
  26. Sometimes the best thing you can do is listen, nothing more, nothing less.
  27. It pays to be observant.
  28. You get along better with perfect strangers sometimes better than your own family.
  29. You can’t want greater for another person more than they want it for themselves.
  30. Truth will repel those who aren’t ready/willing to hear it.
  31. Kindness always wins.
  32. It’s painful to check yourself but so very necessary.
  33. Children have selective hearing!
  34. Marriage is work!
  35. Family definitely doesn’t always mean biological.
  36. Learning from others mistakes is priceless.
  37. Loving others is risky but beautiful.
  38. The only way someone can steal your joy is if you allow it!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


Everything!

depend on GodAs a woman of God, whether single or married, you have to get to a place in your life where you know how to go to God for EVERYTHING!

I mean every need you have be it physically, yes, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Why? Because the people and things in our lives are only meant to compliment our lives, not to become our lives.  Humans can only do and handle so much.  It’s impossible for people to keep up with our every demand, emotion or need.  It’s exhausting! Have you ever tried to be everything to someone? It’s impossible! You will wear yourself out! For instance in marriage or seeking marriage, we often look for someone to be our “knight in shining armor” to “complete us”. These expectations were truly meant for fairy tales.  These are unrealistic expectations that will truly set you up for disappointment.  I learned this the hard way.  In the beginning of our marriage, I expected my husband to love me unconditionally, do what I needed and wanted when I needed it and wanted it done.  I wanted him to be affectionate, loving, make me feel good about myself, make me feel secure, take care of me and always see me as beautiful whether I was looking good physically or not! I wanted him to complete me because I felt so empty. I put all these unrealistic expectations on him that when he failed even once, my life was devastated! Then came the thoughts that tormented me about him not loving me, or caring all because he missed one of my many unrealistic expectations.  He’s a man, he’s human and can only do so much.  The greatest mistake we can make is in looking to find someone to complete us! Not possible.  You are setting yourself up for failure if you’re looking for another incomplete person to complete you! The only One who can complete you is God and thonly One that complete the person you’re seeking to complete you is God.  Two incomplete people equals a whole lot of mess!

See, there’s a place for people and things in our lives and there’s a place for God.  We try and try to fill God’s portion with people and things but as God would have it, nothing or no one will ever come close to filling His part, but Him.  He did this purposely so we would always depend on Him.  We were created for Him! Now, having learned this lesson, I receive what love and devotion that my husband can give in his human self. Whatever I feel may be lacking for some reason or another, depending on the day it is, (because we women are emotional creatures), I know how to go to God and ask that He fill or help me to deal with what I feel that I’m missing. I’ve also learned to go to God first to fill me so that what love and affection I receive from my husband and children and those around me are just beautiful bonuses. So if one day I don’t get what I need from the people in my life, it doesn’t devastate me, I have God and have been filled by Him.  When I need to be held and hubby isn’t feeling all lovey dovey, God takes care of it in His own way.  God knows me better than I know myself so He knows exactly how to take care of me.

We all need to get to  a place in life where we teach ourselves to go to God first, then, He takes care of the rest be it through people, things or Him.  Don’t put unrealistic expectations on people and things.  You will live your life in great disappointment. Depend on God for everything and you will never be disappointed!

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


Answer to Emptiness

Everywhere you look, there seems to be an answer to your emptiness.  If you have this job, car, house.  If you are married with 2 kids and a dog.  If you are this size and look this way, wear these clothes.  Eat like this, move like that, hang out with them, go here, say this, do this, read this, watch this! None of it means anything! All of this is just a distraction to keep us away from God!

My struggles with emptiness are no different, honestly married or single, there will be some sort of emptiness.  Why? Because without Jesus, there’s no fulfillment.  You can be married to the most wonderful guy in the world and still feel that something’s missing.  If you don’t have Jesus, then what’s the point?  He’s the creator of all, He has the owner’s manual, He knows how things are supposed to work.  If we don’t do things according to the owner’s manual, then we won’t get the full effect of what we have.  We have to learn that no thing or person will ever take the place of Jesus.  That’s how we were created, left with room for Him in our hearts and it can only be filled by Him.  I used to try to fill this emptiness with sex and food, but that led to so many problems and heartaches! Sex outside of its intended purpose leaves you feeling emptier than you were before. So you try again with another person thinking that oh, this dude was just lame. Then, the next guy fails and you try another, yet you’re still empty.

Jesus knows all that you’ve done and all that you’re going to do, yet He still says “come to me”.  He didn’t come to condemn, but to love…unconditionally.

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Romans 8:1

King James Version (KJV)

8 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

So, what if you have Jesus and you still feel this emptiness? That mean’s you’ve spent too much time away from Him and He wants you to come and sit still and be filled with Him. No pressure, no judgement, no scolding, just love.

Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


Keeping Kids Warm Project!

Each year thousands of Metro-Atlanta school children go through the cold winter season without the appropriate clothing to keep them warm. According to Atlanta’s Homeless Task Force, children under the age of 9 years old are the fastest growing homeless population. Here in Atlanta, children are the poorest–there are more children that live in poverty in Atlanta than any other city in the U.S. For Mindi Coleman, Founder of the Keeping Kids Warm Project (KKWP), addressing the needs of Atlanta’s underprivileged children is a top priority.

Created in 2006 and because of the warm and generous heart of our supporters, the KKWP has kept over 3,000 children warm. We will continue to work to ensure that Atlanta’s underprivileged children, receive new hats and gloves and nutritious snacks, such as oatmeal, to help them keep warm and healthy during the frigid winter season.

This winter, the 6th Annual Keeping Kids Warm Project will help keep 500 children warm with a new hat and glove set.

In order to do this, KKWP needs your help with:

500 NEW hat & glove sets, 1000 packs of instant oatmeal (each child receives 2 packs), 1000 packs of hot chocolate (each child receives 2 packs), 500 candy canes, 300 bottled waters, Pizza for 300 children

The annual KKWP event will be hosted at the NFL/YET Boys & Girls Club.

Date: Friday, December 16th, 2011

Time: 4:30pm-5:30pm

Location: 535 Hill Street, SE, Atlanta, GA 30312

 *All donations are tax-deductible. KKWP has partnered with G.A.S.P. Ministries–God’s Angel for Single Parents, a non-profit organization-gaspministries.org.

Kindly make checks and money orders payable to G.A.S.P. Ministries. Indicate in the memo field that your donation is for KKWP 2011.

Mail donation to: Mindi Coleman/KKWP, 2870 Peachtree Rd-Suite 610, NW, Atlanta, GA 30305

If you have any questions, feel free to call Mindi at, 678-825-5597/678-825-KKWP.

Thank you, Mindi Coleman

 Be blessed & encouraged,

Shannon


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