*Disclaimer: this is not all men or all women, ok?*
Ok, so this is what I hear all the time and I know of a contributing factor as to why there are not as many good men out there…it’s because of us women! Yes, I said it and let me tell you why.
Men were created by God to be our protectors, provider and the priest of our home. As women our role is to love and respect the man. None of this is going on in this world. Women are taught, told and want to be independent, not in need of a man, so if you don’t need a man, what’s the point of trying to have one? You’ve taken over his role! Why bother being with you if you have it all together? If you’re independent then what is the man to do? He’s being forced out of his God-given role and now they have become lazy, have no focus, no ambition and no desire to provide, protect or be a priest!
Say you don’t want to be Ms. Independent you want a man, got to have a man, so you dress and do WHATEVER it takes to get him. Well, first understand that you will get what you attract! You dress like a whore, you get treated like one. You become a play thing, a toy, amusement for when he’s bored. Men are stimulated visually. If all you want him to do is desire you sexually, then dress the part and that’s what you’ll get but if you want love and respect, then love and respect yourself! The mind and eyes are sex organs for men. We as women have to remember that! We have a lot of power and God didn’t give it to us to misuse especially to use against His sons, our brothers in Christ. Yes, they are our brothers! When dressing like a prostitute, you’re causing your brother to commit adultery with you in his mind. Would you want someone to cause your biological brother to commit adultery? Then, not only this but in chasing a man down and going out to get him yourself, you take on the responsibility of being God. God’s job is to bring you to your husband when the time is right, not you go out and find him and hunt him down! Men have the innate desire to conquer his woman, when we take that from him, where does that leave him? Our aggressiveness takes away their masculinity.
If a man is married, LEAVE HIM ALONE! Nothing good will come out of it! Would you want someone coming after your husband?
WIVES: TAKE CARE OF YOUR HUSBANDS NEEDS AND YOU WON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT HIM BEING SEDUCED BY A WOMAN WITH NO MORALS!
Bottom line, ladies, know your place. God has a beautiful design and purpose for men and women that works wonderfully if we’ll just stay in our lane. Let a man be a man. Let God be God. You don’t have to dress like a prostitute to get a good man or get attention or affection, that’s God’s job to fill those places. You don’t have to go hunt a man down, God will take care of that for you. Don’t buy into the lie that being sexy and being a seductress demonstrates power and femininity, so not true. This is the total opposite of God’s plan. Focus on the man in your life now, God, and if you don’t have Him, He’s waiting for you!
Be blessed & encouraged,