Who’s Your Hubby?

Is one of your greatest hopes, dreams, wishes…marriage? Finding the perfect hubby, having the perfect kids, perfect family? Well, what if… God’s plan is for you to stay single?  What if His plans to prosper you and give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11) does not include marriage? To never marry a man, never have sex, but to be forever married to Him only?

We are all married to Him, if we have surrendered our lives to Him, but what if you are not supposed to marry, could you handle that?  Are you in a place in your life right now where you could actually say that you have totally surrendered all your hopes, wishes, and dreams to God and trust that whatever He has for you, you know that it’s for your good, He will see you through it and you will ultimately be satisfied with it as long as you keep your eyes on Him?  Have you become so engrossed with the picture of marriage and sex that the thought of letting go of that dream and trusting God with it makes you want to break down and cry?!  Even as a married woman, I still have to lie all of my hopes, wishes and dreams down at His feet and say, Lord, not my will, but yours! Married, single, widowed, divorced, we still have to trust Him and fight for our purity, fight to stay faithful to Him and His Word. Trusting His unconditional, undying, indescribable, all encompassing love for us! Whoo! Honestly, I feel as if I need Him more now in marriage and as a mom than I ever have!

It’s not easy! It’s not easy being married and I know that it’s not easy being single but see when I was single; I didn’t know God, not like I know Him now.  If I knew Him then like I know Him now, I would have known my worth, how loved I am and how precious, beautiful, worthy and awesome I was and am in Him! I’m not saying that you won’t have days where the hormones won’t try to take over but at least you know that you have God and He will help you to deal with those hormones, urges, and temptations.  Now, if you have not surrendered your life to Jesus then, unfortunately you are left to fight those battles on your own, and as a woman who fought them on her own, you will lose! Life is messy and crazy and without God, it’s downright scary! I couldn’t go back to a life without Him; He’s just too good to me!  He is still my husband and He loves me in ways that my husband in his human nature is incapable of. So husband or not, you will still be married to God, the lover of your soul, and that’s not a bad situation at all!

For he loves us with unfailing love; the LORD’s faithfulness endures forever. Praise the LORD!
Jesus replied, “‘You must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’
Long ago the LORD said to Israel: “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.
O Israel, hope in the LORD; for with the LORD there is unfailing love. His redemption overflows.
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good! His faithful love endures forever.

Be blessed and encouraged,



8 thoughts on “Who’s Your Hubby?”

  1. Thanks Shannon for the encouragement! I wonder often if its God’s will for me to be married in the future. I’m 35 yrs. old and I feel that my biological clock is ticking, but the Lord has also revealed to me that I’m not ready at this time. I was listening to 970 AM the other day and they mentioned sometimes our desire for marriage could be a misplaced desire for something else. I’m really not sure if that’s the case, but the desire for marriage is there, I often ponder that if it’s not God’s will for me to be married if I would be ok living with it.


    1. Hi Latrina! That’s interesting about the misplaced desire! You know, I find that if I just sit and think about things and really try to understand why I want the things I want or wonder why they are being prolonged I find that there’s always something else going on. God is purposeful and though it’s hard, we have to trust His timing because if we try to force things, we will mess it up. I can totally testify to this! LOL! I think that’s also what happens with marriage and even with having children. We only see the outside, not the inside. We don’t see the work and sacrifice that goes into it! And marriage and parenting is hard work!!!!!

      Thanks for your comment and your support Latrina!



      1. Thanks for your openess and honesty. I hear alot of married women complain about not having time for themselves due to the demands of their families. I guess things are not as they always seem looking outside in. Keep up the good work with this blog.


      2. Yes, it can be hard to get time for yourself when you’re married and have a family. The thing I think a lot of women have to deal with is realizing we’re worth it, not feeling guilty and then realizing that without that time, we can’t give our best to any responsibility that we have.

        Thanks so much Latrina!!! I really appreciate you stopping by! 😉

        May God continue to bless and keep you!


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